Top 200 Andrew Solomon Quotes (2024 Update)
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151. “The monolithic problem of depression cannot be expressed with a monolithic response; depressions are contextual and must be interpreted within the contexts in which they occur.”

— Andrew Solomon

152. “I think an awful lot of the diplomatic problems that exist in the world come from people assuming that their society is the one with a purchase on truth.”

— Andrew Solomon

153. “If really good people who are deeply committed and who are thriving spiritually have to beat down the nature with which they seem to have been born and cut themselves off from the full realization of love, how can that be pleasing to God?”

— Andrew Solomon

154. “It seems particularly ironic that a church that at one stage, a long time ago, fought to redefine marriage should now be so opposed to these attempts to redefine marriage.”

— Andrew Solomon

155. “If you attach better services to a diagnostic category, some doctors will apply that diagnosis to children from whom it is not entirely appropriate in order to access those services.”

— Andrew Solomon

156. “I hope the Church will examine what is good and what is ill, and what good could be achieved by getting the suicidal, self-destructive, possibly carnal, or celibate to move toward this experience of love.”

— Andrew Solomon

157. “For some parents of children with horizontal identities, acceptance reaches its apogee when parents conclude that while they supposed they were pinioned by a great and catastrophic loss of hope, they were in fact falling in love with someone they didn’t yet know enough to want.”

— Andrew Solomon

158. “In depression, the meaninglessness of every enterprise and every emotion, the meaninglessness of life itself, becomes self-evident. The only feeling left in this loveless state is insignificance. Life.”

— Andrew Solomon

159. “You can exorcise the demons of schizophrenics who perceive that there’s something foreign inside them. But it’s much harder with depressed people because we believe we are seeing the truth. But the truth lies.”

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160. “Life is fraught with sorrows: no matter what we do, we will in the end die; we are, each of us, held in the solitude of an autonomous body; time passes, and what has been will never be again.”

— Andrew Solomon

161. “I encounter a lot of prejudice and a lot of darkness. I have to negotiate constantly through situations that are uncomfortable or difficult or strange.”

— Andrew Solomon

162. “I was in fact anxious about whether I would be any good at being a father. And then I met so many people who had been good parents under difficult circumstances, and I felt inspired by them.”

— Andrew Solomon

163. “Absolute power corrupts absolutely, and no power is more absolute than parenthood.”

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164. “Having anticipated the onward march of our selfish genes, many of us are unprepared for children who present unfamiliar needs. Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger, and the more alien the stranger, the stronger the whiff of negativity.”

— Andrew Solomon

165. “I think what the Church should ideally do, and does appear to do in the context of straight relationships, is to support people in crossing from the easier pleasure of momentary carnal satisfaction, into the more difficult pleasure of love and family and relationship.”

— Andrew Solomon

166. “If you stimulate seizures in an animal every day, the seizures eventually become automatic; the animal will go on having them once a day even if you withdraw the stimulation. In much the same way, the brain that has gone into depression a few times will continue to return to depression over and over. This suggests that depression, even if it is occasioned by external tragedy, ultimately changes the structure, as well as the biochemistry, of the brain.”

— Andrew Solomon

167. “I believe that words are strong, that they can overwhelm what we fear when fear seems more awful than life is good. I have turned, with an increasingly fine attention, to love. Love is the other way forward. They need to go together: by themselves pills are a weak poison, love a blunt knife, insight a rope that snaps under too much strain. With the lot of them, if you are lucky, you can save the tree from the vine.”

— Andrew Solomon

168. “I have two nexuses of sadness about the Mormon Church. The first is the effect the Church’s position on homosexuality has on Mormons.”

— Andrew Solomon

169. “It’s deeply humbling to realize that there is no such thing as a society with a purchase on truth.”

— Andrew Solomon

170. “Depression means that you have no point of view.”

— Andrew Solomon

171. “I don’t believe that there is anyone of faith whose faith would not be strengthened by those experiences of family.”

— Andrew Solomon

172. “The absence of marriages will result in all kinds of financial burdens that gay people wouldn’t face if they could get married.”

— Andrew Solomon

173. “The things that save you are as frequently trivial as monumental.”

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174. “The parental predisposition to love prevails in the most harrowing of circumstances.”

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175. “Is it depression when I think how I would prefer to go where they have gone, and to stop the maniacal struggle of staying alive? Or is it just a part of life, to keep living in all the ways we cannot stand?”

— Andrew Solomon

176. “I had always wanted to have children, so it caused me a lot of grief when I was younger, and I had supposed that gay people could not be parents.”

— Andrew Solomon

177. “A lot of people are very political when they are young, and then they outgrow it.”

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178. “I hate the comparative idea that you have to love your spouse more than you love your parents.”

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179. “Being gay is immutable.”

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180. “Most people don’t like one another’s unhappiness very much. Few can cope with the idea of depression divorced from external reality. Many would prefer to think that if you’re suffering, it’s with reason and subject to logical resolution. A.”

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181. “I had always thought of myself as fairly tough and fairly strong and fairly able to cope with anything. And then I had a series of personal losses. My mother died. A relationship that I was in came to end, and a variety of other things went awry.”

— Andrew Solomon

182. “My goal is to stay safely in between self-analysis and self-destruction.”

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183. “What to say? That I would have loved to make the trip but was busy staying out of the mental hospital? It’s so humiliating – so degrading. If I knew I wouldn’t get caught, I’d love to lie about it – invent an acceptable cancer, that recurs and vanishes, that people could understand – that wouldn’t make them frightened and uncomfortable.”

— Andrew Solomon

184. “I was overpowered by being in the world, by other people and their lives I couldn’t lead, their jobs I couldn’t do – overpowered even by jobs I would never want or need to do.”

— Andrew Solomon

185. “The world changed, and the idea of having a family became feasible for homosexuals. But I was still left with the question as to what it would be like for a child to grow up with gay parents.”

— Andrew Solomon

186. “With children who have never said a word, parents tend to assume, for better or for worse, that there isn’t any language there.”

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187. “When a church manipulates the law to say, “These people are lesser,” it takes a lot of resilience to hold your head up and say, “I am not lesser!” Some people can do it and some cannot; and some of those people who cannot will be destroyed.”

— Andrew Solomon

188. “We see people of kindness, compassion, and possibly even faith being told, “Because of a characteristic with which you were born, you are evil and bad.” Anything that even implies such a stance is profoundly toxic.”

— Andrew Solomon

189. “There is no life that does not have the material for despair in it, but some people go too close to the edge and others manage to stay sometimes sad in a safe clearing far from the cliffs.”

— Andrew Solomon

190. “Despair is part of love.”

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191. “It is the sincere horror of it that gets others motivated, so say Watson and Andrews; the dysfunction caused by the onset of depression may serve a useful function in that it is “a device for the elicitation of altruism.”

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192. “At the end of the day, will God be interested primarily in whether I have been kind and helped others, or in whether I was baptized and how?”

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193. “In typical circumstances, to have children who won’t care for you in your dotage is to be King Lear. Disability changes the reciprocity equation.”

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194. “I do think that if the Church can see its way to greater tolerance, Church members will have greater exposure to gay people, and the lives of those gay people will be better.”

— Andrew Solomon

195. “That is, perhaps, the greatest revelation I have had: not that depression is compelling but that the people who suffer from it may become compelling because of it.”

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196. “I grew up in a very rationalist household. My father, in particular, came from that mid-century tradition of thinking science will ultimately explain everything.”

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197. “I understood that going where I would actually be foreign might distract people from the more intimate nature of my defining otherness.”

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198. “In these xenophobic times, when politicians are stoking everyone’s anxiety about threats from abroad, I would argue that engaging with the rest of the world is not only a luxury, in the way that travel is, but actually a moral responsibility.”

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199. “I went to Cambodia to be humbled by the pain of others, and I was humbled down to the ground.”

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200. “I had known a couple of people who had died, but the loss of my mother contained something of the profoundly unknowable.”

— Andrew Solomon