Top 450 Joyce Carol Oates Quotes (2025 Update)
Page 5 of 10

201. “I work very slowly. It’s like building a ladder, where you’re building your own ladder rung by rung, and you’re climbing the ladder. It’s not the best way to build a ladder, but I don’t know any other way.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

202. “Like a flame is real enough, isn’t it, while it’s burning?-even if there’s a time it goes out?”

— Joyce Carol Oates

203. “Flying fosters fantasies of childhood, of omnipotence, rapid shifts of being, miraculous moments; it stirs our capacity for dreaming.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

204. “Living’s immediacy, you go full sail, you’re in a fever of motion. Until it’s safe and past and done and dead and you can say, like waking from a dream, “Yes I was happy then, yes now it’s all over I can see I was happy then.” Maybe that’s the advantage of dying?”

— Joyce Carol Oates

205. “You have hardened your heart against your “American cousin.” It was courageous in the memoir to state so clearly how you had to harden your heart against so much, to survive. Americans believe that suffering makes saints of us, which is a joke. Still I realize you have no time for me in your life now. There is no “purpose” to me. Even.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

206. “The novel is the affliction for which only the novel is the cure.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

207. “After love a formal feeling comes.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

208. “You can think of your life as the mistakes you made that catch up with you finally.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

209. “A library is a mausoleum: books of the dead. And so many. And so many secrets lost to him forever. Hadn’t time for it all and if he couldn’t do it all then there was no point in doing any of it. For such an effort would be like drawing a single breath in the knowledge that you would not draw another. You were fated to suffocate, to die. You were fated to become extinct.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

210. “It must happen to everyone. The last time you make love, you can’t know it will be the last.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

211. “Your punishment if you’re a woman. Not loved enough.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

212. “Strange: how when a light is extinguished, it’s immediately as if it has never been. Darkness fills in again, complete.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

213. “First marriage, and nothing so sweet! You don’t know it at the time.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

214. “I don’t think that writer’s block exists really. I think that when you’re trying to do something prematurely, it just won’t come. Certain subjects just need time, as I’ve learned over and over again. You’ve got to wait before you write about them.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

215. “Her wish to die was as pervasive as a dial tone: you lift the receiver, it’s always there.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

216. “Asked by a journalist how he had felt after an unsuccessful election, Abraham Lincoln said, Like a little boy who stubbed his toe in the dark, he was too old to cry but it hurt too much to laugh.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

217. “Yes, I’ve listened to just a few audiobooks – but hope to listen to more. I’ve wanted to investigate how my own books sound in this format and find the experience of listening, and not reading, quite fascinating.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

218. “SO RISKY, to love another person! Like flaying your own, outermost skin. Exposed to the crude air and every kind of infection.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

219. “Princeton is quite integrated. Women are professors at Princeton. Women are students at Princeton. That began in the 1970s.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

220. “That’s how a thing starts out real then ends up just an idea.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

221. “Maidstone exerts a curious spell upon the observer: suggesting, in its somewhat blunt, foursquare architecture, and its towering chimneys and exceptionally tall, narrow, and “brooding” windows, frequently kept shuttered, an unusual blend of the funereal and the sublime. As.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

222. “Art does the same things dreams do. We have a hunger for dreams and art fulfills that hunger. So much of real life is a disappointment. That’s why we have art.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

223. “The minutiae of our lives! Telephone calls, errands, appointments. None of these is of the slightest significance to others and but fleetingly to us yet they constitute such a portion of our lives, it might be argued that our lives are a concatenation of minutiae interrupted at unpredictable times by significant events.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

224. “Probably nothing serious or worthwhile can be accomplished without one’s willingness to be alone for sustained periods of time, which is not to say that one must live alone, obsessively.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

225. “The punishment – to the body, the brain, the spirit – a man must endure to become even a moderately good boxer is inconceivable to most of us whose idea of personal risk is largely ego-related or emotional.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

226. “One writes to memorialize, and to bring to life again that which has been lost.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

227. “There are boxers possessed of such remarkable intuition, such uncanny prescience, one would think they were somehow recalling their fights, not fighting them as we watch.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

228. “Nowhere in a hospital can you walk without blundering into the memory pools of strangers – their dread of what was imminent in their lives, their false hopes, the wild elation of their hopes, their sudden terrible and irrefutable knowledge; you would not wish to hear echoes of their whispered exchanges – But he was looking so well yesterday, what has happened to him overnight –.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

229. “My writing is often a way of ‘bearing witness’ for others who lack the education and the opportunity to tell their own stories, so I hope that my writing won’t be affected too much by my personal life.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

230. “I come from people who did not go to college. They didn’t even finish high school. People who one might call ordinary Americans who are very hard-working.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

231. “In no other sport is the connection between performer and observer so intimate, so frequently painful, so unresolved.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

232. “I believe in uttering the truth, even if it hurts. Particularly if it hurts.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

233. “There’s a sort of melancholy romance to the experience of being lonesome. I think of reading as a kind of romantic alone activity that you’re doing. The image would include being curled up somewhere on a rainy day and you’re reading very intensely involved in a world that no one can see because it’s inside your head.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

234. “Josiah feel that, for a moment, he’d been cast back to his adolescent self on this very campus: essentially, a claustrophobic little world of privilege and anxiety in which one was made to care too much about too little.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

235. “Like most people, I can be very easily hurt.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

236. “My writing is full of lives I might have led.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

237. “What does it mean to be born? After we die, will it be the same thing as it was before we were born? Or a different kind of nothingness? Because there might be knowledge then. Memory.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

238. “Only in love is there trust – even the possibility of trust.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

239. “I am always reading or thinking about reading.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

240. “It’s not hard to write poorly. But to write something good, it has to be revised.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

241. “No, the thing is, we all love storytelling, and as a writer you get to tell stories all the time.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

242. “And so you must grant to God what is God and not try to think of what you have lost, for that way is madness.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

243. “Ambitious, absorbing, and poignantly moving.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

244. “Henry James’s later works would have been better had he resisted that curious sort of self-indulgence, dictating to a secretary. The roaming garrulousness of ordinary speech is usually corrected when it’s transcribed into written prose.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

245. “I don’t think that any ‘ism’ is higher than literature or art. So I’m a formalist. I greatly honor and respect the form of a work.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

246. “Where there must be a choice, a girl will choose Daddy. Even if you are Mommy, you concede that this must be so: you remember when you were a girl, too.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

247. “I compose most of my tweets with care, as if they were aphorisms – they are not usually dashed-off. Sometimes I’m surprised by the high, poetic quality of Twitter – it lends itself to a surreal sort of self-expression.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

248. “Novels usually evolve out of ‘character.’ Characters generate stories, and the shape of a novel is entirely imagined but should have an aesthetic coherence.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

249. “Our lives can only be interpreted in retrospect, yet must be lived from day to day, blindly. What folly, the human condition!”

— Joyce Carol Oates

250. “A familiar story, Marya instructs herself – a woman yearning to be completed in a man, by way of a man. As if she hadn’t a soul of her own.”

— Joyce Carol Oates