Top 70 Durga Chew-Bose Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “Memory is trust open to doubt.”

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2. “Nook people express appreciation in the moment by maintaining how much we will miss what is presently happening. Our priorities are spectacularly disordered. A nook person might spend the last few years of her twenties thinking she is dying. Convinced of it. Nook.”

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3. “First love is all sensation and ambient zooms, and letting the world ebb. Like writing, occasionally, it feels combustive. Greedy. It’s unsophisticated and coaxes you into making promises about the far future and imbibing the moment. Into growing gullible fast, frantically so, and forgetting about yourself – about your exception. Writing does the same. It lays siege.”

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4. “Or when I meet someone new who loves a movie just as I’ve loved that movie; who speaks at such a clip about it – tenderly, contagiously – that I forget to speak at all and smile like a fool because, now and then, meeting new people isn’t so terrible. Even.”

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5. “In childhood, having a sister, especially if she was older, meant sharing a wall with – it’s possible – some likeness of your near-future self. Movies, books, the March sisters, all of it, devised a rubric that engrossed me because sisterhood amounted to what I envied: not having to learn how to join.”

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6. “I counted them and double-checked because extra-small things bring out the extra-small person in me who sometimes even triple-checks things; who still chances certainty might exist in asking, “Promise me?”

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7. “It still comes as a shock to me how irreversible life is. How there’s no going back to whatever version of me existed before I saw that movie – the kind that switches me on to new streaks of consciousness by showing me a woman I feel strangely, formerly, acquainted with.”

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8. “Nook people can overstate their love for a movie, having only watched it once. They are alert to how some spectacles become basically unbearable the second time. And, well, there are benefits to claiming something you’ve only experienced once as your favorite. It’s useful to have many favorites.”

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9. “Resurfacing is nonpareil. And splitting a sandwich with someone you’ve said maybe two words to all morning is idyllic.”

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10. “Memory fans out from imagination, and vice versa, and why not. Memory isn’t a well but an offshoot. It goes secretly. Comes apart. Deceives. It’s guilty of repurposing the meaning of deep meaning and poking fun at what you’ve emotionalized.”

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11. “And in those moments when the two of them are playing dead, I quietly climb back upstairs because, as time passes and as I spot my parents doing young, lighthearted things, I’m overrun by some cruel and preoccupying sense that I’m watching the memory of them.”

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12. “A nook person finds the dog at the party; drinks wine from a mug; sits on the floor and braids carpet tassels only to become self-conscious and unbraid them.”

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13. “At any rate, isn’t it lovely to, once in a while, feel small in the presence of your friend? Awed. Fortunate to experience nearness that calls upon space.”

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14. “Or how staring at ocean water so blue, it leaves me bereft. In postcards, I’ll scribble “So blue!” because, what else?”

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15. “Even when I was nothing, I was arriving.”

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16. “It’s an elbow propped on the edge of a table when you’re wrapping up an argument, or to signify you’re just getting started. An elbow propped on the edge of a table is an adverb.”

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17. “Change, I’ve come to understand, rises up like nausea: the promise of relief is what makes it bearable.”

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18. “Women who are in no rush to respond to a world that’s only conceived them as its consequence.”

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19. “Writing is losing focus and winning it back, only to lose it once more.”

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20. “Even when a thought springs fresh in my mind on the subway and solves an essay I’d just about abandoned. On the rare occasion my subconscious welds, language has a gift, I’ve learned, for humiliating those luminous random acts of creative flash into impossible-to-secure hobbling duds. The best ideas outrun me. That’s why I write.”

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21. “Because nook people are turned on by and twig how terribly normal it is to drop out of life occasionally.”

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22. “Smallness can make you feel extra porous. Extra ambitious. Like a small dog carrying an enormous branch clenched in its teeth, as if intimating to the world: Okay. Where to?”

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23. “There’s a type of inborn initiative that comes from having never been obligated to answer questions about one’s name, or one’s country of so-called origin, or to explain the way you look is generationally and geographically worlds apart from where you were born. Since childhood, there’s been this assumption that I owe strangers an answer when they inquire about matters I myself struggle to have words for, let alone understand.”

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24. “Sick for my body before. Before I’d ever noticed I was in possession of one. Before fulllengths. Before I knew anything about valleyed collarbones, a stomach’s folds, smooth legs, small wrists.”

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25. “I don’t require much to feel far-removed; to impose my wanderings on what’s close. Because of this, my friend and I have started calling ourselves nook people. Those of us who seek corners and bays in order to redeploy our hearts and not break the mood. Those of us who retreat in order to cubicle our flame. Who collect sea glass. Who value a deep pants pocket. Who are our own understudies and may as well have shadowboxes for brains.”

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26. “The whole Esther Williams of it all. The ostrich ballet. Like pirouetting feather dusters; their paddle feet in fourth position.”

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27. “Nook people are those of us who need solitude, but also the sound of someone puttering in the next room.”

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28. “That spiked measure of awe – of oof – feels like a general slowing, even though what’s really taking place is nothing short of a general quickening. The sheer, ensorcelled panic of feeling moved. Infirmed by what switches me on but also awake and unexpectedly cured. Similar to how sniffing a lemon when I’m carsick heals.”

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29. “A woman carries her inner life – lugs it around or holds it in fumes that both poison and bless her – while nourishing another’s inner life, many others actually, while never revealing too much madness, or, possibly, never revealing where she stores it: her island of lost mind.”

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30. “Nook people confuse emotional truth with other varieties of truth. They are a composite of the last person who complimented them and the next person who might ignore them, and also whomever or whatever they consider themselves a child of.”

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31. “Watching movies was, and still is, an opportunity for my heart to rush irregularly while the cost, for me, remains low.”

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32. “If you share too much of yourself, you risk growing into someone who has nothing unacknowledged.”

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33. “The genius of the word is that it’s more of an expression than a word.”

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34. “There are so many photos I’ve never seen and questions I do not ask, because seeing them and asking them, I worry, precipitates an end.”

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35. “No matter how lackluster its surroundings, within seconds, all was new again for a goldfish because it had figured out how to repair its sense of spectacle.”

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36. “And besides, it feels more covert to have no evidence. To believe that something you’ve experienced will build on your extent – your extent as a person who sees things, and is moved by things – without ever having to prove those things happened exactly as they happened.”

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37. “I’ve tried writing with that belief in mind, discovering instead how deep inhales and the release of a strong exhale are furthest from writing’s doubled-up glove.”

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38. “Writing is a closed pistachio shell.”

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39. “There’s strength in observing one’s miniaturization. That you are insignificant and prone to, and God knows, dumb about a lot. Because doesn’t smallness prime us to eventually take up space? For instance, the momentum gained from reading a great book. After after, sitting, sleeping, living in its consequence. A book that makes you feel, finally, latched on.”

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40. “How it’s frantic enough to summon past jealousies, no matter how beyond them you think you are.”

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41. “Because there is trust too, in feeling small.”

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42. “Is there something to be learned from fast tenderness that wanes just as fast as it forms?”

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43. “Even then, when time decelerates and the relative importance of our lives, of our hurry, undergoes a sudden, essential audit; even then, our heart never stops.”

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44. “Then again, maybe that’s why I’m drawn to wonder: it pays no attention to priorities.”

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45. “Until you write what is detectable but dislodges you. Like the smell of cinnamon.”

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46. “What I enjoy is this. Responding to an artist’s work as if it were a missive. A film can be a fling I’ll cool with sentences I address to the director but that I’ll tuck into this essay instead.”

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47. “Even when I’m caught off guard by a lathery shade of peach on the bottom corner of a painting at the Met, as if being reminded that I haven’t seen all the colors, and how there’s more to see, and how one color’s newness can invalidate all of my sureness.”

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48. “She is all at once unused but oh, so used up. Or very used to. Why is it that when a woman is occupied by the voice in her head, or the wear of her day, or the landscape that passes through her eyes like windows on a train, the world assumes she is up for grabs? A vacant stare does not mean vacancy.”

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49. “Even then, when I felt tremendously sad in my lovely dress, my heart did not stop.”

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50. “Nook people know the words to a movie by heart but never say them out loud because anticipation is an asset. Because there’s no interrupting Katharine Hepburn when she’s interrupting herself: “Aren’t the geraniums pretty, Professor?”

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