“Too many of us as trans people have experienced something similar to the ‘Miss or Mrs.’ query – except it feels much more demeaning. It’s the address I call ‘Mamsir.’ You know what I mean: ‘Here’s your change, ma’am, I mean sir, I mean ma’am, I mean sir.’ It’s debasing and embarrasses both people and anyone else who is listening. I despise the class subordination that resides in those once-mandatory forms of address, as well.”
