Top 280 Irvin D. Yalom Quotes (2025 Update)
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101. “Perhaps,” said Nietzsche, “only by being a man does a man release the woman in woman.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

102. “Beginning therapists must learn that there are times to sit in silence, sometimes in silent communion, sometimes simply while waiting for patients’ thoughts to appear in a form that they may be expressed.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

103. “It’s no great mystery. If no one will listen, it’s only natural to shout!”

— Irvin D. Yalom

104. “Ask yourself, ‘Who are the secure ones, the comfortable, the eternally cheerful?’ I’ll tell you the answer: only those with dull vision-the common people and the children.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

105. “To build children you must first be built yourself. Otherwise, you’ll seek children out of animal needs, or loneliness, or to patch the holes in yourself. Your task as a parent is to produce not another self, another Josef, but something higher. It’s to produce a creator.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

106. “I dream of a love in which two people share a passion to search together for some higher truth. Perhaps I should not call it love. Perhaps it’s real name is friendship.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

107. “Knowledge is limited, only stupidity is unlimited.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

108. “He was saying, fulfill yourself, realize your potential, live boldly and fully. Then, and only then, die without regret.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

109. “One of the first steps in therapy is to identify the here-and-now equivalents of your patient’s interpersonal problems. An essential part of your education is to learn to focus on the here-and-now. You must develop here-and-now rabbit ears.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

110. “The greatest wisdom is to make the enjoyment of the present the supreme object of life because that is the only reality; all else being the play of thought. But it might as well be our greatest folly because that which exists only a moment and vanishes as a dream can never be worth a serious effort.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

111. “Am invatat in munca mea, ca se tem cel mai mult de moarte cei care se apropie de ea avand prea multa viata netraita in ei. Cel mai bine este sa ne folosim toata viata. Sa nu-i lasam mortii decat drojdiile, nimic altceva decat un castel ars pana in temelii.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

112. “Fiecare alegere presupune o renuntare, si fiecare renuntare ne face constienti de limitare si temporalitate.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

113. “He is civilized, polite, a man of manners. He has tamed his wild nature, turned his wolf into a spaniel. And he calls this moderation. Its real name is mediocrity!”

— Irvin D. Yalom

114. “You wonder about a conversation with nothing concealed – its real name is hell, I believe. To disclose oneself to another is the prelude to betrayal, and betrayal makes one sick, does it not?”

— Irvin D. Yalom

115. “Husserl – he’s one of the greats. His term noema refers to the thing as we experience it, the thing as structured by us.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

116. “Creating yourself is a source of great pride, but it also leads to a feeling of having no foundations. I’ve known many gifted children of immigrants who have a sense of being lilies growing in a swamp – beautiful flowers but no deep roots.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

117. “At the end of his life, no man, if he be sincere and in possession of his faculties, would ever wish to go though it again. Rather than this, he will much prefer to choose complete nonexistence.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

118. “For one can never really be helped by another; one must find the strength to help oneself.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

119. “Abraham Lincoln is reputed to have said that if he had eight hours to cut down a tree, he’d spend several of these hours sharpening his ax.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

120. “Some people are wish-blocked, knowing neither what they feel nor what they want. Without opinions, without impulses, without inclinations, they become parasites on the desires of others.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

121. “No rose without a thorn. But many a thorn without a rose.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

122. “If we do not want to be a plaything in the hands of every rogue and the object of every fool’s ridicule, the first rule is to be reserved and inaccessible.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

123. “One thing he resolved was not to make that one good year a bad year by grieving that it was not more than a year.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

124. “Lucretius’ maxim: ‘Where I am, death is not; where death is, I am not.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

125. “To live in despair because life is finite or because life has no higher purpose or embedded design is crass ingratitude.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

126. “This world is supposed to have been made by a God? No, much better by a devil!”

— Irvin D. Yalom

127. “Above all, the therapist must be prepared to go wherever the patient goes, do all that is necessary to continue building trust and safety in the relationship.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

128. “What is immortal is this life, this moment. There is no afterlife, no goal toward which this life points, no apocalyptic tribunal or judgment. This moment exists forever, and you, alone, are your only audience.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

129. “We need to go even further: the therapist must strive to create a new therapy for each patient.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

130. “Therapists must convey to the patient that their paramount task is to build a relationship together that will itself become the agent of change.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

131. “Nu experientele in sine, ci felul in care le interpretam determina calitatea vietii noastre.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

132. “Spinoza says that reason is no match for passion and what we must do is to turn reason into a passion.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

133. “To my mind, personal psychotherapy is, by far, the most important part of psychotherapy training.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

134. “People like people who are interested in them.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

135. “Parerga and Paralipomena offers lessons on how to think independently, how to retain skepticism and rationality, how to avoid soothing supernatural emollients, how to think well of ourselves, keep our stakes low, and avoid attaching ourselves to what can be lost.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

136. “Isi amintea, de asemenea, ca ramasese in bratele ei prea mult. Exact acesta fusese motivul pentru care o considerase periculoasa si se hotarase pe loc sa nu se mai intalneasca cu ea. Reprezenta o amenintare pentru libertatea lui. Ceea ce urmarise el fusese detensionarea sexuala rapida...”

— Irvin D. Yalom

137. “To help someone, I believe you have to enter into that person’s world.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

138. “One of the great paradoxes of life is that self-awareness breeds anxiety.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

139. “When a man is prey to his emotions, he is not his own master, but lies at the mercy of fortune.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

140. “Therapists have a dual role: they must both observe and participate in the lives of their patients. As observer, one must be sufficiently objective to provide necessary rudimentary guidance to the patient. As participant, one enters into the life of the patient and is affected and sometimes changed by the encounter. In.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

141. “The last gift a parent can give to children is to teach them, through example, how to face death with equanimity.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

142. “Trebuie sa ai in tine haos si frenezie pentru a da nastere unei stele care danseaza.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

143. “All of us are creatures of a day; the rememberer and the remembered alike. All is ephemeral – both memory and the object of memory. The time is at hand when you will have forgotten everything; and the time is at hand when all will have forgotten you. Always reflect that soon you will be no one, and nowhere.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

144. “If we cannot embrace our own aloneness, we will simply use the other as a shield against isolation. Only.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

145. “There is no human deed or thought that lies fully outside the experience of other people.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

146. “I have noted two particularly powerful and common methods of allaying fears about death, two beliefs, or delusions, that afford a sense of safety. One is the belief in personal specialness; the other, the belief in an ultimate rescuer.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

147. “Like you, I have often wondered why fears reign at night. After twenty years of such wondering, I now believe that fears are not born of darkness; rather, fears are like the stars – always there, but obscured by the glare of daylight. “And.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

148. “We humans appear to be meaning-seeking creatures who have had the misfortune of being thrown into a world devoid of intrinsic meaning. One of our major tasks is to invent a meaning sturdy enough to support a life and to perform the tricky maneuver of denying our personal authorship of this meaning. Thus we conclude instead that it was “out there” waiting for us. Our ongoing search for substantial meaning systems often throws us into crises of meaning.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

149. “The more the therapist is able to tolerate the anxiety of not knowing, the less need there is for the therapist to embrace orthodoxy.”

— Irvin D. Yalom

150. “Should we not create – should we not become – before we reproduce? Our responsibility to life is to create the higher, not to reproduce the lower.”

— Irvin D. Yalom