Top 120 Julie Buxbaum Quotes (2025 Update)

1. “Other people can’t make you feel stupid. Only you can.”

— Julie Buxbaum

2. “The autism spectrum is multidimensional, not linear.”

— Julie Buxbaum

3. “It’s okay I’m not the person I used to be. I’m not supposed to be.”

— Julie Buxbaum

4. “Just because you’re strong doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ask for help sometimes. Remember that.”

— Julie Buxbaum

5. “I think about my dad’s favorite expression: People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. What is my house made of? Paper, I decide. Like in a pop-up book. Easily collapsible.”

— Julie Buxbaum

6. “You look beautiful even when you cry. I mean, not that you don’t look beautiful when you’re happy. Of course, you’re beautiful all the time. But out there in the snow, you were stunning.”

— Julie Buxbaum

7. “My fear of saying something stupid often leaves me saying almost nothing at all.”

— Julie Buxbaum

8. “I realize we all walk around pretending we have some control over our fate, because to recognize the truth – that no matter what we do, the bottom will fall out when we least expect it – is just too unbearable to live with.”

— Julie Buxbaum

9. “But sometimes a kiss is not a kiss is not a kiss. Sometimes it’s a poetry.”

— Julie Buxbaum

10. “Not knowing the right thing to do is not an excuse for not doing anything.”

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11. “Not feeling like I belong anywhere has made me crave constant motion; standing still feels risky, like asking to be a target.”

— Julie Buxbaum

12. “It’s nice to sit with someone and not have to think about what to say next.”

— Julie Buxbaum

13. “Perfect days are for people with small, realizable dreams. Or maybe for all of us, they just happen in retrospect; they’re only now perfect because they contain something irrevocably and irretrievably lost.”

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14. “He’s more like me, I think: burdened with the realization that what goes on his mind is somehow different from what goes on everyone else’s. Even those close to us. And how you can’t think about that for too long, because that thought- the truth of your own isolation- is too much to bear.”

— Julie Buxbaum

15. “Sometimes, when Scarlett says I’m strong, I think she really means I’m numb.”

— Julie Buxbaum

16. “I used to think loneliness was being stuck with only the one voice in your head. I was wrong. Loneliness is hearing everyone else’s voices too, except they are stuck on repeat: Die, die, die.”

— Julie Buxbaum

17. “In the Venn diagram of my life, my imagined personality and my real personality have never converged. Over email and text, though, I am given those few additional beats I need to be the better, edited version of myself. To.”

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18. “Every happy moment from now on will have the lingering, bitter, heartbreaking aftertaste of loss.”

— Julie Buxbaum

19. “They seem to understand that the world is a big, diverse place, and that different is not the same thing as scary. It’s amazing to me how many people mistake the two.”

— Julie Buxbaum

20. “Once I read a study about prisoners with a life sentence. The ones without the possibility of parole were happier than those who might get out. Defies logic, but then, not really. Sometimes it’s the hope that kills you.”

— Julie Buxbaum

21. “I’m not sure why I’ve always assumed that the responsibility of a conversation falls on me.”

— Julie Buxbaum

22. “Non sono snob con le parole. E’ solo che mi piacciono.”

— Julie Buxbaum

23. “One of the worst parts about someone dying is thinking back to all those times you didn’t ask the right questions, all those times you stupidly assumed you’d have all the time in the world. And this too: how all that time feels like not much time at all.”

— Julie Buxbaum

24. “She drives a red Toyota Corolla, license plate XHD893.”

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25. “The thing is, sometimes people grow from breaking.”

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26. “His two front teeth are slightly crooked, veer just a tiny bit to the right, as if they’ve decided perfection is overrated. His smile is like unlocking a riddle. How does an imperfection make him seem more perfect?”

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27. “Turns out grief not only morphs time, but space too. Somehow increases the distance between you and other people.”

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28. “I think that’s what people do with the holidays. They wrap it up all neatly with a turkey and clever gifts and lots of eggnog and laugh and laugh, but at the end of the day there are always people missing from the table. And you have to either sit with those empty chairs and laugh, or you can choose not to come to the table at all. I would rather come to the table.”

— Julie Buxbaum

29. “We are all strangers to each other in the end.”

— Julie Buxbaum

30. “All the tattoos I would get if I were the sort of person who had the nerve to get tattoos, which I am decidedly not. Instead, I’m the kind of person who has spent hours debating said theoretical tattoos, despite my crippling fears of both needles and long-term commitment.”

— Julie Buxbaum

31. “In the Venn diagram of my life, my imagined personality and my real personality have never converged.”

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32. “Right. So what don’t get is why everyone is mad at me, instead of realising that I am the one who has been wronged here. Not a single person has come up to me and said,“I’m really sorry this happened to you.” Not one person.”

— Julie Buxbaum

33. “There’s nothing lonelier than a hand on glass. Maybe because it’s so rarely reciprocated.”

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34. “Tears are kind of like urine. There is only so long you can hold them in.”

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35. “You know what I think? I think the reason high school sucks is because it feels so small. Like a too-tight turtleneck, ” Noah says. “And even if you are brave enough to molt, there’s all these people around you still, like, holding up and showing you your old skin.”

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36. “Come to think of it, I don’t want to be my friend either.”

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37. “What if we all jumped out of our boxes and chewed up our stupid labels? Who would we discover?”

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38. “I know that love is not finite.”

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39. “I’m so, so tired of always worrying about our world splitting into a before and an after again.”

— Julie Buxbaum

40. “Suddenly, everything seems irrevocably broken in that way it can in the middle of the night when you are alone.”

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41. “You know how it is. Mean girls get mean in seventh grade and they stay that way until your ten-year reunion, when they want to be best friends again.”

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42. “Those are my favorite kind of punchlines. The curveballs that make total sense. Like you think the joke can only end with A or B, and somehow, the comedian finds C.”

— Julie Buxbaum

43. “How’s things, buddy?” Trey asks after we run through a few finger-warming exercises. I realize this is what people call small talk. I also realize the world would be a better place without it.”

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44. “I’ve never seen you so animated. It’s kind of adorable,” Theo says.”

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45. “Time does not heal all wounds, no matter how many drugstore sympathy cards hastily scrawled by distant relatives promise this to be true.”

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46. “It’s basic physics, really. We all need an equal and opposing force.”

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47. “I’m from Chicago. I think can handle the Valley.”

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48. “Life is short and cruel and we shouldn’t waste a single second of it worrying about stupid things like school dances.”

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49. “Kit stares at me, and I stare back. Eye contact usually feels like an ice headache. Just too much, too fast. Sharp and unpleasant. With Kit it feels like the first few seconds on a roller coaster, all gravitational force, no escape, pure thrill.”

— Julie Buxbaum

50. “I am not alone. Not really. Just geographically isolated.”

— Julie Buxbaum