Top 40 Suzanne Finnamore Quotes (2025 Update)

1. “Such silence has an actual sound, the sound of disappearance.”

— Suzanne Finnamore

2. “You are the closest I will ever come to magic.”

— Suzanne Finnamore

3. “Delusion detests focus and romance provides the veil.”

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4. “I used to loathe ambivalence; now I adore it. Ambivalence is my new best friend.”

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5. “This people know where their husbands are. I would like to vomit. I would like to vomit my soul out.”

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6. “I feel angry but not homocidal; this may be unlooked-for progress.”

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7. “Wonderful; such an active word – – to be full of wonder.”

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8. “I was steeped in denial, but my body knew.”

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9. “The marriage is over; counseling is the eulogy. The relationship autopsy is the wake.”

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10. “It’s adult swim time and I’m diving in here at the shallow end.”

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11. “Any way I slice reality it comes out poorly, and I feel an urge to not exist, something I have never felt before; and now here it comes with conviction, almost panic. I mentally bless and exonerate anyone who has kicked a chair out from beneath her or swallowed opium in large chunks. My mind has met their environment, here in the void. I understand perfectly.”

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12. “Surprises, I feel now, are primarily a form of violence.”

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13. “It had all seemed as inevitable as sunset. Instead it was the beauty of the sun glinting upon the scythe.”

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14. “He left a bit too easily and with obvious relief. His feet were swift and sure on the muddy path.”

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15. “I saw my reflection in their eyes, but not the men themselves, not clearly. This preserved the idea that all intelligent and even vaguely attractive men were essentially good. Delusion detest focus and romance provides the veil.”

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16. “Flannel shirts should be outlawed for ex husbands; I realize this now. Flannel shirts are to women what crotchless panties are to men.”

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17. “Marriage is a conspiracy from Tiffany, florists, the diamond industry, and Christian fundamentalists. The only thing good about it is the diamond ring, the wedding gifts, and the honeymoon.”

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18. “I want to own this transition, not to simply swallow the shame of it entire. I will push for every little irony.”

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19. “I mentally bless and exonerate anyone who has kicked a chair out from beneath her or swallowed opium in large chunks. My mind has met their environment, here in the void. I understand perfectly.”

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20. “My mother is a firm believer in the long pause, useful in interrogations, proclamations of truth, and the occasional cutting dead of someone without their knowing it.”

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21. “It’s impressive how God attends to the details.”

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22. “I travel back in time, falling back into what I know for certain, the historical data I cling to in order to not go mad, not assume I made a suicidal and well-informed error in marrying this man.”

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23. “What can you guarentee, O Nostradamus of Hayward?” I carp.”

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24. “A heart can stop beating for a while, one can still live.”

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25. “What nobody tells you about getting engaged is he asks you and you’re delirious for about 2 days and then it tapers. He asks you and you’re running around telling grocery clerks and ordering subscriptions to bride magazines and discussing prong settings, and then after 2 days this ebullience passes. And instead of looking ahead you are suddenly struck by everything you are leaving behind.”

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26. “I feel incendiary, a wildfire. My spirit licks at the gates of a very elaborate, customized, and distracting emotional Hades.”

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27. “In so many senseless deaths, beauty is to blame.”

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28. “When you moved, I felt squeezed with a wild infatuation and protectiveness. We are one. Nothing, not even death, can change that.”

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29. “I review what I know once again, confronting the monolith now alien and almost unconnected to me: my marriage.”

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30. “I sensed he may have occasionally strayed in some of his past relationships. It was something I felt but ignored, a rent in the fabric of an otherwise splendid garment I thought I could mend. I thought I could live with it – I thought, yes and I admit it, that I would be different. That at the very least, middle age and children would slow him down; however, they seemed to accelerate his pace.”

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31. “They feel life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever decide to have my soul surgically removed.”

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32. “I notice that, as the wedding date approaches, some doors are opening and others are closing. I have no control.”

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33. “The whole world seems tilted, my inner ear displaced by a hole where my spouse used to be.”

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34. “This is much worse than losing a cat. You do not wish the cat dead, for example, after the first two days. You still love the cat and presumably the cat still loves you, or some variation of love that may in fact be dependence and even indifference.”

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35. “The abandonment came, and now this shabby bacchanal.”

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36. “He went on to say that if the Wicked Queen were around today, the whole story might have been different, because she would have looked in her Magic Mirror and said, “If I got a little laser work around the jaw and eyelids, I might still be considered the Fairest in the Land.”

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37. “I played possum. I did this, as the possum does, out of fear.”

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38. “Reuben nails my fantasies everytime, with iron rods of reality. He asserts that I am going to die, but probably not for a while, and that maybe I should try getting married and having a life first. He is 70 and knows things, which is why I go to him. But it’s sad to leave my romantic illusions at the door of this passage. Although false and destructive and useless, they’ve been tremendous company.”

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39. “My mind floats like ash. I blame myself most cruelly.”

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40. “What I find about wedding plans is that everyone wants to talk about when I don’t. As soon as I do feel like talking about my wedding plans, their eyes glaze over and I can see them wishing they were dead.”

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41. “This is much easier than when N left. Our son is unable to grasp and simultaneously turn doorknobs yet. If only this trick could be unlearned by men over thirty, many more families would celebrate Christmas together.”

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42. “Much like trains in India, grief is a circular, irrational process with no discernible rhythm or timetable. Here it comes, there it goes.”

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43. “God is great and God is good,” Lisa says. “But where are the Apache attack helicopters when you need them?”

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44. “It would be sad and wrong in so many ways to self-combust at this time.”

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45. “For most people, I edit. Most people are definitely getting along on the Cliffs Notes.”

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46. “Someone who can make things happen must be alerted.”

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47. “Bushwhacked, I examine my hands. Same hands. Rings still there but no longer valid.”

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