Top 40 Cara Bastone Quotes (2026 Update)

1. “Everyone’s relationships are weird if you look closely enough at them. I have a theory that if your relationship with someone isn’t weird, you don’t know them well enough yet.”

— Cara Bastone

2. “Why count my failures and not my successes?”

— Cara Bastone

3. “You can change your lifestyle and it doesn’t have to change who you are.”

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4. “Some people choose one thing and it becomes their thing and they stick with it no matter what. And there’s merit in that. But I think there’s also merit in searching for a good fit, too. It’s a skill to try and try and try. It takes work and patience and bravery. It’s definitely not something to make fun of. It’s admirable.”

— Cara Bastone

5. “I would argue that dying your hair an unflattering shade of red is actually a really healthy and productive way to get over a breakup. Maybe even a rite of passage.”

— Cara Bastone

6. “Young people. I hate to break it to you, but literally nothing is complicated for young people. You just think it is.”

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7. “Never mind, you weren’t polite. You were a pulsing vein of testosterone. I could tell, simply by your voice, that you could definitely crush a beer can on your forehead.”

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8. “You’ll do what the rest of us do,” he finally says. “And just make it work today.”

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9. “He treats you well?” “Mom, he walked into hell and dragged me back out.”

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10. “There are two hearts in my body right now and in a few months, I’m going to set one of them free into the world.”

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11. “It hurts to realize that the world is so much bigger and more complicated than you thought it was. It’ll always hurt.”

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12. “Well, I can’t promise the sunshine. But I can do everything else.”

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13. “Men are absolute buttheads and for the love of God, please don’t let them dictate your self-worth.”

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14. “He rests his elbow on the doorframe over his head and lets his wrist hang down around forehead level. I can see armpit hair and the scaffolding of his rib cage. Hello, sir, you look like you’ve come to absolutely destroy me.”

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15. “And this journey through grief... It’s what we do for the great loves of our lives.”

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16. “Grief is a relationship... it’s the way we figure out how to keep loving them even though they’re gone. And in order to do that we have to keep going. And going and going.”

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17. “Because you being comfortable in my house is pretty much the only criteria I’m currently using for picking a place.”

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18. “This is a love story, I swear. This is what happens when you’ve promised someone you’ll live again.”

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19. “Eve, for as long as I can remember, I have always wanted to be as close as possible to you.”

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20. “Thank you for kicking in the first place and thank you for kicking when I was flat up against someone who loves me. Thank you for letting someone else remember this moment, treasure it with a hand against my body.”

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21. “It’s a lot of what motherhood is too. Moving from being self-centered to being other-centered.”

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22. “Part of taking care of the people you love is taking care of yourself, right?”

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23. “Here’s the thing about a crush. There is a lot of different kinds. Some of them are happy to pleasantly pluck away at a harp or an acoustic guitar in the corner of your mind. Some of them tap at the mic and ask for center stage. And some of them... some of them fly-tackle you and shove snow down your pants.”

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24. “I don’t know if he’s talking to me or the baby, but it doesn’t really matter. Because right now, in this moment, me and the baby are one thing for Ethan. We’re his family. We made it. All the way here. A nine-month journey. And it’s just beginning.”

— Cara Bastone

25. “I’m never sleeping when I close my eyes like this with you.” “Then what are you doing?” He pauses and I think he might not answer. But then he says, “I’m committing the moment to memory.”

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26. “My erotica stash has never seen so much action. My ebook reader slams a Gatorade when it sees me coming.”

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27. “A secret is only a secret if no one knows about it. What’s a secret that everyone knows but no one talks about? It’s shame.”

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28. “I want something that feels... natural, even if it’s not always sexy. Because relationships change so much while you’re in them. And so do the people. Even if you start out wanting one thing, a few years down the road you might want something completely different.”

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29. “You’re only boring if you think you’re boring.”

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30. “Grief... it’s not like any other emotion. It is utterly discombobulating. Among many other things.”

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31. “Even when I feel ugly, let the love in. Let someone care for me, tenderly, because they love me, not because I can’t do it myself.”

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32. “They’re not lonely. There’s two of them. When a wolf is howling at the moon, it’s not actually because it’s lonely. It’s sort of a location technique, for when members of the pack get separated and they need to find one another. The first one saying, I’m here! I’m here! And then the other one says, Me too! Me too!”

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33. “Lenny, when I look at your face, I feel like I’m finally home after a really long day at work.”

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34. “You have the time?” I ask. “I don’t care. I’ll quit. Where are you?”

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35. “When you finally admit you want someone, the main perk is that you get to ask to have them.”

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36. “He blinks down at me, a slow expression, filled with a depth that only decades of knowing someone can give you. This here is a man who knows me. And I feel known.”

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37. “His Can-I’s are balm for so much that is stinging and raw in my gut. I love his Can-I’s.”

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38. “But what am I supposed to do, wear a sign? Not strung out, just having a debilitating mental health crisis while navigating the most excruciating chapter of my life.”

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39. “So you’ll come with me if I ask?” His eyes pierce me in the shadows of the kitchen. “Lenny, I’ll do anything you ask me to.”

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40. “Just remember. Something good for you, something bad for you, and a change of scenery. That’s the winning formula.”

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41. “Time heals all wounds, they say. Well, I can picture myself in ten years. It’s crystal clear. I’m still sitting on this curb, utterly disoriented that I’m the one still alive and she’s still gone.”

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42. “Consider it like you just had a heart transplant. When Lou died, your entire heart went with her. But you have to live, right? So now you’ve got this new heart. And you’re getting used to it. No one would expect you to run up a hill right after a heart transplant. Go slow. Go easy on yourself.”

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43. “But yeah, part of becoming a mother, for me, was coming to terms with the center of my world being something that wasn’t my own self.”

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44. “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re getting used to a new reality. You don’t know how to live right now. It’ll all come back. You’ll take care of yourself again someday.”

— Cara Bastone