“I realise its commonplace for parents to say to their child sternly, “I love you, but i don’t always like you.” But what kind of love is that? it seems to me that comes down to, I’m not oblivious to you – that is, you ca still hurt my feelings – but i cant stand having you around.” Who wants to be loved like that? I wonder if I wouldn’t have been more moved if my own mother had taken me in her arms and said, “I like you.” I wonder if just enjoying your kids company isn’t more important.”
