Top 80 Ichiro Kishimi Quotes (2024 Update)
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51. “When you treat a person’s life as a vast narrative, there is an easily understandable causality and sense of dramatic development that creates strong impressions and is extremely attractive. But Adler, in denial of the trauma argument, states the following: ‘No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences – the so-called trauma – but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes.”

— Ichiro Kishimi

52. “You are probably rejecting normality because you equate being normal with being incapable. Being normal is not being incapable. One does not need to flaunt one’s superiority.”

— Ichiro Kishimi

53. “The children are not obeying you, they are only submitting to authority. They do not entertain the slightest thought of understanding you. They just cover their ears and shut their eyes and wait for the storm of your rage to pass.”

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54. “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.”

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55. “A way of living in which one is constantly troubled by how one is seen by others is a self-centered lifestyle in which one’s sole concern is with the “I.”

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56. “Does one choose recognition from others, or does one choose a path of freedom without recognition?”

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57. “If you think you are right, regardless of what other people’s opinions might be, the matter should be closed then and there.”

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58. “Rather than simply playing with them, enjoy the activity yourself. If you do, the children may at last have the real feeling that they are being recognised; that they are not being treated as children; that they are being given respect as individual human beings.”

— Ichiro Kishimi

59. “If you end up staying in aetiology, you will be bound by the past and never be able to find happiness.”

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60. “But you are unhappy now because you yourself chose being unhappy. Not because you were born under an unlucky star.”

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61. “PHILOSOPHER: Instead of seeking approval, one has to approve oneself, with one’s own mind.”

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62. “But we choose our lifestyles ourselves. It’s clear where the responsibility lies.”

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63. “Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures; they’re of no value.”

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64. “You are not living to satisfy other people’s expectations, and neither am I. It is not necessary to satisfy other people’s expectations.”

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65. “Destiny is something you create with your own two hands.”

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66. “What is change?’ If we go out on a limb and use an extreme expression, carrying out change is ‘death itself’.”

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67. “If one really has confidence in oneself, one doesn’t feel the need to boast. It’s because one’s feeling of inferiority is strong that one boasts.”

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68. “There will always be more ‘you and I’, and more ‘everyone’, and larger communities that exist.”

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69. “We have to get past our obstinate self-centredness and stop trying to be the centre of the world. One has to break away from ‘me’. One has to break away from one’s pampered childhood lifestyle.”

— Ichiro Kishimi

70. “We do not lack ability. We just lack courage. It all comes down to courage.”

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71. “The fact that there are people who do not think well of you is proof that you are living in freedom.”

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72. “We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.”

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73. “One needs to think not What will this person give me? but, rather, What can I give to this person? That is commitment to the community.”

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74. “All you can do in regard to your own life is choose the best path that you believe in.”

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75. “But if you are afraid to have confidence in others, in the long run, you will not be able to build deep relationships with anyone.”

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76. “In every way, violence is a low-cost, easy means of communication. But before deeming it morally unacceptable, we must say that it is a rather immature form of conduct for people to engage in.”

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77. “Viewed from the standpoint of the division of labour, all professions are honourable.”

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78. “Children are not cruel – it’s just that they don’t know. They do not know what life is worth, or about other people’s pain.”

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79. “Relationships in which people restrict each other eventually fall apart. Restriction... is a manifestation of the mind-set of attempting to control one’s partner, and also an idea founded on a sense of distrust.”

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80. “You say you wish you had known this ten years ago. It is because Adler’s thought resonates with you now that you are thinking this. No one knows how you would have felt about it ten years ago. This discussion was something that you needed to hear now.”

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81. “If you lived all alone, wouldn’t you be horribly lonely? PHILOSOPHER: Oh, but being alone isn’t what makes you feel lonely. Loneliness is having other people and society and community around you, and having a deep sense of being excluded from them. To feel lonely, we need other people. That is to say, it is only in social contexts that a person becomes an ‘individual’.”

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82. “Being self-centred does not mean looking only at oneself because one likes oneself. In actuality, the opposite is the case, and it is because one is unable to accept oneself as one is, and because one is constantly beset with anxiety, that one has concern only for oneself.”

— Ichiro Kishimi

83. “He is saying not just to love one’s neighbour, but to love them as much as one loves oneself. If one cannot love oneself, one cannot love others. If one cannot believe in oneself, one cannot believe in others. Please think of the phrase as carrying that connotation. You are insisting that you cannot believe in other people, but that is because you have not managed to truly believe in yourself.”

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84. “Three things are needed at this point: “self-acceptance,” “confidence in others,” and “contribution to others.”

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85. “The birth of society is, in other words, the birth of suffering.”

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