“Exaggerating my partner’s position allows me to fight with him, rather than ask myself the hard questions about what I believe we can afford. I delegate certain attribute to my partner -for example, recasting his reasonable concern as his “negative” approach to money- while claiming other attributes for myself- I spend as a way to “stand up for myself” in the face of my partner’s “control” or to express my “sense of adventure in the face of my partner’s” “inertia.”
