“When we tie who we are to what we do, we can get stuck in an ‘if only’ spiral – we might say we are a runner, for example, but then shame ourselves when we don’t manage to run every day. We make the mistake of labeling ourselves as nouns, when we really are verbs – we are not a runner, but rather a person who runs; we’re not a writer, but a person who writes. Our sense of self doesn’t have to be bundled up with whether we did the thing today – because we are not the things we do.”
