Top 250 M. Scott Peck Quotes (2024 Update)
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51. “If your goal is to avoid pain and escape suffering, I would not advise you to seek higher levels of consciousness or spiritual evolution.”

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52. “Integrity is never painless.”

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53. “There is no act of love that is not an act of work or courage. No exceptions.”

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54. “Since the primary motive of the evil is disguise, one of the places evil people are most likely to be found is within the church. What better way to conceal one’s evil from oneself as well as from others than to be a deacon or some other highly visible form of Christian within our culture.”

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55. “The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.”

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56. “The great awareness comes slowly, piece by piece. The path of spiritual growth is a path of lifelong learning. The experience of spiritual power is basically a joyful one.”

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57. “The will to grow is, in essence, the same phenomenon as love. Genuinely loving people are, by definition, growing people.”

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58. “Self-discipline is a self-enlarging process.”

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59. “The key to community is the acceptance, in fact the celebration of our individual and cultural differences. It is also the key to world peace.”

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60. “There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community.”

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61. “The only real security in life lies in relishing life’s insecurity.”

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62. “Often the most loving thing we can do when a friend is in pain is to share the pain-to be there even when we have nothing to offer except our presence and even when being there is painful to ourselves.”

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63. “To the child, abandonment by its parents is the equivalent of death.”

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64. “Discipline, it has been suggested, is the means of human spiritual evolution. What provides the motive, the energy for discipline? This force I believe to be love. I define love thus: The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth.”

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65. “Falling in love is not an act of will. It is not a conscious choice. No matter how open to or eager for it we may be, the experience may still elude us. Contrarily, the experience may capture us at times when we are definitely not seeking it, when it is inconvenient and undesirable.”

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66. “Evil people hate the light because it reveals themselves to themselves. They hate goodness because it reveals their badness; they hate love because it reveals their laziness. They will destroy the light, the goodness, the love in order to avoid the pain of such self-awareness.”

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67. “Listening well is an exercise of attention and by necessity hard work. It is because they do not realize this or because they are not willing to do the work that most people do not listen well.”

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68. “Falling in love is not an extension of one’s limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.”

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69. “The path to holiness lies through questioning everything.”

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70. “Not only do self-love and love of others go hand in hand but ultimately they are indistinguishable.”

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71. “It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.”

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72. “Mental Health is dedication to reality at all costs.”

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73. “With total discipline we can solve all problems.”

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74. “We skim over the surface thoughtlessly. But we must acknowledge that thinking well is a time-consuming process. We can’t expect instant results. We have to slow down a bit, and take the time to contemplate, meditate, and even pray. It is the only route to a more meaningful and efficient existence.”

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75. “In and through community lies the salvation of the world.”

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76. “We cannot be a source for strength unless we nurture our own strength.”

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77. “Many addictions can be far more dangerous than addiction to drugs. The addiction to power...”

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78. “Jesus was lonely and sorrowful and scared-an unbelievably real person.”

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79. “Yet it is in this whole process of meeting and solving problems that life has its meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually.”

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80. “The neurotic assumes too much responsibility; the person with a character disorder not enough.”

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81. “The major threats to our survival no longer stem from nature without but from our own human nature within. It is our carelessness, our hostilities, our selfishness and pride and willful ignorance that endanger the world.”

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82. “The denial of suffering is, in fact a better definition of illness than its acceptance.”

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83. “Without discipline we can solve nothing. With only some discipline we can solve only some problems. With total discipline we can solve all problems.”

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84. “I make no distinction between the mind and the spirit, and therefore no distinction between the process of achieving spiritual growth and achieving mental growth. They are one and the same.”

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85. “We cannot solve life’s problems except by solving them.”

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86. “Everything that happens in life is there to aid our spiritual growth.”

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87. “True listening involves bracketing, a setting aside of the self.”

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88. “When we cling, often forever, to our old patterns of thinking and behaving, we fall to negotiate any crisis, to truly grow up, and to experience the joyful sense of rebirth that accompanies the successful transition into greater maturity.”

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89. “A discussion becomes destructive when it begins to generate more heat than light.”

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90. “Whenever we think of ourselves as doing something for someone else, we are in some way denying our own responsibility. Whatever we do is done because we choose to do it, and we make that choice because it is the one that satisfies us the most.”

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91. “The act of loving is an act of self-evolution even when the purpose of the act is someone else’s growth.”

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92. “Those things that hurt, instruct.”

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93. “It is our task-our essential, central, crucial task-to transform ourselves from mere social creatures into community creatures.”

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94. “Pseudocommunity is conflict-avoiding: true community is conflict-resolving.”

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95. “The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another person we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person’s growth.”

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96. “An unconscious, gentle process whereby people who want to be loving attempt to be so by telling little white lies, by withholding some of the truth about themselves and their feelings in order to avoid conflict. Pseudocommunity is conflict-avoiding; true community is conflict-resolving.”

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97. “When any institution becomes large and compartmentalized, with departments and subdepartments, then the conscience of the institution will often become so fragmented and diluted as to be virtually nonexistent, and the organization becomes inherently evil.”

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98. “Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we generally will be lost.”

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99. “I have learned nothing in twenty years that would suggest that evil people can be rapidly influenced by any means other than raw power. They do not respond, at least in the short run, to either gentle kindness or any form of spiritual persuasion with which I am familiar.”

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100. “The perception that we are loving when we fall in love is an illusion. Real love does not have its roots in a feeling of love. Real love often occurs when a feeling of love is lacking.”

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