“My husband has never been one to catch the subtleties of a situation. He called every Valentine’s Day to ask if I wanted him to stop on the way home to get a card. Every year I said no, don’t bother, and he’d say something like, “Okay, but I want to go on record I asked, so you can’t say I’m not romantic.” I never did point out that any chance the gesture had of being romantic was lost when he asked whether he had to do it.”