Top 50 Naoise Dolan Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “You’re terrified of vulnerability. This is so both because others have been unkind to you in the past, and because you don’t like yourself and are sure anyone who gets close will agree. That’s what makes people afraid to offer you intimacy. They know you’ll reject it. You broke up with the love of your life because you saw how much power they had to hurt you.”

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2. “Camera eats first.”

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3. “You keep describing yourself as this uniquely damaged person, when a lot of it is completely normal. I think you want to feel special – which is fair, who doesn’t – but you won’t allow yourself to feel special in a good way, so you tell yourself you’re especially bad.”

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4. “I like talking to you,’ I said – quite stupidly, I realised. ‘It makes me feel solid, like someone can confirm I’m real.”

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5. “Sometimes i love you and sometimes i think it would be best if a plane flew into your office and you were on the plane or in the building.”

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6. “I’d been sad in Dublin, decided it was Dublin’s fault, and thought Hong Kong would help.”

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7. “I looked out my window and told myself: it is fair enough to find it stressful that my entire life revolves around someone who does not care very much about me. This is a permissible experience.”

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8. “I wanted to tell him that in a framework where affection was circumspect, its overt forms were necessarily hostile. Look, I’d say, it’s like English grammar. It doesn’t make sense but it’s too late to change it.”

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9. “I wanted to explain that to Edith: that holding Julian’s hand was like holding a museum pass, and holding hers was like holding a grenade.”

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10. “Women took care of men and let them pretend we didn’t.”

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11. “I don’t think you’re interested in having a nice life. Which is arrogant, really, because you expect other people to help you maintain an existence that you yourself can’t work up any enthusiasm over. Don’t take this personally, by the way. I’m just observing.”

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12. “During these outings I felt I had hitherto woefully misdirected my energies in attempting to cultivate a personality. If you didn’t have one then that left more room for everyone else’s.”

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13. “In the now-empty box I wrote: i wish i knew how i felt about everything, then erased that too.”

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14. “It was like drinking something I’d been holding till it cooled, finding it still too hot, and gulping anyway because I’d been cold too long.”

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15. “I was scared with you as well, but I was ready to be scared.”

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16. “Some mornings I didn’t leave the bed because then I’d have to brush my teeth, followed by a series of actions that amounted to living my life as the person I was. I was unable to drum up positivity about either dental hygiene or the rest of my day, so I told myself I was disgusting and lazy and I’d be late and they’d fire me, and then I got up. If you were really sick you couldn’t just harness your self-loathing like that, so I knew I was fine.”

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17. “I thought that if i let anyone in, they’d find out what was broken about me. And then not only would they know, i’d know too.”

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18. “I wanted people to know we were together, but only the ones who wouldn’t hurt us for it.”

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19. “I found it deeply unfair that he’d known what he was going to say before I knew the conversation would even happen. Logically, I knew this was not a valid complaint. You had to arrange things in your head before you said them aloud, and it was a fact of leaving that one person knew before the other did. Really my grievance was that he was in charge and not me. But I couldn’t conscript him into staying with me, and anyway I didn’t like him very much.”

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20. “I enjoyed conversations where I wasn’t attempting to persuade anyone, where I just said precisely what I thought. I got tired of making myself acceptable.”

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21. “There was no record of what had happened. I couldn’t fully believe it when it hadn’t been committed to paper. Maybe that’s why Sappho wrote poems – but when she died, they wrapped her papyrus around corpses to keep maggots off.”

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22. “If she posted no evidence of her hectic life, I thought: she said she was busy. When she did post I thought: not too busy for Instagram.”

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23. “The truth is, you like Julian because he enables this perception you have of yourself as a detached person. Plenty of people are willing to offer you intimacy. That terrifies you. You prefer feeling like no one will ever love you.”

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24. “The only thing we had in common was DNA, which gave us limited mileage conversationally.”

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25. “Probably Edith did not feel things as strongly as I did. She was at an unfair advantage.”

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26. “She seemed to think I couldn’t take compliments. I preferred to believe I disliked profuse displays of emotion and would accept any amount of praise if people tempered themselves in how they expressed it.”

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27. “He was too self-assured to notice when I criticised him. He registered that I’d said something, then continued a parallel conversation.”

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28. “We wondered about the straights. ‘They’re like pandas.’ Edith said. ‘You pity them in the zoo, but fling the cage open and they’ll stay there, chewing.”

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29. “We both preferred me on top and I wondered if that said anything about our dynamic. I felt all your copulative leanings were meant to reveal something deep about you, and if they didn’t you had an uncompelling mind.”

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30. “The trouble with my body was that I had to carry it around with me.”

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31. “I often lied to spare others’ feelings or to make them like me. Most of my directness was by accident. But I got more social capital from pretending it was on purpose, not least because it made people assume my compliments had to be sincere. Julian seemed to trust me. Smart people often did dumb things.”

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32. “I wanted to tell someone that and have them say either: Ava you’re being unreasonable, or: Ava we all bear our crosses but your has the most nails. Anything but: sounds complicated.”

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33. “It was another of my favourite Edith expressions, though I knew there was limited point in recording them when I could not imagine a single expression of Edith’s which did not rank among my favourites. The best wedges of words were the ones my eight-year-olds wrote: I like her face. With her I am happy. I wished I’d never learned more advanced grammar and could only make sentences like that. It would give me an excuse to say them aloud.”

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34. “Women in movies taught men how to feel things. They took men who felt nothing and made them feel something.”

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35. “I felt disloyal to Edith when it made me smile, then to Julian because it was the kind of text Edith sent every day and I still appreciated it more from her than from him. This contravened all economics. Assuming my demand for nice messages was elastic, when they were scarcer it should surely drive up their value. But coming from Edith, they commanded a premium.”

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36. “If asked ‘Why don’t men commit?’, you’ll say ‘They will, just not to you’; if asked ‘Why don’t women commit?’, you’ll say ‘Commit what, suicide?”

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37. “You broke up with the love of your life because you saw how much power they had to hurt you.”

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38. “A few days into January, work started again. Madison from Texas greeted me by launching into a description of her new-year new-me fitness regimen. “I’m going to be me, but worse,” I said.”

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39. “You could tell who’d been through it and who hadn’t because when you told someone who hadn’t, they were hungry for details. They’d say it was so they could experience their moral outrage with a loftier precision.”

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40. “When I met someone I liked, I wanted all of them, and fast.”

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41. “I couldn’t think of Julian for too long without cycling back to Edith. Most persons, places and things led me her way, but Julian especially triggered it. I sat there in Miles’s apartment and thought: Edith, and smiled.”

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42. “Now twenty-three was shaping up to be the first year of my life where the idea of someone noticing me didn’t fill me with abject horror. I supposed later was better than never.”

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43. “My desire was for Julian’s feelings to be stronger than mine. No one would sympathize with that. I wanted a power imbalance, and I wanted it to benefit me.”

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44. “He’d said everything very slowly that night, so I’d assumed he was drunk – but he still did it sober, so I gathered he was rich.”

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45. “Not wanting him to go was an emotion produced by me, not him. He’d witnessed me having and failing to smother a feeling, and said he’d noticed – and he profited, not me.”

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46. “I have every respect for people who follow their passions, but I prefer stability.”

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47. “Most English people said ‘what’ as ‘wot’, though authors only spelled it ‘wot’ when the characters were poor.”

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48. “I gave her the remote and she chose a channel showing Inglourious Basterds. She said the title was spelled that way because Tarantino had misspelled it in a leaked screenplay and then insisted he’d done it on purpose.”

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49. “If the Irish didn’t aspirate and the English did then they were right, but if we did and the English didn’t then they were still right. The English taught us English to teach us they were right.”

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50. “Still, Edith looked pleased. She nestled closer into me. I felt like abandoning everything else I did to try to be happy, and just spending the rest of my life finding things Edith needed to be told, and telling her.”

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