“Barack Obama’s aunt once told him, ‘If everyone is family, no one is family.’ It is blood that makes a tribe, a border that makes a nation. The same is true of gatherings. So here is a corollary to his aunt’s saying: If everyone is invited, no one is invited – in the sense of being truly held by the group. By closing the door, you create the room.”

“Barack Obama’s aunt once told him, ‘If everyone is family, no one is family.’ It is blood that makes a tribe, a border that makes a nation. The same is true of gatherings. So here is a corollary to his aunt’s saying: If everyone is invited, no one is invited – in the sense of being truly held by the group. By closing the door, you create the room.”

— Priya Parker