Top 500 Fredrik Backman Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “Boats that stay in the harbor are safe, sweetheart, but that’s not what boats were built for.”

— Fredrik Backman

2. “Culture isn’t just what we encourage but what we allow to happen.”

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3. “If you want to achieve what no one else can, you have to do what no one else wants to do.”

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4. “Train hard, win easy.” “Team before individual.”

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5. “You don’t have to prove anything to anyone anymore. You’re good enough.”

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6. “He was a man of black and white. And she was color. All the color he had.”

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7. “If you spend your whole life being someone else, who will be you?”

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8. “It wasn’t your fault.”

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9. “A long marriage is complicated. So complicated, in fact, that most people in one sometimes ask themselves: ‘Am I still married because I’m in love, or just because I can’t be bothered to let anyone else get to know me this well again?”

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10. “Because life is all about the small margins.”

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11. “You can do a million things right, but if you do one single thing wrong you’re forever that parent who was checking his phone in the park when your child was.”

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12. “Loving someone is like moving into a house. At first you fall in love with all the new things, then over the years the walls become weathered, the wood splinters here and there, and you start to love that house not so much because of all its perfection, but rather its imperfections.”

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13. “Everyone has their own struggle.”

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14. “Ignore everything else, just concentrate on the things you can change.”

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15. “I want you to always remember that you can become whatever you want to become, but that’s nowhere near as important as knowing that you can be exactly who you are.”

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16. “The path back to normal life is indescribably long once death has swept the feet out from under those of us who are left. Grief is a wild animal that drags us so far out into the darkness that we can’t imagine ever getting home again. Ever laughing again. It hurts in such a way that you can never really figure out if it actually passes or if you just get used to it.”

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17. “We’re bad losers, because a good loser is someone who’s used to losing!”

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18. “A great deal is expected of anyone who’s been given a lot.”

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19. “Having a grandmother is like having an army. This is a grandchild’s ultimate privilege: knowing that someone is on your side, always, whatever the details. Even when you are wrong. Especially then, in fact. A grandmother is both a sword and a shield.”

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20. “Hate can be a deeply stimulating emotion. The world becomes much easier to understand and much less terrifying if you divide everything and everyone into friends and enemies, we and they, good and evil. The easiest way to unite a group isn’t through love, because love is hard. It makes demands. Hate is simple.”

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21. “For me, culture is as much about what we encourage as what we actually permit.” David asked what he meant by that, and Sune replied: “That most people don’t do what we tell them to. They do what we let them get away with.”

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22. “He said that even if he knew that the world was going to hell tomorrow, he’d plant an apple tree today.”

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23. “Granny says people who think slowly always accuse quick thinkers of concentration problems. “Idiots can’t understand that non-idiots are done with a thought and already moving on to the next before they themselves have. That’s why idiots are always so scared and aggressive. Because nothing scares idiots more than a smart girl.”

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24. “Human beings are the only animals that smile as a gesture of peace, whereas other animals show their teeth as a threat. This is perfectly understandable now; she can see the animal inside the human being.”

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25. “Grief is a wild animal that drags us so far out into the darkness that we can’t imagine ever getting home again. Ever laughing again. It hurts in such a way that you can never really figure out if it actually passes or if you just get used to it.”

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26. “There’s nothing wrong with being different. Granny said that only different people change the world.”

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27. “But we weren’t ready to become adults. Someone should have stopped us.”

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28. “To you who talk too much and sing too loud and cry too often and love something in life more than you should.”

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29. “Culture is as much about what we encourage as what we permit.”

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30. “They say that a person’s personality is the sum of their experiences. But that isn’t true, at least not entirely, because if our past was all that defined us, we’d never be able to put up with ourselves. We need to be allowed to convince ourselves that we’re more than the mistakes we made yesterday. That we are all of our next choices, too, all of our tomorrows.”

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31. “It just hurts so much at times, being human. Not understanding yourself, not liking the body you’re stuck in. Seeing your eyes in the mirror and wondering whose they are, always with the same question: “What’s wrong with me? Why do I feel like this?”

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32. “If you are honest, people may deceive you. Be honest anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfishness. Be kind anyway. All the good you do today will be forgotten by others tomorrow. Do good anyway.”

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33. “You never have the sort of friends you have when you’re fifteen ever again. Even if you keep them for the rest of your life, it’s never the same as it was then.”

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34. “One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star.”

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35. “You try to be a good parent, in every way, but you never know how. It’s not a difficult job. Just impossible.”

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36. “She suffers from being so organized – if you show you’re capable, you get even more to do, that’s the curse of being a smart girl.”

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37. “Hockey is a simple sport: when your desire to win is stronger than your fear of losing, you have a chance. No one wins when they’re frightened.”

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38. “That most people don’t do what we tell them to. They do what we let them get away with.”

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39. “And when enough people are quiet for long enough, a handful of voices can give the impression that everyone is screaming.”

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40. “It’s always very easy to declare that other people are idiots, but only if you forget how idiotically difficult being human is.”

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41. “My dad says pressure is a privilege. If you don’t feel pressure, that’s just because you’ve never done anything valuable enough for people to have expectations of you.”

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42. “Everyone is a hundred different things, but in other people’s eyes we usually get the chance to be only one of them.”

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43. “We don’t have a plan, we just do our best to get through the day, because there’ll be another one coming along tomorrow.”

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44. “Team before self. Club before individual.”

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45. “If you can’t depend on someone being on time, you shouldn’t trust them with anything more important either.”

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46. “So play. Learn. Grow up. Follow your passions. Find someone to love. Do your best. Be kind when you can, tough when you need to be. Hold on to your friends. Don’t go against the direction of the painted arrows in the floor. You’ll be just fine.”

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47. “One of the first things you learn as a leader, whether you choose the position of have it forced upon you, is that leadership is as much about what you don’t say as what you do say.”

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48. “Because if you want to become the best at something, you have to sacrifice everything else.”

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49. “What feels comfortable for the parents isn’t what’s best for the child...”

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50. “All that awaited her were a thousand sunrises where life is a beautiful prison.”

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