“Other people were so unsuccessful at fending off love! Members of Congress who had affairs with their aides, or students who I’d known in college, girls who as freshmen declared themselves lesbians, then graduated with boyfriends- to give in to such love represents, for them, a capitulation or a betrayal, yet apparently the pull was so strong that they couldn’t resist. That was what I didn’t understand, how people made the leap from not mattering in each others’ lives to mattering.”
