“We dive into information or work or bicycling or whatever, because it feels good to be good at something, to master something, to control something when marriage and intimacy often feel profoundly out of our control. And so, little by little, we tiptoe away. And before we know it, there’s a cavern between us, easily filled by someone simpler, better suited to us, someone, honestly, who hasn’t had to put up with us for quite so long, someone who still laughs at our jokes.”
