Top 100 Sherry Turkle Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “The feeling that ‘no one is listening to me’ make us want to spend time with machines that seem to care about us.”

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2. “Computers are not good or bad; they are powerful.”

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3. “Technology doesn’t just do things for us. It does things to us, changing not just what we do but who we are.”

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4. “We’re lonely, but we’re afraid of intimacy. And so from social networks to sociable robots, we’re designing technologies that will give us the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship.”

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5. “We expect more from technology and less from each other. We create technology to provide the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship.”

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6. “Loneliness is failed solitude.”

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7. “We expect more from technology and less from each other.”

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8. “What technology makes easy is not always what nurtures the human spirit.”

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9. “We have to love technology enough to describe it accurately. And we have to love ourselves enough to confront technology’s true effect on us.”

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10. “If we’re not able to be alone, we’re going to be more lonely. And if we don’t teach our children to be alone, they’re only going to know how to be lonely.”

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11. “Networked, we are together, but so lessened are our expectations of each other that we can feel utterly alone. And there is the risk that we come to see others as objects to be accessed – and only for the parts we find useful, comforting, or amusing.”

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12. “In order to feel more, and to feel more like ourselves, we connect. But in our rush to connect, we flee solitude. In time, our ability to be separate and gather ourselves is diminished. If we don’t know who we are when we are alone, we turn to other people to support our sense of self. This makes it impossible to fully experience others as who they are. We take what we need from them in bits and pieces; it is as though we use them as spare parts to support our fragile selves.”

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13. “We fill our days with ongoing connection, denying ourselves time to think and dream.”

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14. “The web promises to make our world bigger. But as it works now, it also narrows our exposure to ideas. We can end up in a bubble in which we hear only the ideas we already know. Or already like.”

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15. “Technology challenges us to assert our human values, which means that first of all, we have to figure out what they are.”

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16. “Does virtual intimacy degrade our experience of the other kind and, indeed, of all encounters, of any kind?”

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17. “Addiction is to the habits of mind that technology allows us to practice.”

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18. “We all really need to listen to each other, including to the boring bits.”

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19. “We’re lonely, but we’re afraid of intimacy.”

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20. “Every time you check your phone in company, what you gain is a hit of stimulation, a neurochemical shot, and what you lose is what a friend, teacher, parent, lover, or co-worker just said, meant, felt.”

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21. “The most used program in computers and education is PowerPoint. What are you learning about the nature of the medium by knowing how do to a great PowerPoint presentation? Nothing. It certainly doesnt teach you how to think critically about living in a culture of simulation.”

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22. “A good therapy helps you develop a sense of irony about your life so that when you start to repeat old and unhelpful patterns, something within you says, “There you go again; let’s call this to a halt. You can do something different.” Often the first step toward doing something different is developing the capacity to not act, to stay still and reflect.”

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23. “One of the emotional affordances of digital communication is that one can always hide behind deliberated nonchalance.”

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24. “A sacred space is not a place to hide out. It is a place where we recognize ourselves and our commitments.”

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25. “Intelligence once meant more than what any artificial intelligence does. It used to include sensibility, sensitivity, awareness, discernment, reason, acumen, and wit.”

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26. “The real emergency may be parents and children not having conversations or sharing a silence between them that gives each the time to bring up a funny story or a troubling thought.”

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27. “The way we live now is an experiment in which we are the human subjects – treated as objects by the technology we have created. Our apps use us as much as we use our apps.”

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28. “Someday, someday, but certainly not now, I’d like to learn how to have a conversation.”

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29. “We’re smitten with technology. And we’re afraid, like young lovers, that too much talking might spoil the romance. But it’s time to talk.”

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30. “These days, insecure in our relationships and anxious about intimacy, we look to technology for ways to be in relationships and protect ourselves from them at the same time.”

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31. “We used to think, ‘I have a feeling; I want to make a call.’ Now our impulse is, ‘I want to have a feeling; I need to send a text.’”

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32. “It is painful to watch children trying to show off for parents who are engrossed in their cell phones. Children are nostalgic for the ‘good old days’ when parents used to read to them without the cell phone by their side or watch football games or Disney movies without having the BlackBerry handy.”

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33. “What do we forget when we talk to machines? We forget what is special about being human. We forget what it means to have authentic conversation. Machines are programmed to have conversations “as if” they understood what the conversation is about. So when we talk to them, we, too, are reduced and confined to the “as if.”

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34. “I miss those days even though I wasn’t alive.”

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35. “As we distribute ourselves, we may abandon ourselves.”

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36. “But if we don’t have experience with solitude – and this is often the case today – we start to equate loneliness and solitude. This reflects the impoverishment of our experience. If we don’t know the satisfactions of solitude, we only know the panic of loneliness.”

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37. “People are lonely. The network is seductive. But if we are always on, we may deny ourselves the rewards of solitude.”

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38. “We are at a moment of temptation, ready to turn to machines for companionship even as we seem pained or inconvenienced to engage with each other in settings as simple as a grocery store. We want technology to step up as we ask people to step back.”

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39. “When we let our minds wander, we set our brains free. Our brains are most productive when there is no demand that they be reactive.”

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40. “But who said that a life without conflict, without being reminded of past mistakes, past pain, or one where you can avoid rubbing shoulders with troublesome people, is good? Was it the same person who said that life shouldn’t have boring bits? In this case, if technology gives us the feeling that we can communicate with total control, life’s contingencies become a problem. Just because technology can help us solve a “problem” doesn’t mean it was a problem in the first place.”

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41. “If you’re having a conversation with someone in speech, and it’s not being tape-recorded, you can change your opinion, but on the Internet, it’s not like that. On the Internet it’s almost as if everything you say were being tape-recorded. You can’t say, “I changed my mind.”

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42. “We miss out on necessary conversations when we divide our attention between the people we’re with and the world on our phones. Or when we go to our phones instead of claiming a quiet moment for ourselves.”

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43. “Teenagers would rather text than talk. They feel calls would reveal too much.”

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44. “Mobile technology is here to stay, along with all the wonders it brings. Yet it is time for us to consider how it may get in the way of other things we hold dear – and how once we recognize this, we can take action: We can both redesign technology and change how we bring it into our lives. A.”

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45. “What I’m seeing is a generation that says consistently, ‘I would rather text than make a telephone call.’ Why? It’s less risky. I can just get the information out there. I don’t have to get all involved; it’s more efficient. I would rather text than see somebody face to face.”

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46. “Thumbs up or thumbs down on a website is not a conversation. The danger is you get into a habit of mind where politics means giving a thumbs up or thumbs down to a website. The world is a much more complex place.”

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47. “There are moments of opportunity for families; moments they need to put technology away. These include: no phones or texting during meals. No phones or texting when parents pick up children at school – a child is looking to make eye contact with a parent!”

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48. “Not every advance is progress. Not every new thing is better for us humanly.”

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49. “In all of these cases, we use technology to “dial down” human contact, to titrate its nature and extent. People avoid face-to-face conversation but are comforted by being in touch with people – and sometimes with a lot of people – who are emotionally kept at bay. It’s another instance of the Goldilocks effect. It’s part of the move from conversation to mere connection.”

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50. “To reclaim solitude we have to learn to experience a moment of boredom as a reason to turn inward, to defer going “elsewhere” at least some of the time.”

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