Top 60 Rollo Tomassi Quotes (2025 Update)

1. “Women would rather share a high value Man than be saddled with a faithful loser.”

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2. “Men believe that love matters for the sake of it. Women love opportunistically.”

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3. “In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.”

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4. “Women enjoy the communication more than the information being transferred.”

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5. “There is no Quality Woman, that’s an idealization. Some are better than others of course, but you don’t find the perfect woman, you make the perfect woman.”

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6. “Women are fundamentally incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved by a woman.”

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7. “Never under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.”

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8. “Women would rather share a successful man than be saddled with a faithful loser, perfectly sums up Plate Theory vs. Monogamy-as-Goal mindsets.”

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9. “Everything a woman does on a daily basis is colored by competition anxiety.”

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10. “The definition of Power is not financial success, status or influence over others, but the degree to which we have control over our own lives.”

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11. “Good girls are just bad girls who never got caught.”

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12. “You have to unlearn the old behaviors and condition new ones in order to right your course. This takes practice and repetition – even in the face of conditions that you would impulsively think would need to be reacted to otherwise. There is no substitute for perseverance.”

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13. “Nothing is as simultaneously fear inspiring and arousing for women as a Man she suspects is self-aware of his own value.”

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14. “Whatever you cannot say ‘No’ to is your master and makes you it’s slave.”

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15. “You cannot ‘tell’ women anything, they must be led to your conclusion and be made to think that they are the ones coming to it with their own devices – preferably by way of her imagined feminine intuition.”

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16. “Experience teaches harsh, but it teaches best and the breadth of experience serves a man well.”

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17. “Women crave the chemical rush that comes from suspicion and indignation. If you don’t provide it, they’ll happily get it from tabloids, romance novels, The View, Tyra Banks or otherwise living vicariously through their single girlfriends.”

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18. “The guy with the capacity to call a woman’s bluff with a confidence that implies she is to be worthy of him rather than the other way around is the Man to be competed for.”

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19. “Comfort comes from familiarity and predictability; all decidedly anti-seductive influences. And while comfort has its own merits in interpersonal relationships, it is not the basis for genuine, passionate sexual desire.”

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20. “You do not buy into a good marriage or LTR, you create one, you build one.”

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21. “Porn gives a guy his reward for free; a reward that should be her single best agency is rendered valueless when a man can get off to an infinite variety of sexual experience at the click of a mouse. It’s unlimited access to unlimited sexual availability without the stress of learning methods to earn it from women as a reward.”

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22. “Secondly, women’s sexual value decreases as they age, meaning there is no guarantee that your beautiful, vivacious, 27 year old bride will remain so at 37.”

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23. “Communicate with your behavior. Never overtly tell a woman anything. Allow her to come to the conclusions you intend. Her imagination is the best tool in your Game toolbox. Learn how to use it.”

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24. “A backhanded compliment shouldn’t work; it goes against everything any girl has ever told him will endear him to a woman, but once he musters up the courage to experiment, he finds that they do work.”

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25. “The world is filled with guys forever trying to catch up, control the frame and be the Man they should’ve been long before they entered an LTR.”

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26. “How you handle being alone and what you do with the opportunities that freedom allows is the real measure of a man. If you’re single and 50 you STILL have options if you’re only brave enough to explore them. I know divorced men in their 50s who’re dating mid 30s women right now and I know men in their 60s who’ve been trapped and emotionally blackmailed by their wives for 30 years. Marriage is no insulation from the sexual marketplace.”

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27. “Feminization from a behavioral psychology perspective, is nothing less than a socialized effort in deliberate behavioral modification of men’s natural drives and predilections to better fit the feminine imperative.”

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28. “Beware of making your necessity a virtue in making a Quality woman your substitute for a ONEitis idealization.”

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29. “Your goal should be to attract women effortlessly, so play to your strengths no matter what they are; there is a groupie for every male endeavor. Except World of Warcraft.”

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30. “A truly powerful Man jealously guards his most precious resources; his independence and his ability to maneuver. In other words his options and his ability to exercise them.”

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31. “Frame is everything. Always be aware of the subconscious balance of who’s frame in which you are operating. Always control the Frame, but resist giving the impression that you are.”

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32. “If you’re at all familiar with Charles Bukowski, you’ll know he was one of the last true son’s of bitches – the unapologetic epitome of gloriously arrogant self-concern and masculine independence. For what he lacked in polish he made up for in talent and a brutal honesty that could never be acknowledged in the feminine centric social order of today. In the mid 60’s he was a feral, instinctually Red Pill Man.”

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33. “People resort to denial when recognizing that the truth would destroy something they hold dear.”

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34. “Everything a man experiences, every social conditioning he receives from the earliest age, every accepted social norm and every expectation of him to qualify as the definition of a mature adult Man in contemporary society is designed to serve a female imperative.”

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35. “Power isn’t financial resources, status or influence over others; power is the degree over which you control your own life, and right now, if I’ve just described you, you are powerful.”

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36. “Covert communication frustrates us every bit as much as overt communication frustrates women. Our language has no art to it for them, that’s why we seem dumb or simple at best to women.”

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37. “Humility is an admirable quality too, don’t get me wrong, but humility is only genuine when you’re confident of your own abilities.”

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38. “It’s the man who remains in touch with his masculine side, the guy who, despite all of pop-culture denigrating and ridiculing his gender and the very aspects that make it a necessary, positive strength of human society, will endure and steadfastly resist the influences that want to turn it into something it was never intended; it’s this guy and his confidence that women all over the world find irresistible.”

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39. “Great politicians, military leaders, businessmen, salesmen to be sure, and of course master PUAs all use covert communications to achieve their goals.”

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40. “Stimulating a woman’s imaginings is the single most potent talent you can develop in any context of a relationship.”

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41. “No amount of proselytizing or social conditioning will erase what God and evolution hard-coded into our collective bio-psychological desires and behaviors.”

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42. “Anxiety, trauma and crisis are necessary catalysts to stimulate self-consciousness.”

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43. “Is the woman who applies make up everyday ‘being herself”?”

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44. “Commenter Peregrine John summed it up: We want to relax. We want to be open and honest. We want to have a safe haven in which struggle has no place, where we gain strength and rest instead of having it pulled from us. We want to stop being on guard all the time, and have a chance to simply be with someone who can understand our basic humanity without begrudging it. To stop fighting, to stop playing the game, just for a while. We want to, so badly. If we do, we soon are no longer able to.”

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45. “So yes, you should be seeking to reassure an LTR of your love and devotion, but know that due to women’s intrinsic fear of security loss and the competition anxiety that comes from a declining capacity to compete with her sisters’ attentions, you will never achieve an ideal state of contentment of it, and certainly not by relying solely on comfort and familiarity.”

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46. “Blunt, to the point, solve the problem and move on to the next.”

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47. “What’s the chance a 30-year-old can get pregnant in one try? Many thought up to 80 percent, while in reality it’s less than 30 percent.”

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48. “Rollo would say, “It’s about Sexual Market Value Sam. You went from being an outlier because of notoriety, to a man on your back in inpatient care. You stopped acting like that Man, so she sees you like a girlfriend that she doesn’t even like.”

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49. “Just because he didn’t read a book doesn’t mean he didn’t learn through trial and error like you did, practicing his game on a large number of women. It doesn’t mean that he wasn’t conscious and deliberate with his behavior, incrementally improving his moves and tactics over a long period of time. He has experimented like you have experimented, and he has also connected his attempts with results to figure out what works and what doesn’t.”

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50. “Let’s be honest, women don’t want to hear that they can’t have it all,” she says. “We can have a great job, we can have a master’s degree, we don’t need to worry about child-bearing because that’s something that will come. And when it doesn’t happen, women are really angry.”

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