Top 180 Nathaniel Branden Quotes (2024 Update)
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101. “To be flexible is to be able to respond to change without inappropriate attachments binding one to the past. A clinging to the past in the face of new and changing circumstances is itself a product of insecurity, a lack of self-trust. Rigidity is what animals sometimes manifest when they are frightened: they freeze.”

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102. “One of the characteristics of love relationships that flower is a relatively high degree of mutual self-disclosure.”

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103. “If you overcome your fear to ask someone for a date, a raise, or help with a project, that is an act of self-assertiveness. You are moving out into life rather than contracting and withdrawing.”

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104. “It is very difficult to accept in others emotions you cannot accept in yourself.”

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105. “All positive interactions with other human beings involve, to some degree, the experience of visibility – that is, the experience of being seen and understood.”

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106. “As a psychotherapist I see that nothing does as much for an individual’s self-esteem as becoming aware of and accepting disowned parts of the self. The, first steps of healing and growth are awareness and acceptance – consciousness and integration. They are the fountainhead of personal development.”

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107. “Most of us are capable of more than we believe.”

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108. “Sometimes people who feel fear in the human realm drop to a very low level of consciousness in their relationships and seek the safety and security of competence in the impersonal word of machines, mathematics, or abstract thought.”

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109. “Most of the time, I regard the judgment of people as a waste of time. I regard the judgment of behavior as imperative.”

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110. “When we learn how to be in an intimate relationship without abandoning our sense of self, when we learn how to be kind without being self-sacrificing, when we learn how to cooperate with others without betraying our standards and convictions, we are practicing self-assertiveness.”

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111. “A well-developed sense of self is a necessary if not sufficient condition of your well-being. Its presence does not guarantee fulfillment, but its absence guarantees some measure of anxiety, frustration, or despair.”

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112. “It is painful to face the self we know we have never had the integrity to honor and assert.”

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113. “When you are frightened, you typically pull energy in to your center, seeing less, hearing less-shrinking consciousness precisely when you need to expand it.”

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114. “If you are terrified of making mistakes, you will be reluctant to acknowledge them when you do make them-and therefore you will not correct them.”

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115. “Conscious individuals know that if they wish to advance in their careers they cannot rest on yesterday’s knowledge and skills. An overattachment to the known and familiar has become costly and dangerous; it threatens both organizations and individuals with obsolescence. Scientific.”

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116. “Moved by a passion they do not understand for a goal they seldom reach, men and women are haunted by the vision of a distant possibility that refuses to be extinguished.”

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117. “One of the great self-deceptions – and one of the great foolishnesses – is to tell yourself, Only I will know. Only you will know that you are a liar; only you will know you deal unethically with people who trust you; only you will know you have no intention of honoring your promise. Whose knowledge or judgment do you imagine is more important? It is precisely your own ego from which there is no escape.”

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118. “An emotion is both a mental and a physical event.”

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119. “If someone I like does not return my feeling, it may be disappointing or even painful, but it is not a reflection on my personal worth.”

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120. “For “I” to become “we” and yet remain “I,” is one of the great challenges of marriage.”

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121. “Be careful what you say to your children. They may agree with you.”

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122. “When your principles seem to be demanding suicide, clearly it’s time to check your premises.”

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123. “Capitalism, by its nature, entails a constant process of motion, growth and progress.”

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124. “What is guilt? It is moral self-reproach-I did wrong when it was possible to have done otherwise.”

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125. “The lies most devastating to our self-esteem are not so much the lies we tell as the lies we live.”

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126. “Sometimes pain is easier to bear alone than happiness.”

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127. “In any culture, subculture, or family in which belief is valued above thought, and self-surrender is valued above self-expression, and conformity is valued above integrity, those who preserve their self-esteem are likely to be heroic exceptions.”

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128. “Regardless of what we think we’re teaching, we teach what we are.”

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129. “A mind that trusts itself is light on its feet.”

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130. “Reason and emotion are not antagonists. What seems like a struggle between two opposing ideas or values, one of which, automatic and unconscious, manifests itself in the form of a feeling.”

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131. “My life does not belong to others and I am not here on earth to live up to someone else’s expectations.”

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132. “It would be hard to name a more certain sign of poor self-esteem than the need to perceive some other group as inferior.”

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133. “To attain “success” without attaining positive self-esteem is to be condemned to feeling like an imposter anxiously awaiting exposure.”

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134. “Loving consciously does not mean subjecting your relationship to endless analysis. It means something much simpler: paying attention. Noticing. This requires presence.”

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135. “The desire for self-esteem without integrity is like the desire for wealth without effort-a longing for the unearned.”

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136. “It is a mistake to look at someone who is self-assured and say, “It’s easy for her to be self-assertive, she has good self-esteem.” One of the ways we build self-esteem is by being self-assertive when it is not easy to do so. There are always times when self-assertiveness calls on our courage.”

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137. “There is only one reality – the reality knowable to reason. And if man does not choose to perceive it, there is nothing else for him to perceive; if it is not of this world that he is conscious, then he is not conscious at all.”

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138. “High self esteem people can surely be knocked down by an excess of troubles, but they are quickerto pick themselves up again.”

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139. “You are not likely to bring out the best in people or nurture their creativity if every time you hear about their problems you instantly offer a solution Encourage people to look for their own solutions-and project the knowledge that they are capable of doing so.”

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140. “What is required for many of us, paradoxical though it may sound, is the courage to tolerate happiness without self-sabotage.”

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141. “Out of fear, out of the desire for approval, out of the misguided notions of duty, people surrender themselves-their convictions and their aspirations-every day. There is nothing noble about it. It takes far more courage to fight for your values than to relinquish them.”

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142. “It’s not that achievements prove our worth but rather that the process of achieving is the means by which we develop our effectiveness, our competence at living.”

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143. “To preserve an unclouded capacity for the enjoyment of life is an unusual moral and psychological achievement. Contrary to popular belief, it is not the prerogative of mindlessness, but the exact opposite: It is the reward of self-esteem.”

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144. “Perhaps the essence of our evolution as human beings is to keep answering, on deeper and deeper levels, the basic question: Who am I?”

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145. “If I am unwilling to take responsibility for the attainment of my desires, they are not really desires – they are merely daydreams.”

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146. “The idea of Original Sin – of guilt where there is no possibility of innocence, no freedom of choice, no alternatives available – is anti-self-esteem by its very nature. The very notion of guilt without volition or responsibility is an assault on reason as well as on morality.”

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147. “We are parts of one universe, true enough. We stand within an almost infinite network of relationships. Yet each of us is a single point of consciousness, a unique event, a private, unrepeatable world. This is the essence of our aloneness.”

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148. “Sometimes the path to higher self-esteem is lonely and frightening. We cannot fully know in advance how much more satisfying our lives will be. But the more we are willing to experience and accept the many aspects of who we are, the richer our inner worlds, the greater our resources, the more appropriate we feel to the challenges and opportunities of life. Also, it is more likely that we will find – or create – a style of existence that will meet our individual needs.”

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149. “Even when our life is most difficult, it is important to remember that something within us is keeping us alive- the life force-that lift us, energizes us, pulls us back sometimes from the abyss of despair. True spirituality does not exist without love of life.”

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150. “In the inner courtroom of my mind, mine is the only judgment that counts.”

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