Top 40 Ashley Winstead Quotes (2025 Update)

1. “Even now, to this day, I think you were the love of my life. You were always talking about your dreams, back in college. Harvard this and DC that. Well, you want to know what my dream was? You. A real best friend.” My eyes burned. Caro’s voice softened. “I would have done anything for you.”

— Ashley Winstead

2. “Sometimes, you really didn’t have to lift a finger to get exactly what you wanted. Sometimes, all you had to do was sit back and do nothing.”

— Ashley Winstead

3. “Your body has a knowing. Like an antenna, attuned to tremors in the air, or a dowsing rod, tracing things so deeply buried you have no language for them yet.”

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4. “I wanted them to see perfection. I ached for it in the deep, dark core of me: to be so good I left other people in the dust.”

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5. “We no longer exist for them, you and I. We are no longer a mirror for reflecting their anxieties, their desires. We are not saviors, or seductresses, or symbols. We exist only for ourselves. Tragic and sublime, ordinary and animal, in the mold of all humans, long before and long after us.”

— Ashley Winstead

6. “I’m telling you upfront. I need more. I need you over and over. So this is your out. Take it. Otherwise you’re mine, the way it should have been.”

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7. “Under the surface, in the cold, in the salt, swallowed by waves, I pressed my eyes shut, letting myself sink. And in that moment a wild wishing came over me. I wanted to stay here, submerged forever. Above the surface, all the days of my life were waiting like a promise. There was nothing but a blank slate, and anything goes, and what if. My life could mean anything, I could become anyone, as long as I didn’t break surface, as long as I stayed here, suspended, in this beautiful, infinite now.”

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8. “I know you sneak Adderall to study all night even though econ makes you want to kill yourself. And now I know you charge thousands of dollars to a credit card you can’t afford just to fit in.”

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9. “It was strange, really, how your entire life could change just like that, from one second to the next. And there was no fireworks show, no dramatic tilting of the world on its axis to signify how everything had suddenly flipped upside down, and nothing would ever be the same.”

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10. “A woman who wanted was an ugly thing. I knew it made me childish and vulnerable. My whole life had taught me that lesson. But still. For one moment, laid out on the grass, all my ruined, pointless, pent-up wanting was too great to contain –.”

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11. “I wanted to become big enough, important enough, to never really die. Then I would never get trapped in a hole in the ground like my dad, with no one around to care.”

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12. “The rip of the match against the box, my hate becoming tangible, sparking and catching fire. The spike of adrenaline right before I tossed the match, turning my body into an inferno a second before the world became light and heat.”

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13. “Consider this a lesson in being an adult. If you go to a boy’s house dressed like an invitation, take shots and flirt with him all night, give every indication of wanting to sleep with him, what do you think he’s going to do? Ms. Hargrove can’t go crying wolf over every sexual encounter she regrets, or else cops would spend all our time chasing hungover college kids after a bad lay.”

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14. “I’d pretended I was fine, pretended I’d moved on, but the truth was, the past was still open inside me, like a half-cracked door, because it was a raw, unhealed wound.”

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15. “A reader, then.” He eyed me. “Dangerous quality in a girl.”

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16. “Let him go. That was what the world expected. What they always expect of women – grace, forgiveness, moral superiority. We were supposed to look our rapists in the eyes, the men who’d tortured us, and show them mercy.”

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17. “Happiness? That was a luxury I’d never been able to afford.”

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18. “She’d asked if I thought it was possible to be perfect, and I’d amended that I didn’t need to be perfect, per se, as long as I was the best.”

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19. “People are constantly telling you who they are if you’re willing to step back and listen.”

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20. “I’d had it backwards my whole life: I wasn’t the princess, set upon by misfortune; I was the witch. And life had unfolded the way it was supposed to, giving me what I deserved.”

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21. “If only it was always like this. If beauty was purely a power and not a target, a vulnerability that could draw the wolves and put you at their mercy.”

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22. “Once, I’d kneaded dough naked on my hands and knees, and I’d liked it.”

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23. “It was all so clear now, so terrifyingly obvious. I was the villain; I always had been. It explained everything – why I’d never gotten what I wanted, no matter how hard I’d tried. It wasn’t because life was unfair, or not working the way it should. I’d had it backwards my whole life: I wasn’t the princess, set upon by misfortune; I was the witch. And life had unfolded the way it was supposed to, giving me what I deserved.”

— Ashley Winstead

24. “Those girls are the best. They tell themselves they’re being sexually liberated when I take them home and chain them in my basement. Owning their sexuality, and all that.” “Maybe they are,” I said, trying not to visualize.”

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25. “You are a living, breathing story made up of the moments in time you cherish, all strung together, and those you hide. The moments that seem lost.”

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26. “Wanting is dangerous. The less you want, the safer you’ll be.”

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27. “Memories are powerful things. But – and this is important, my therapist said – so are the dark spaces. The things you choose, consciously or not, to repress. Always, they’re the things you need protection from. The too much: too terrifying, too shameful, too devastating. The things that, if allowed, would threaten the very core of who you’re supposed to be.”

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28. “What would all these people – these Duquette students – think? Surely, they would understand the message my father was sending, not just to me anymore, but to all of them.”

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29. “Behold Caroline Rodriguez, finally reading someone right. Finally willing to believe the worst, and of her best friend, to boot. What extraordinarily bad timing.”

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30. “In ten years,” Heather said slowly, “you’re not even going to remember the things that seem important now. You’re going to have totally different priorities. I bet you’ll look back and laugh at everything that feels so dramatic now.”

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31. “If I was born bait, I would at least dangle myself.”

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32. “In that moment, I gave myself over completely. I worshipped them. I died and started new, right there in.”

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33. “And I knew, with all my heart and soul, that I’d loved him, and he’d been good and wicked, and in the dark, secret part of me, we were so much the same.”

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34. “This is why I read all day. To escape the blasted world.”

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35. “Everything these last ten years has paled compared to it. I’m scared college was the last time I was really alive, the way you’re supposed to be, and I’ll never get it back.”

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36. “Or maybe I realized people are rarely interested in another person’s pain – so you have to dress it up accordingly.”

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37. “Caro. My truest friend. The one who’d never left my side, who loved me as much today as the day we graduated. The guilt threatened to overwhelm me.”

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38. “The law is nuanced and complicated, and I like nuanced and complicated.”

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39. “Christ, Heather.” Courtney shooed the boys away and righted her friend. “What’s your damage?”

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40. “You were playing by their rules, Shay. Capitulating to the same patriarchal system that sexualized you so young. Even if you’d felt in control, it would’ve been an illusion.”

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41. “Life’s going to stomp you no matter what. Wouldn’t you rather get stomped here, in a mansion, surrounded by champagne and hors d’oeuvres? If they’re going to own you one way or the other, why not enjoy it? Lean in, Shay. Look at me, in this Gucci dress. These bruises? They’re Gucci bruises. It’s the VIP option, trust me. All the other options are this, but worse.”

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42. “There would never be another antagonist more insidious than her own mind.”

— Ashley Winstead