Top 450 Joyce Carol Oates Quotes (2025 Update)
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301. “In marriage, the most intense conversations are often with oneself.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

302. “What’ve I got to do, to prove how much I love you? Blow us all away?”

— Joyce Carol Oates

303. “To the young there are no degrees of old just as there are no degrees of dead – either you are, or you are not.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

304. “Even if I seemed to remember, I could not know. For just to remember something is not to know if it really happened. That is a primary fact of the inner life, the most difficult fact with which we must live.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

305. “It struck her to the heart, left her weak, disoriented, that, to Michael Mulvaney, after all, his family wasn’t quite enough.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

306. “Words are like wild birds – they will come when they wish, not when they are bidden.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

307. “As if whoever it was held that camera was her closest friend. Or maybe it was the camera that was her closest friend.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

308. “Except that awards are competitive, which is a negative thing, they are wonderful for singling out deserving individuals and bringing their work to the attention of many potential readers who might otherwise have been totally unaware of them.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

309. “The standards for horror fiction should be no less than those for ‘serious literary’ fiction in which originality of concept, depth of characters, and attentiveness to language are vitally important.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

310. “It is utterly naive, futile, uninformed – to think that our species is exceptional. So designated to master the beasts of the Earth, as in the Book of Genesis!”

— Joyce Carol Oates

311. “Why the need, rising in some very nearly to the level of compulsion, to verify experience by way of language?-to scrupulously record and preserve the very passing of Time?”

— Joyce Carol Oates

312. “Truths are the last thing you learn about your family. By the time you learn, you’re no longer their child.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

313. “Then the noise faded and Legs squinted up at the sky, the moon so bright you’d never think it could be merely rock like the earth’s common rock and lifeless, merely reflected light from an invisible sun and not a powerful living light of its own...”

— Joyce Carol Oates

314. “This was before voice mail, recorded phone messages you can’t escape. Life was easier then. You just didn’t pick up the phone.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

315. “You need so much energy and encouragement to write that if someone says something negative, some of that energy goes.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

316. “There was a Greek philosopher who taught that, of all things, not to have been born is the sweetest state. But I believe sleep is the sweetest state. You’re dead, yet alive. There’s no sensation so exquisite.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

317. “We never have time, do we, for all that we don’t exactly want to do.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

318. “Very few writers of distinction in fact were outstanding as undergraduates.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

319. “Writing is the most solitary of arts.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

320. “I am thinking of having a T-shirt printed: Yes my husband died. Yes I am very sad. Yes you are kind to offer condolences. Now can we change the subject?”

— Joyce Carol Oates

321. “I am inclined to think that as I grow older I will come to be infatuated with the art of revision, and there may come a time when I will dread giving up a novel at all.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

322. “Legs was always proud even before FOXFIRE, that’s the primary fact about Legs Sadovsky: pride.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

323. “Criticism is, for me, like essay writing, a wonderful way of relaxation; it doesn’t require a heightened and mediated voice, like prose fiction, but rather a calm, rational, even conversational voice.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

324. “I can’t say I was a very successful sorority girl.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

325. “That I was sleeping at a time when my husband was dying is so horrible a thought, I can’t confront it.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

326. “There could be no romance in the terrible possibility that Gretel Nissenbaum had fled on foot, alone, not to her family but simply to escape from her life; in what exigency of need, what despondency of spirit, no name might be given it by any who have not experienced it.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

327. “The denial of language is a suicidal one and we pay for it with our own lives.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

328. “Writing! The activity for which the only adequate bribe is the possibility of suicide, one day.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

329. “Early publication can be a dubious blessing: we all know writers who would give anything not to have published their first book, and go about trying to buy up all existing copies.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

330. “Still, I am angry with him. I am very angry with him. With my poor dead defenseless husband, I am furious as I was rarely – perhaps never – furious with him, in life. How can I forgive you, you’ve ruined both our lives.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

331. “If I’m writing, I’ll say something metaphorical or approximate, whereas scientists are very precise.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

332. “Of our hurts we make monuments of survival. If we survive.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

333. “I will be the clinician of my own pathology.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

334. “At such rare times you can feel the electrically charged neurons of the prefrontal brain realigning themselves like iron fillings drawn by a magnet.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

335. “The body can’t distinguish between cleansing and punishing for the body is ignorant, and mute besides.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

336. “He said no break is permanent. Like a bone that heals crooked, still it will heal.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

337. “It is required that we must be fiercely beloved by one individual in order to exist: for Sabbath, Haley was that individual.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

338. “All prices of all things – at least, useless beautiful things like rare books – are inherently absurd, rooted in the human imagination and in the all-too-human predilection to desperately want what others value highly, and to scorn what others fail to value.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

339. “Loving Felix she’d acquired from him a certain arrogance, telling so many lies she’d acquired a zest for lies and quite preferred them to the truth. For a lie had to be invented, “truth” was common property.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

340. “Were you wounded when your marriage collapsed? When your love collapsed? Or does love never “collapse,” only just fade gradually away?”

— Joyce Carol Oates

341. “Nor do I like being told upsetting news – unless there is a good reason. I can’t help but feel that there is an element of cruelty, if not sadism, in friends telling one another upsetting things for no reason except to observe their reactions.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

342. “He had no idea of my misery. It would have surprised him to think that I was a human creature with a soul.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

343. “Once upon a time the fairy tales begin. But then they end and often you don’t know really what has happened, what was meant to happen, you only know what you’ve been told, what the words suggest.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

344. “Messes are made by people who want but don’t know what they want, let alone how to get it.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

345. “Love is what can’t be helped. When it waxes, and when it wanes. Love is what happens when you’ve been looking another way. Love is that sensation of something on the back of your neck, tell yourself it’s nothing, a strand of hair, at last you touch it and discover it’s an insect – you cast off with a curse.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

346. “Dorie herself was not very surprised, because a daydreamer is prepared for most things and in a way she had planned even this, though she had not guessed how it would come about.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

347. “It makes me angry sometimes, it’s a visceral thing – how you come to despise your own words in your ears not because they aren’t genuine, but because they are; because you’ve said them so many times, your ‘principles,’ your ‘ideals’ – and so damned little in the world has changed because of them.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

348. “Nothing comes of so many things, if you have patience.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

349. “You learned how if a thing is not spoken of, even those closest to you, who love you, will assume that it doesn’t exist.”

— Joyce Carol Oates

350. “It was a very American story, somehow. ‘Lost.’ Each community had such stories. Possibly, each family.”

— Joyce Carol Oates