“We must use the time when we are single or take time alone when we are in a couple to understand ourselves, our pleasures, and our values. When we learn to love ourselves, we develop compassion, empathy, and patience. Then we can use those qualities to love someone else. In this way, being alone – not lonely, but comfortable and confident in situations where we make our own choices, follow our own lead, and reflect on our own experience – is the first step in preparing ourselves to love others.”
