Top 100 Trista Mateer Quotes (2024 Update)
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51. “I’ve gotten so good about not flinching at the sound of your name that people don’t know I’d still throw myself mouth-open into the ocean for the chance to drown somewhere you might see it.”

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52. “You’re made of the same stars as me. You may not have walked fully formed out of the ocean but the past is the past for a reason. Nothing that came before matters unless you want it to.”

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53. “When people say you cannot love others until you love yourself, they fundamentally misunderstand love. Nothing thrives in isolation.”

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54. “I know I said some things about needing space, but you are not the moon or the sun, a planet or a dwarf star. I do not know if distance from you will ever sit right with me.”

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55. “Now you have the audacity to bloom on my doorstep again like some cheap metaphor for spring. You rise from the ashes of my mistrust and you do this unforgivable thing: you still make me go soft in the middle.”

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56. “All the details change but one: it is a woman with her hand on the door to Hell.”

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57. “They called me Gravedigger.”

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58. “I’ll do anything if you say my name three times. I need to be reminded that I exist.”

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59. “I am always two parts tequila, one part longing.”

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60. “They wanted you to believe that love is weak, that you cannot curse and kiss with the same mouth. They wanted you to believe that the root of love is romance, soft and wide-eyed. See what they did to my stories? My Temples? My statues? Regardless o whether you desire it, love is what sits at the core of the world. It is stronger than greed and hate and jealousy and pain. What brings us together will always be more powerful than what keeps us apart.”

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61. “I have this dream where I only write you love poems and none of them have to say, “I’m so glad we’re alive.”

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62. “I know I don’t feel like myself but I’m starting to forget what that felt like at all.”

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63. “You are not required to be small. You are not required to be pleasant. You are not required to be conventional. You are not required to be accommodating. You are not required to be submissive. You are not required to be merciful. You are not required to be quiet.”

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64. “Your abuser’s past does not absolve them of their abuse. Their depression does not absolve them of their abuse. Your relationship with them does not absolve them of their abuse. How long you’ve known them does not absolve them of their abuse. Your love for them does not absolve them of their abuse.”

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65. “Some people will leave you. It will have everything to do with you and nothing to do with outside circumstances. You cannot sugarcoat it. You cannot dress it up and make it feel sweet or soft or warm. And it’s going to hurt you. I know your instinct will be to beg them to stay, to unpack their bags for them, to curl up by their wandering feet – but people are going to leave you. That is okay too.”

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66. “I slept incredibly well before I met you.”

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67. “I wept at what became of my name.”

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68. “And I believe all men think of me as a person. Correction: not all men. And I believe all men care about consent. Correction: not all men.”

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69. “You have to let something go. You carry too much in your heart. There’s no room for anything else.”

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70. “I feel most like myself when I am washing blood off my hands; and I hope whatever is eating you alive does it as slowly as possible.”

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71. “To stop resenting my mother I had to unlearn the idea that our parents are these infallible beings who always know the right thing to do, and do it. I had to realize that she’s more than a mother. She’s a person with unresolved trauma and she’s scared of being alone and she’s frustrated with existence, just like everyone else.”

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72. “There is nothing inherently toxic about anger. It is hard not to be angry. There is no reason not to be angry.”

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73. “Don’t you ever let another human being tear you apart. Remember that you have claws and teeth, too.”

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74. “Accepting this body did not mean convincing myself that it was beautiful; it meant giving myself permission to exist regardless.”

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75. “I keep trying to make myself small enough to give other people space to grow.”

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76. “All of us are survivors until we are not anymore.”

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77. “Yesterday I sat at a bar with a stranger and we practiced swallowing each other’s accents.”

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78. “Aphrodite tells me that love is like wine. If your cup is already full and you try to add more, it ill just spill onto the carpet. Some people try and try and just stain everything. Their fingers are purple with want.”

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79. “You touched me more than once with tenderness and I never mistook it for affection. I know the code of miserable people. I was the rat trap for your loneliness. And the rat. And the loneliness. See how much poison I can swallow when it’s hand-fed?”

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80. “The person you are at the beginning of a story is rarely who you are at the end of one.”

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81. “I will not be a fairy-tale mermaid willing to give up her own voice for love.”

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82. “I’d rather hold a grudge than have an empty hand. At least it’s something.”

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83. “I had to ask for directions seven different times in LAX. It’s a monstrosity built almost entirely out of anxiety. It’s a shrine to nervousness.”

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84. “I wanted to taste the salt on your skin, to press my mouth against the violent curve of you.”

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85. “I don’t want to be another name on the list of angry women in our family.”

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86. “You forgive your mother for the things she did wrong, because of the things that were done wrong to her. You expect your children to do the same. Everyone’s backs ache under the weight.”

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87. “She says, “I thought you weren’t looking for love.” I say, “That doesn’t mean I’m not hoping it will find me.”

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88. “I stayed as long as anyone can stay in a place they don’t really belong.”

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89. “You were right when you said I’ve only had bad examples of love. I grew up thinking that it was a chore, that it did not have to be easy, that it was okay to be hard. But our was the exchange that defined “love” for me: unconditional even when it was distanced, never arrogant, always kind.”

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90. “I am older than the poets and I am older than the pens. I am older than the stars and the ocean I crawled out of.”

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91. “And then God doesn’t answer, but Amanda does.”

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92. “That is okay. It is okay to leave. It is okay to feel smothered by the weight of a life you didn’t want or a relationship that doesn’t taste the way you thought it would. It does not make you hard or disagreeable or unreasonable.”

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93. “I am writing bad poems but I am writing look at that.”

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94. “The world was full of men who called themselves heroes for crossing boundaries, claiming bodies like prizes. The world still is.”

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95. “Wouldn’t have to hate yourself if you were dead, though her brain counters.”

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96. “If love is a door I keep closed, will it be a wound I keep open?”

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97. “No one ever talks about the loneliness that permeated Eden.”

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98. “You tried to make a grave out of me and I almost let you.”

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99. “When you fight for what is just, prepare to meet opposition. Remember, it is the good in us that stands in front of what needs protecting. There will always be reasons to back down but there will always be more to push forward.”

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100. “You long winter masquerading as spring.”

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