Top 40 Sophie Cousens Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “The truth is boring. People want to buy a dream, not be reminded of reality.” “You’re wrong – I think all any of us want in this world is something real.”

— Sophie Cousens

2. “Be a good companion to yourself and you will never be lonely” – that had to be the aspiration. She wanted to fuel her own fire. If you got your fuel from men, they could leave, and you’d be left alone in the cold.”

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3. “When you are with someone for a long time, you grow into each other, like adjoining trees with tangled roots. It’s hard to extricate yourself and find the part that’s left – who you were before.”

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4. “Be a good companion to yourself and you will never be lonely.” It was one of Leila’s highest aspirations: self-sufficiency.”

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5. “Some people bring out the parts of yourself you like the most,” he says. “I like the version of myself I am when I’m with you.”

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6. “I will sign off hoping that you, dear reader, have a spirit level for your soul – be it a person, a place, or simply a cup of tea and a good book.”

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7. “Sometimes life feels like a hamster wheel. You get caught up in the practicalities of existence and all the joy gets pushed aside in favor of necessity.”

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8. “Most of us will never be the best at anything we do. It isn’t a reason not to do it.”

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9. “All of it faded eventually. In every relationship, that initial fluttering feeling would simmer down and then disappear... The ephemeral nature of it meant you had to think with your head.”

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10. “In this cynical world, isn’t there something wonderful about the pure, unbridled optimism of marriage? To stand up and say, ‘Screw the odds, I’m pinning my colors to the mast, bright and bold,’ because if you’re going to commit to anything in this life, shouldn’t it be love?”

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11. “She wanted to fuel her own fire. If you got your fire from men, they could leave, and you’d be left alone in the cold.”

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12. “Where do you think the love goes, when no one’s left to tell the story?” Ted looks thoughtful for a moment, then he says, “Someone once told me that growing up feeling loved allows you to go on to love other people. Maybe love is simply a huge chain letter, passed down through the generations. The details of the stories begin not to matter.”

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13. “People like to fill in the gaps, to paint their own picture, but no one really knows the truth of someone else’s story.”

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14. “Sea glass?” “It’s all over these beaches. It’s old glass – rubbish, worn down, and tumbled smooth by the sea,” he says, looking at the piece in my hand. “My mother used to collect it. She’d say the sea was trying to give us back something beautiful from the ugly things we throw away.”

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15. “An orange carpet of leaves covered the footpaths and a crisp, low light shone through the tangle of tree boughs above her head. She picked up a perfect red leaf from the ground, examining the intricate pattern of vessels mapping its thin surface. So beautiful, yet only created to last such a short time before its role on this planet was over, and it would decay into mulch.”

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16. “Tide and time wait for no man.’ So get on your surfboard and catch that wave, even if you’re shaking like a rattle all the way in, because I’m yet to be reliably informed if there’s decent surf in heaven.”

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17. “As women, we spend so much of our lives feeling obliged. Obliged to show up when we say we will, obliged to turn up with a smile, obliged to tell everyone, “I am fine.” But obligated is just another word for oppressed. The only person you are obligated to is yourself.”

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18. “Life is change – if nothing’s changing, you aren’t living.”

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19. “Maybe it was easier to be happy for other people when I felt my own soulmate might be just around the corner, but I keep turning corners, and no one is ever there.”

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20. “You are spectacular. You have woken me up, and I never want to be asleep again.”

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21. “She hardly recognized herself and yet, somehow, this person felt like the truest reflection of who she really was.”

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22. “I quote: Do tigers worry about the volume of their roar? Do they play the pussycat so as not to offend? They do not. The patriarchy forces us to turn down the volume, but we must roar, and roar loudly, if we want to be heard. It’s the kind of language that makes me roll my eyes, but then I imagine turning to Money Belt Man and roaring at him to stop touching my leg, rather than cowering politely behind my headphones and a book. The thought brings a smile to my face.”

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23. “Quinn shrugged. “Better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you’re not.”

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24. “Where do you think the love goes, when no one’s left to tell the story?”

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25. “Don’t cry about something you wouldn’t cry about in five years’ time, and swim – swim when you can.′ Those were her two pieces of live advice.”

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26. “You need to learn how to be a “me” before you can be a “we.”

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27. “He who fears to suffer, suffers from fear.”

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28. “But the biggest adventure of all has simply been being your friend.”

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29. “Because sometimes I feel conflicted; like I want to stand up to the patriarchy and everything, but I’d also quite like to be in love and have a boyfriend.”

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30. “Maybe the only real legacy any of us can hope to leave is to be a link in the chain that keeps love flowing through the generations.”

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31. “There is an old proverb: He who fears to suffer, suffers from fear.”

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32. “I find places like this so packed with memories. Visiting them can be like opening a memory jar. You take off the lid and the smells and sounds of a place hit you, unlocking things folded away deep in your brain.”

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33. “It’s about having the right to choose – you can choose to put on a pinny and be a fifties housewife if you want, you can choose to travel to Peru and join a commune or enlist in the space program and be the first woman on Mars. You can live how you like; but the point is we should have the chance to choose, not get railroaded into a role society dictates for us.”

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34. “The human heart is like a flowerbed, Laura. Once the first blooms die, there’s room enough for something else to grow, but it will never be quite the same as that first flower, the initial thrill of seeing what your heart is capable of.”

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35. “Don’t marry a man you wouldn’t want to be divorced from, that’s what my aunt always told me. If a man isn’t kind to strangers, or at least respectful to his enemies, know that one day you might be a stranger to him, you might be his enemy.”

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36. “You have to believe in a little magic when it comes to matters of the heart.”

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37. “The Roman poet Horace said: ‘Don’t hope or fear, but seize today, you must! And in tomorrow put complete mistrust.’ All any of us have is today.”

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38. “Minnie, you were like this light coming into my life – you dazzle me. But your light also made me see all these shadows in my own life, shadows I finally realized I had to deal with.”

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39. “She saved the day, for someone else – as she always does. And I hope you’ll take this the right way,” Leila looked pensive for a moment, gazing slightly off focus into her champagne glass, “if I steal a Cooper family adage to say – all this, these wonderful people here today, this would never have happened to a Quinn Cooper. Some things are all Minnie, and I wouldn’t have you any other way.”

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40. “I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with me. I want someone to share me with me.”

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41. “Someone once told me that growing up feeling loved allows you to go on to love other people. Maybe love is simply a huge chain letter, passed down through the generations. The details of the stories begin not to matter.”

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42. “He gets to have these lovely soul-searching chats with you – no commitment or expectation; then he gets to shag Little Miss Tinder when he likes – no commitment or expectation.”

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43. “So, if I can’t look back, and I can’t look forward, I’m forced to live here, right now. Today I can sit around a campfire and talk to my friends. Today I can watch the sunset, even if the outline is getting hazy. Today I have made a new friend and I’m enjoying her company and her vibrant conversation.” He makes a single, slow nod in my direction. “The Roman poet Horace said: ‘Don’t hope or fear, but seize today, you must! And in tomorrow put complete mistrust.’ All any of us have is today.”

— Sophie Cousens