Top 40 Cathy Burnham Martin Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “If someone is not lifting us up, they are holding us down.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

2. “I am calling for uncommon decency. Respect that comes from awareness.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

3. “Encouragers turn mountains into molehills. Discouragers turn molehills into mountains.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

4. “If we were being encouraged and encouraging others, the world would be a far more beautiful place.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

5. “Never let words of encouragement go unsaid.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

6. “There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

7. “Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

8. “Without stormy days, we forget to value sunny skies.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

9. “Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

10. “Folks who scream the loudest get heard, and those who spew the most negative, most repeatedly, get falsely perceived as telling the truth.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

11. “When we resort to screaming at someone, we are revealing weakness and a sense of helplessness. If we can’t seem to get our message or feelings across any other way, then we get angry, and we get loud!”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

12. “Adding more bull to bull yields bigger bull.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

13. “It’s amazing how many cheaters and liars believe they won’t be caught. News Flash: In today’s age of technology, there won’t just be a paper trail. There will be multiple electronic and digital trails, as well.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

14. “Liars are highly unlikely to admit their lies, never mind apologize for the hurt they’ve caused. Liars don’t genuinely apologize. Deceit has become their full-out lifestyle. They are centered on themselves with no thoughts of the consequences of their lies. In cowardly style, they tell more lies to try and cover their tracks. They are not good at admitting they actually have shortcomings.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

15. “Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

16. “If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. They may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

17. “Part of moving forward often involves stumbling a few steps back.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

18. “Sometimes the brightest lights come out of the darkest corners.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

19. “We live far happier lives when we are generous in as many ways as possible.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

20. “We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

21. “Unfortunately, being a professional in any field does not require behaving in a professional manner. It sometimes simply means that a person gets paid for what they do.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

22. “If there were past misdeeds, I do not believe we should nag or repeat them, never mind throw them in someone’s face. If they sincerely apologized and we genuinely forgave them, we must move on. Learn from mistakes, but move on. If we bring them up and toss them at the offender, we may not have actually forgiven them, even if we claim we have.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

23. “Discouragers are the folks who regularly see the glass as half-empty, and they do not want anyone else to get one that’s half full.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

24. “We tend to learn from bad examples, but we should take care not to use bad examples as a rationalization of our own bad behavior.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

25. “Discouragers see the gloom in every room, the cloud on every silver lining, and the problem in front of every situation.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

26. “It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

27. “Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

28. “The destruction of a civilized society by a jealous, violent one is never a good thing for anyone involved.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

29. “Societies that have condoned male cheating and condemned female cheating are simply male-dominated cultures. Cheating is cheating, no matter who is doing it. It’s wrong.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

30. “The silence was doomed to be deafening, as it echoed the local hushing of a generation.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

31. “Discouragers talk at you. Discouragers genuinely want you to hear their opinions.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

32. “Rebooting our enthusiasm is like deciding to become our own best coach, rather than our own worst enemy.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

33. “All we need to do is get those nervous butterflies in our stomachs flying in formation.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

34. “It requires neither time nor money to be kind.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

35. “Should we “expect” our physical, sexual, intellectual, and emotional intimacies to automatically continue throughout a marriage? Nope. At least, not in my opinion. But I do think we should be able to expect both partners to protect and preserve the sanctity of these intimacies. That, to me, is part of honest loyalty.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

36. “We hurt no one when we encourage them to keep on keeping on, to not give up, to recognize how far they’ve come.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

37. “Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

38. “We are imperfect humans and are bound to need attitude adjustments from time to time.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

39. “Making it real starts with our attitude.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

40. “Fairness is dealt out fairly.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

41. “I can only imagine that future generations will consider us to have been barbaric for our intolerance of differences.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

42. “We want to be with Encouragers, and we want to be like them.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

43. “It matters not which partner is bringing negativity into conversations and exchanges. Toxicity has no place at all between people who have promised to love each other.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

44. “When we fail to be tolerant of others, we fail.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

45. “No one else “makes” us do anything. They can’t make us nag them, or make us angry, or make us have to strike out at them, or make us drink alcohol, or make us yell at them, or anything else. We are responsible for our choices, including our responses and reactions.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

46. “As humans, it’s our birthright to live and learn. Experience is the best teacher, but that’s especially true when we can learn from someone else’s experience.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin

47. “Great memories really can help overwhelm grief.”

— Cathy Burnham Martin