Top 60 Andrew Joseph White Quotes (2026 Update)

1. “Being transgender is who you are, and the pain is what the outside does to you. The pain is what happens when you and the world go at each other’s throats.”

— Andrew Joseph White

2. “Hell has followed us onto Earth, and I am the monster that has brought it forth.”

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3. “We are the same species. We’re all human. It’s not that people cannot understand me; it’s simply that most of them don’t want to.”

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4. “I want to take myself apart into something else, and if I cannot do that, I want to destroy every part of it that could ever be used against me.”

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5. “God is an absent parent who demands loyalty despite never being around...”

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6. “It should be noted that I do not define my manhood through my love of women. There are lots of men who do so: their hunger to dominate feminine things, their power over their wives and daughters, are the building blocks of their maleness. That is not me. Yes, I could love a man if I ever found one who accepts me as I am, and I’ve dreamed of being so lucky – but I love women too. I love women as men are expected to, but the way only one who has ever experienced womanhood can.”

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7. “Do they reach anything? Maybe it doesn’t matter if it’s true as long as it takes a bit of this weight off my chest.”

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8. “I read everything as it is given to me, exactly how it is said, only to discover that the world always operates just below the surface.”

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9. “Am I in love with her already? Perhaps. Or maybe I’m just confusing love with comfort, and I’m okay with that. Is there any difference between love and a safe harbor from a storm? Should there be? There are a lot of different kinds of love, and though I may not be able to tell them apart from each other, I appreciate all of them the same.”

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10. “The first thing Dad told me – when Mom said I’d see the Lord’s plan for my womanhood eventually, that she’d carve it into me if she had to – he told me I’m a man, and I fought for it, and nobody can take that from me.”

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11. “I’m done begging for a scrap of respect-I am done with those who enact suffering, and I am done with the sons of bitches who stand back and let it happen.”

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12. “I think it hits us all at the same time that maybe we’ll live long enough to grow up.”

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13. “I won’t be okay, but I will be better.”

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14. “I am so weak for him. I love him so, so much.”

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15. “Because they gave birth to something they do not understand, because they tried so many times to fix me and they failed.”

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16. “I want to peel off all my skin, if only so I could be anything other than a naked body, something horrifying instead of vulnerable. Nobody looks at a pig corpse and thinks it could be made beautiful.”

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17. “I can’t keep running like this. I am so, so tired.”

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18. “Our faces are so close, his body is so warm, and I missed him so much. I missed him. I missed him. No matter what he did. I am disgusted with myself.”

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19. “I’d burn anything down if you so much asked.”

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20. “Theo stared at the raw tattoos the way little boys look at soldiers coming home from war. I stared at them the way little girls look at that one uncle their sisters tell them to stay away from.”

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21. “It’s amazing how locking down one key demographic, white people in rich countries, means you can get your claws into the world so tightly, you can tear it all to pieces around you.”

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22. “Kissing him is water after drought, deer meat in my belly after days of refusing to eat.”

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23. “The Angels are gone,” Nick says. He’s so close, I could rest my head on him if I wanted. I want to. I’m so tired. “You’re safe now. I promise.”

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24. “They didn’t explain it to you because there’s not a good reason,” she says. “It’s just how the story is to them, and they don’t know how to read any deeper.” She pulls me closer. “Or maybe they’re just pretending. I think the entire world depends on people pretending they don’t know they’re doing terrible things.”

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25. “But what if I loose you?”

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26. “And until then, I will keep myself safe. That is not self-betrayal. That is self-preservation.”

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27. “In exchange, he gives me the trans bead lizard he finished last night. I cradle it in my hands, admiring the pale pink, baby blue, and gentle white. All I can manage is ‘thank you,’ even though I want to say, This is the first time I’ve gotten to hold something with my colors.”

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28. “I think the entire world depends on people pretending they don’t know they’re doing terrible things.”

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29. “I should not have to keep fixing the damage done to us. It would be so easy to not hurt us and the Speakers can’t even do that. It’s more work to hurt us. It’s more work to be cruel – and yet they continue.”

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30. “Even if I was mad, there’s no excuse to treat someone like this. Madness isn’t a reason to stop caring about someone, is it?”

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31. “Men all hurt us in their own unique ways. None of us carry the same bruises, the same aches.”

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32. “You ain’t gotta makeyourself do something that sucks. You can do it the way that sucks less.”

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33. “When something terrible happens – or at least, when you learn about it – it feels like it should affect the entire world. It feels like something should change. But it doesn’t.”

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34. “If I promise this book has a happy ending, does that make it better? Does that make any of it easier to swallow?”

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35. “Why is it that when they hide their faces, men become monsters instead of angels?”

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36. “I’m super trans. Like, an honestly heretical amount of trans. Why?”

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37. “We’ve already killed one of them. What’s a few more?”

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38. “The places where you hurry are harsh: I pray that you run more gently.”

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39. “There was to be no more chewing on my hair. No more flapping my hands or rocking. I would eat my dinner, no matter how awful I found it, and I would sit through parties politely with my legs crossed at the ankles. I was to be just like everyone else, no matter how much distress it caused me. It is the only way anyone will ever tolerate you, the tutor said.”

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40. “It was just me, the words, and the air in my lungs.”

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41. “Death never goes after those who deserve it. It only ever takes those who aren’t ready.”

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42. “What do you mean, it was that easy? No pushing back, no telling me how hard this will be for him. Just my new name, easy as that.”

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43. “You’re not a coward for wanting to live.”

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44. “Or maybe a better way to word it would be, it gets easier for me to forget the pain of being trans. Being transgender is who you are, and the pain is what the outside does to you.”

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45. “Deer don’t do hunting season, rats don’t do traps, and I don’t do parties.”

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46. “Grief is a sin. Loss is God’s design, and to mourn the dead is to insult His vision. To despair at His will is sacrilege. How dare you betray His plan by grieving what was always His to take? Unfaithful, disgusting heretic, you should be hung from the wall so the nonbelievers will know what’s coming for them. Romans 6:23 – for the wages of sin is death.”

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47. “I had to pull a knife to keep from falling into his arms, begging him to forgive the transgression that made him raise a hand against me. He did it to me, he hurt me, and I wanted to apologize.”

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48. “They must have convinced themselves they would never rot in the same dirt we do.”

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49. “It doesn’t matter if I like it, though. Nobody cares if I like myself this way. They still tried to fix me.”

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50. “Theo snorts. “How did I manage to land a straight guy?” “How dare you imply I’m heterosexual. I am disgusted and appalled.”

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