Top 100 Mel Robbins Quotes (2026 Update)
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51. “Seth Godin once wrote “a different part of our brains is activated when we think about what’s possible rather than what’s required.” I believe the same is true when we think about being courageous, rather than focusing on the fears that stop us. It’s the difference between focusing on the solution rather than the problem, and that tiny switch is mentally liberating.”

— Mel Robbins

52. “Facebook is nothing but heavily packaged “Kodak moments” that bear no relation to how people really live.”

— Mel Robbins

53. “I have a hard time finding the balance between not beating myself up when it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it to, and not wasting time while I wait for it to happen.”

— Mel Robbins

54. “We’re discovering that many of our feelings are just a kind of sophisticated shorthand for all sorts of complex calculations that are constantly occurring in the back of your brain. Your.”

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55. “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you. It has always been and will always be up to you. You may never feel inspired or clearheaded enough to seize a moment, but you have to force yourself to do it even if you don’t want to. Nothing is changing unless you make it change.”

— Mel Robbins

56. “Change requires you to do things that feel hard and scary. Change requires courage and confidence.”

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57. “You have no idea how much easier things could be if you stopped being so hard on yourself.”

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58. “You are doing better than you think. Step by step, day by day you are making progress. Trust the process. Life has a way of giving you what you want in the most unexpected ways. It will happen when you are ready and the time is right. Just keep moving forward. You’re closer than you think.”

— Mel Robbins

59. “I FORGIVE myself for the things I did when I was trying to survive. Every day I am becoming a better version of myself.”

— Mel Robbins

60. “You’ll never feel like doing what you must do.”

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61. “When it comes to your dreams, you have two choices: pursue them or be haunted by them.”

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62. “Whatever is happening right now, this is it. This is your life. And it’s not going to begin again. You can’t change the past, but in five seconds you can change your future.”

— Mel Robbins

63. “Waiting until you are ready will not make it happen. The world doesn’t work that way.”

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64. “You can go for it today. Here’s how you start – you simply act as if you already have what you desire.”

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65. “One of the most important revelations you can ever have is that your life and your happiness begins and ends inside your own mind.”

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66. “You aren’t supposed to be stuck. You are supposed to be doing something amazing with your life.”

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67. “Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything in your life.”

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68. “Leave nothing important unsaid.”

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69. “One of the most important revelations you can ever have is that your life and your happiness begins and ends inside your own mind. What you say to yourself, how you treat yourself, and the thoughts that run on repeat are everything. It does not matter how successful, thin, famous, muscular, or wealthy you become, if you always focus on what’s “wrong” with you, you’ll never be happy.”

— Mel Robbins

70. “But you may not know that you have three core emotional needs: to be seen, heard, and loved for the unique individual that you are. When those emotional needs aren’t met, it’s not only a form of neglect, but you will feel unloved, invisible, and unfulfilled.”

— Mel Robbins

71. “You also need to learn how to give people the space to have those feelings and not make it mean anything about you.”

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72. “It’s not because things are difficult that we don’t dare. It’s because we don’t dare that things are difficult.”

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73. “They’ve told themselves they suck so many times over the years and compiled so much evidence that it is true that this belief is now programmed into their subconscious mind. That’s why the person you love will even argue with you when you tell them how great you think they are.”

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74. “The 5 Second Rule.” Just like NASA uses a 5-4-3-2-1 countdown to launch a rocket, I counted down 5-4-3-2-1 to launch myself into action before my negative thoughts pinned me down. I’m dead serious. Alarm rings. No staring at the ceiling. No panic attack. No snooze button. No rolling over and shoving your head under the pillow to blot out the day. 5-4-3-2-1: kick your own ass.”

— Mel Robbins

75. “You don’t need to change anything to deserve the love and acceptance you need. You just need to start giving yourself that validation.”

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76. “Waiting around for something to change will slowly kill you.”

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77. “Regardless of how you learned to beat yourself up, the bottom line is if it makes you miserable, you have a responsibility to change it.”

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78. “Stop and think about it. How does criticizing yourself actually help you? What if you could flip that and learn how to cheer yourself forward every day, every week, every year of your life, step by step, as you move toward your goals and your dreams?”

— Mel Robbins

79. “But when it comes to celebrating and encouraging yourself, you not only fall seriously short – you do the opposite. You trash yourself. You look at yourself in the mirror and pick yourself apart.”

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80. “It gets conditioned into you that love and acceptance are transactional. If you do what I say, then I’ll love you. Come to think of it, that’s exactly why you withhold love from yourself, you learned to in childhood.”

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81. “You cannot get what you want if you refuse to face the truth. You are struggling. You long for more. We all do. That tension between where you are now and what you want to become is what makes you human.”

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82. “The lynchpin to your happiness at work is whether or not you have a manager who cares about you.”

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83. “I gave myself permission to believe I could have these things. That permission to believe you are capable and worthy of having what you desire is powerful.”

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84. “Ironically, the more trapped you feel by your life, the more you’ll convince yourself it’s okay.”

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85. “You should never mistake your brain’s messages for the actual truth about your ability to perform a task or as an accurate analysis of what the future will look like.”

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86. “Never feel bad about asking for what you deserve. Never hint about something as important as a commitment. Being able to have honest conversations is the foundation of a loving and healthy relationship. So don’t fear this, embrace it. If the relationship is meant to be, this conversation will make it stronger. A real conversation only destroys something that is fake.”

— Mel Robbins

87. “All human beings have a hardwired need for control. We naturally desire to manage every part of our lives because feeling in control helps us feel safe and comfortable. Without even realizing it, we often try to control the things – and even the people – around us. But the truth is, we can’t control or change anyone but ourselves. I finally stopped making other people my problem.”

— Mel Robbins

88. “Dr. K says that in order to make a change, a person must be able to separate themselves from the pain they will feel in the moment and the action that they need to take.”

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89. “Every time you edit what you post, or stay silent in class or at work, or hide in the back of the group photo, you are engaging in self-rejection. You’re the one telling yourself that you’re not good enough.”

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90. “The Let Them Theory is not about superiority at all. It’s about balance. It’s about making room for both you and someone else. It’s about giving other people the space and the grace to live their lives – and then giving yourself the same.”

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91. “Let Them Theory will help you create the friendships you deserve, which are going to require you to be flexible. Remember, friends are going to come and go in your life. Stop expecting the invitation. Stop gripping so tightly when things start to shift. And start taking responsibility for how you show up. Let Them will help you be more flexible, not take things personally, and allow the right people to come in, and let the wrong people to leave.”

— Mel Robbins

92. “Pressure doesn’t create change – it creates resistance to it. When you try to exert control over someone else’s behavior, they instinctively resist your attempt to try to control them.”

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93. “If you’re single, your love story is far from over. The love of your life is not in your past. They are waiting for you in the future, and everything that has happened and every relationship you’ve been in has prepared you for what is about to happen next.”

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94. “You don’t need anyone else’s permission to be happy, to pursue your passions, express yourself more, or to live the life you’ve always dreamed of. The only permission you need is your own.”

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95. “When friends drift away, fall apart, or lose touch, it is because one or more of these three essential pillars is missing. Most of the time adult friendships fade not for personal reasons, but because of these three pillars: proximity, timing, and energy. Understanding the role these three factors play will help you use the Let Them Theory to be more flexible, understanding, and proactive in your adult friendships.”

— Mel Robbins

96. “The relationship is largely happening as a fantasy in your own mind, because you live in the potential of what could be, not in the reality of what is.”

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97. “Look at people’s struggles as an opportunity to support them in discovering their strengths. If someone learns that they are too weak to face their struggles, they will never experience what is truly possible.”

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98. “Trying to control people and situations doesn’t calm your fears. It amplifies them. Any psychologist will tell you, the more you try to control something you can’t, the more anxious and stressed out you become.”

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99. “That’s rock bottom and it changes your life for the better. Because, when you finally hit it, you connect with something solid inside yourself – the resolve to change.”

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100. “People avoid healing because they do not believe they can face the pain they are running from. So Let Them borrow their belief from you. Because when someone feels accepted, loved, and supported, it’s easier for them to believe in their ability to step back into life too.”

— Mel Robbins