“Stress affects each gender differently. In a kind of tragic misalignment, during a fight men tend to get “flooded” with stress hormones in a way that leads them to long to shut down, withdraw, and detach – the “flight or fight” response to adrenaline – in order to regain neuroendocrine equilibrium; whereas women react to the same stress by needing to talk more and connect more – the “tend and befriend” response, which lowers their own stress levels.”
