Top 100 Miriam Toews Quotes (2024 Update)
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51. “Surely, she says, encouraging others to lie on our behalves must be a worse sin than lying ourselves.”

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52. “If, along the way, something is gained, then something will also be lost.”

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53. “A few weeks ago my uncle came over to borrow my dad’s socket set and when he asked my dad how he was my dad said oh unexceptional. Living quietly with my disappointments. And how are you.”

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54. “No, no, said the librarian, forgiven for being alive, for being in the world. For the arrogance and the futility of remaining alive, the ridiculousness of it, the stench of it, the unreasonableness of it.”

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55. “Go into hard things quickly, eagerly, then retreat. It’s the same for thinking, writing, and life.”

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56. “I learned another thing, which is that just because someone is eating the ashes of your protagonist doesn’t mean you stop telling the story.”

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57. “Public enemy number one for these men was a girl with a book.”

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58. “In the airport we hugged each other all at once, a team huddle but with nothing but a Hail Mary left in our playbook. We’d been through all of this before. We loved each other. We fought for each other. When worlds collapsed we were buried in the rubble together and when we were dug out of the rubble and rescued we all celebrated together.”

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59. “Sadness is what holds our bones in place.”

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60. “It bothered me in a kind of Charles Manson way to have a brown smear of blood on my wall but I also liked it because every time I looked at it I was reminded that I was, at that very moment, not bleeding from my face. And those are powerful words of hope, really.”

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61. “True love, I said. And yet I’m sticking around unreasonably and knowing it’s impossible because who knows? I want to find out. I live hopefully.”

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62. “Nic loves Elf’s odd requests, each one is like a holiday for him... and he’s not a Mennonite, which is important – in a man – for Elf. Mennonite men have wasted too much of her time already, trying to harvest her soul and shackle her to shame.”

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63. “I find it curious that she hasn’t been excommunicated. Are her small acts of rebellion a convenient outlet for Peters, a type of performance that satisfies the colonists’ need to assert themselves, and that allows Peters to act with impunity on a larger scale?”

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64. “She is not crying, she says, she is moisturizing.”

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65. “Even a Menno sheltered from the world knows not to stick her tongue into the mouth of a boy who owns an Air Supply record. You might stick your tongue into the mouth of a boy who owned some Emerson, Lake and Palmer, but you would not date him on a regular basis, or openly.”

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66. “When I opened up the bottle of wine, Thebes said whoa, you yanked that cork out of there like you were saving it from drowning. She got out her markers and drew a screaming face on the cork.”

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67. “Perhaps all of us are crazy, Ona says. Of course we’re all crazy, says Mejal. How can we not be?”

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68. “We stopped talking for a long, long time. A long time. Nurses came and went attaching and detaching things. Hundreds of thousands of babies were born while we weren’t talking. The continents continued to separate at the same page as fingernails growing.”

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69. “Tina nods sagely and says yes and then something in Plautdietsch, probably something like heck yeah do we ever know what sad is. Sadness is what holds our bones in place.”

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70. “Go into hard things quickly, eagerly, then retreat.”

— Miriam Toews

71. “She says isn’t it funny how every second, every minute, every day, month, year, is accounted for, capable of being named – when time, or life, is so unwieldy, so intangible and slippery? This makes her feel compassion toward the people who invented the concept of “telling time.” How hopeful, she says. How beautifully futile. How perfectly human.”

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72. “I don’t know now why I let her believe otherwise, but someday, perhaps, it will be clear.”

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73. “He is the same chap who informed me that there are unusually high numbers of Mennonites who suffer from depression but nobody knows why. I said, Well, thank you for that! As cheerfully as if I was accepting a plate of homemade Christmas cookies from one of my students.”

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74. “What sorts of things do you google when your favorite person in the world is determined to leave it?”

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75. “Why does the mention of love, the memory of love, the memory of love lost, the promise of love, the end of love, the absence of love, the burning, burning need for love, need to love, result in so much violence?”

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76. “She says isn’t it funny how every second, every minute, every day, month, year, is accounted for, capable of being named – when time, or life, is so unwieldy, so intangible and slippery?”

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77. “We do not have to be forgiven by the men of God, she shouts, for protecting our children from the depraved actions of vicious men who are often the very same men we are meant to ask for forgiveness.”

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78. “We are women without a voice, Ona states calmly. We are women out of time and place, without even the language of the country we reside in. We are Mennonites without a homeland. We have nothing to return to, and even the animals of Molotschna are safer in their homes than we women are. All we women have are our dreams – so of course we are dreamers.”

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79. “Isn’t it interesting, she says, that the one and only request the women would make of the men would be to leave?”

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80. “How should we know what they’re guilty of or not? says Mariche. But we do know, says Ona. We do know that the conditions of Molotschna have been created by man, that these attacks have been made possible, even the conception of these acts, the planning of these attacks, the rationale for these attacks within the minds of the men, because of the circumstances of Molotschna. And those circumstances have been created and ordained by the men, by the elders and by Peters.”

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81. “We will feel anguish and we will feel sorrow and we will feel uncertainty and we will feel sadness, but not guilt, says Agata. Mariche amends: We may feel guilty but we will know we are not guilty.”

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82. “I grappled with the idea of explaining hemispheres to her, how we are required to share the sun with other parts of the world, that if one were to observe the earth from outer space one could see as many as fifteen sunsets and sunrises in a day – and that perhaps by sharing the sun the world could learn to share everything, learn that everything belonged to everyone!”

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83. “The women in the loft have taught me that consciousness is resistance, that faith is action, that time is running out. But can faith also be to return, to stay, to serve?”

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84. “Perhaps not men, per se, but a pernicious ideology that has been allowed to take hold of men’s hearts and minds.”

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85. “You’ll know for yourself what to fight. Grandma told me fighting can be making peace. She said sometimes we move forward by looking back and sometimes the onward can be knowing when to stop.”

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86. “In the very early morning light I saw Nora and my mother sleeping, finally, on their sides and face to face, holding hands, all four hands entwined like a skein of wool, like a mating ball of garter snakes, so that whatever was inside them would be very well protected.”

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87. “She once explained to me that, as a Molotschnan, she had everything she wanted; all she had to do was convince herself that she wanted very little.”

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88. “I have videos of Grandma on my cellphone. In one I asked her what will happen to her body after she dies. She says ahhhhh, my body! My body will become energy that will light your path.”

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89. “We mustn’t do this. We mustn’t play Hot Potato with our pain. Let’s absorb it ourselves, each of us, she says. Let’s inhale it, let’s digest it, let’s process it into fuel.”

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90. “Lonely fights are the worst, she said. She’d rather lose a lonely fight. She’d rather join a losing team than win a lonely fight.”

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91. “En aquest seu afany de poder, en necessitaven d’altres sobre qui exercir aquest poder, i aquests altres som nosaltres.”

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92. “Our freedom and safety are the ultimate goals, and it is men who prevent us from achieving those goals. But not all men, says Mejal. Ona clarifies: Perhaps not men, per se, but a pernicious ideology that has been allowed to take hold of men’s hearts and minds.”

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93. “She says Mom does the emotional work for the whole family, feeling everything ten times harder than is necessary so the rest of us can act normal.”

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94. “If God is a loving God He will forgive us Himself. If God is a vengeful God then He has created us in His Image.”

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95. “If you lose your mind can you find your mind again? Of course you can. That’s life!”

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96. “Men and women will make all decisions for the colony collectively. Women will be allowed to think. Girls will be taught to read and write. The schoolhouse must display a map of the world so that we can begin to understand our place in it. A new religion, extrapolated from the old but focused on love, will be created by the women of Molotschna.”

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97. “She lived in her head and that’s why it glowed.”

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98. “Klaus will not look at Ona or acknowledge anything she says. Ona is a ghost to him or less because of her ‘Narfa’, her spinsterdom and her burgeoning belly. I have observed that being a ghost suits Ona.”

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99. “So much of what exists in the outside world is kept out of Molotschna, but curses, like pain, always find a way in.”

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100. “Ona’s laughter is the finest, the most exquisite sound in all of nature, filled with breath and promise, and the only sound she releases into the world that she doesn’t also try to retrieve.”

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