“I recently learned that I was thinking about it all wrong. You don’t ever get over that kind of grief. It doesn’t dissolve. You don’t process it until it goes away. All you do is make enough room around the pain so that it doesn’t dominate your life. You expand your sense of self so it’s big enough to hold the grief while letting in the rest of life. You make room for the good stuff. Whenever you can, as much as you can, you choose to be happy.”
