Top 120 Helen Fisher Quotes (2025 Update)
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51. “Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men.”

— Helen Fisher

52. “You size up someone physically in less than one second – too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, too old, too young, too stuffy, too scruffy.”

— Helen Fisher

53. “You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your ‘love map,’ an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.”

— Helen Fisher

54. “I don’t think we’re an animal that was built to be happy; we are an animal that was built to reproduce.”

— Helen Fisher

55. “From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types – each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.”

— Helen Fisher

56. “Sometimes we fall in love with somebody who will probably never love us, for reasons having nothing to do with us but with their own mindset, their chemistry.”

— Helen Fisher

57. “The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm. And romantic love is not calm -it’s elation, it’s mood swings, and you’re killing all that when you take the drug.”

— Helen Fisher

58. “When you fight, anger drives up testosterone in both men and women.”

— Helen Fisher

59. “As social animals, we need to exchange juicy tales about someone – to connect with one another. For millions of years our forebears must have sat around the campfire, whispering about everyone they knew.”

— Helen Fisher

60. “The main characteristics of romantic love are craving: an intense craving to be with a particular person, not just sexually, but emotionally.”

— Helen Fisher

61. “Falling in love was not really a choice; it just struck me.”

— Helen Fisher

62. “Throughout evolution, ostracism was death indeed.”

— Helen Fisher

63. “The Internet lets women use words, which is their natural tool. Little girls speak in more complex, grammatical sentences than little boys do, and women never lose that superiority in verbal ability.”

— Helen Fisher

64. “Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.”

— Helen Fisher

65. “Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there’s a potential for a relationship.”

— Helen Fisher

66. “Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.”

— Helen Fisher

67. “I’ve always maintained that men were more romantic than women.”

— Helen Fisher

68. “Neither gender is routinely more jealous – although women are more willing to work to win back a lover, while men tend to flaunt their money and status and are more likely to walk out to protect their self-esteem or save face.”

— Helen Fisher

69. “Men with high baseline levels of testosterone marry less frequently, have more adulterous affairs, commit more spousal abuse, and divorce more often. As a man’s marriage becomes less stable, his levels of testosterone rise. With divorce, his testosterone levels rise even more. And single men tend to have higher levels of testosterone than married men.65 The.”

— Helen Fisher

70. “Women like signs of money and education – things that indicate that not only is this guy going to have some resources, but he’s also willing to share them.”

— Helen Fisher

71. “Women are very attracted to a low voice because it’s linked to testosterone, which for millions of years was a sign that men had very good spacial skills and would have been very good at hunting and finding their way back home.”

— Helen Fisher

72. “Of all the foods we share, there is nothing more primordial than meat. It’s no surprise that meat-eaters still want a partner who will give, receive and share this primordial symbol of a budding partnership.”

— Helen Fisher

73. “At first I assumed hate was the opposite of love. But it isn’t. The opposite of love is indifference.”

— Helen Fisher

74. “We’re not very dangerous animals; we don’t have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.”

— Helen Fisher

75. “Good-looking people are always looking for other good-looking people.”

— Helen Fisher

76. “A hundred years ago, if you had a child out of marriage, you’d be a social disgrace. Today women feel comfortable enough economically and culturally to bring up a child without a recognized commitment from a man.”

— Helen Fisher

77. “When you look at the brain regions associated with picking up data from the body, a huge amount of the brain is devoted to picking up information from the lips and tongue.”

— Helen Fisher

78. “Overdone lipstick is a deterrent to men. It rubs off easily onto their skin and the edges of their shirts, so it discourages them from kissing, touching, and coming closer to you, which is what they really want to do!”

— Helen Fisher

79. “Men have a psychological need to show off their courage and strength. When he sees you talking to another guy, that instinct kicks in and he jumps to protect you and prove he’s worthy of your love.”

— Helen Fisher

80. “I am large, I contain multitudes. – WALT WHITMAN.”

— Helen Fisher

81. “Men tend to be hierarchical, but women are driven to make lateral connections so they can cooperate.”

— Helen Fisher

82. “We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.”

— Helen Fisher

83. “Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.”

— Helen Fisher

84. “Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.”

— Helen Fisher

85. “Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido.”

— Helen Fisher

86. “Hair that gleams can send a clear sign that you’re young and in your prime, whatever your actual age.”

— Helen Fisher

87. “I can’t conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.”

— Helen Fisher

88. “My hypothesis is that conservative Republicans have very clear values, and when you have that, you’re simply more relaxed.”

— Helen Fisher

89. “Romantic love is an addiction.”

— Helen Fisher

90. “Men couldn’t care less if your strands are perfectly styled and neat. In fact, he might like you more with some wildness or bedhead, since it shows you’re carefree and relaxed.”

— Helen Fisher

91. “As a group, anthropologists are not too fond of people who work in the business world.”

— Helen Fisher

92. “People have been looking for love potions since hunter-gatherer societies.”

— Helen Fisher

93. “It certainly would have been adaptive for ancestral man to have a chubby wife during stressful times of famine. Not only would she have had more calories to burn, and thus more energy and endurance, but since fat stores estrogen, she would have remained fertile for longer.”

— Helen Fisher

94. “Like most animals, we’re wired to associate height with power.”

— Helen Fisher

95. “Games are the way we keep romance alive. They’re based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.”

— Helen Fisher

96. “Scientists know that women gravitate to men who have a different immune system from theirs.”

— Helen Fisher

97. “Women, it turns out, are built to lead – particularly in the modern world.”

— Helen Fisher

98. “We still have community, but we don’t seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother’s down the street, they’re not in arm’s length.”

— Helen Fisher

99. “Office romances are few, short, and not usually destructive.”

— Helen Fisher

100. “Whether you’re married or not, relationships – and the satisfaction tied to them – are extremely important for increasing men’s and women’s quality of life.”

— Helen Fisher