“What the person high in narcissistic traits doesn’t do constitutes a pattern of its own and, in many ways, makes him easier to identify. Once you’ve focused on what he isn’t doing, you can see that what motivates him isn’t the need to connect to you in any meaningful way – which is, of course, what you’ve been hoping for all along – but a very private and specific agenda which is making sure that his vision of himself stays protected and invulnerable.”
