Top 160 Tara Westover Quotes (2025 Update)
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101. “I talked and he listened, drawing the shame from me like a healer draws infection from a wound.”

— Tara Westover

102. “I had discerned the ways in which we have been sculpted by a tradition given to us by others. A tradition of which we were either willfully or accidentally ignorant. I had begun to understand that we had lent our voices to a discourse whose sole purpose was to dehumanize and brutalize others.”

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103. “I had come to reclaim that life, to save it. But there was nothing here to save, nothing to grasp. There was only shifting sand, shifting loyalties, shifting histories.”

— Tara Westover

104. “The other girls rarely spoke to me, but I loved being there with them. I loved the sensation of conformity. Learning to dance felt like learning to belong.”

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105. “Learning to dance felt like learning to belong.”

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106. “I imagined myself in Emily’s place, which was easy to do – I couldn’t stop myself from doing it – and in a moment I was in a parking lot, laughing my high-pitched cackle, trying to convince the world that my wrist wasn’t breaking.”

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107. “I tried to imagine what it would have been like to study in such a place, to walk across marble floors each morning and, day after day, come to associate learning with beauty.”

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108. “There was little hope of overpowering the history my father and sister were creating for me. Their account would claim my brothers first, then it would spread to my aunts, uncles, cousins, the whole valley. I had lost an entire kinship, and for what?”

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109. “In that moment part of me believed, as I had always believed, that it would be me who broke the spell, who caused it to break.”

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110. “The Baths of Caracalla.”

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111. “Journaling is contemplative, and I didn’t want to contemplate anything.”

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112. “Seeing sunshine, I suspected rain. I felt a relentless desire to ask people to verify whether they were seeing what I was seeing. Is this book blue? I wanted to ask. Is that man tall?”

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113. “He gave me a stiff hug and said, “I love you, you know that?” “I do,” I said. “That has never been the issue.”

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114. “That’s all that was left of the life I’d had here: a puzzle whose rules I would never understand, because they were not rules at all but a kind of cage meant for what had been home, or I could go, now, before the walls shifted and the way out was shut.”

— Tara Westover

115. “He had defined me to myself, and there’s no greater power than that.”

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116. “Of the nature of women, nothing final can be known.”

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117. “From what I could tell, Dad was on track to become the best-funded lunatic in the Mountain West.”

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118. “We arrived and Mother transformed. She issued a string of commands, to the father, to the mother, and to me. I almost forgot to do what she asked, I couldn’t take my eyes off her. I realize now that that night I was seeing her for the first time, the secret strength of her.”

— Tara Westover

119. “In class I had been taught about neurotransmitters and their effect on brain chemistry; I understood that disease is not a choice. This knowledge might have made me sympathetic to my father, but it didn’t. I felt only anger. WE were the ones who paid for it, I thought. We had been bruised and gashed and concussed, had our legs set on fire and our heads cut open.”

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120. “I begin to reason with myself, to doubt whether I had spoken clearly: what had I whispered and what had I screamed? I decide that if I had asked differently, been more calm, he would have stopped. I write this until I believe it, which doesn’t take long because I want to believe it. It’s comforting to think the defect is mine, because that means it is under my power.”

— Tara Westover

121. “I told her she shouldn’t marry someone who scares her, that no one should, but the words left my lips stillborn. I believed them, but I didn’t understand them well enough to make them live.”

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122. “Don’t want your boyfriend to see you looking so glamorous?” He smiles and jabs me with ihs finger. He is looking at me strangely, as it to say, This is who you are. You’ve been pretending that you’re someone else. Someone better. But you are just this.”

— Tara Westover

123. “There’s no telling what kind of cavorting takes place in that theater,” he said. “It’s probably a den of adulterers and fornicators.”

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124. “Clothes could not fix what was wrong with me. Something had rotted on the inside, and the stench was too powerful, the core too rancid, to be covered up by mere dressings.”

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125. “But my father had taught me that there are not two reasonable opinions to be had on any subject: there is Truth and there are Lies.”

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126. “The room suited my father perfectly: it was larger than life and wonderfully incongruous.”

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127. “We had lived in a state of alert, a kind of constant terror, our brains flooding with cortisol because we knew that any of those things might happen at any moment.”

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128. “I hung up, not sure what I’d just heard. I knew it wouldn’t last, that the next time we spoke everything would be different, the tenderness of this moment forgotten, the endless struggle between us again in the foreground. But tonight he wanted to help. And that was something.”

— Tara Westover

129. “The days slipped away quickly, as days do when you’re dreading something.”

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130. “I would remain a child, in perpetuity, always, or I would lose him.”

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131. “I can help,” he said, “but you’ll need to tell me what’s bothering you.” His voice was gentle, and that gentleness was cruel. I wished he would yell. If he yelled, it would make me angry, and when angry I felt powerful. I didn’t know if I could do this without feeling powerful.”

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132. “I don’t know if the separation is permanent, if one day I will find a way back, but it has brought me peace.”

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133. “Bleached structures from antiquity lay like dried bones, embedded in pulsating cables and thrumming traffic, the arteries of modern life.”

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134. “The conversation was slow, halting. Audrey asked me no questions about England or Cambridge. She had no frame of reference for my life, so we talked about hers.”

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135. “Reality became fluid. The ground gave way beneath my feet, dragging me downward, spinning fast, like sand rushing through a hole in the bottom of the universe.”

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136. “When you are part of a place, growing that moment in its soil, there’s never a need to say you’re from there. I never uttered the words ‘I’m from Idaho’ until I’d left it.”

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137. “My father and I looked at the temple. He saw God; I saw granite... He saw a woman damned; I saw an unhinged old man, literally disfigured by his beliefs.”

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138. “Suddenly that worth felt conditional, like it could be taken or squandered. It was not inherent; it was bestowed. What was of worth was not me, but the veneer of constraints and observances that obscured me.”

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139. “He can’t explain where the conviction came from, or how it burned brightly enough to shine through the black uncertainty. But I’ve always supposed it was the music in his head, some hopeful tune the rest of us couldn’t hear, the same secret melody he’d been humming when he bought that trigonometry book, or saved all those pencil shavings.”

— Tara Westover

140. “I am only seven, but I understand that it is this fact, more than any other, that makes my family different: we don’t go to school.”

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141. “I hear of the ongoing drama on the mountain – the injuries, violence and shifting loyalties. But it comes to me now as distant hearsay, which is a gift.”

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142. “I wondered if perhaps I had changed too much. All my studying, reading, thinking, traveling, had it transformed me into someone who no longer belonged anywhere?”

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143. “There was a boldness in not editing for consistency, in not ripping out the one page or the other. To admit uncertainty is to admit to weakness, to powerlessness, and to believe in yourself despite both.”

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144. “A witness. An impartial account. The fever of self doubt had broken long ago. That’s not to say I trusted my memory absolutely, but I trusted it as much as I trusted anybody else’s, and more than some people’s.”

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145. “The skill I was learning was a crucial one, the patience to read things I could not yet understand.”

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146. “At the Galleria Nazionale d’Arte Antica, I stood before Carrivagio’s Judith Beheading Holofernes and did not once think about chickens.”

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147. “They see change as dangerous and will exile anyone who asks for it. This is a perverted idea of family loyalty.”

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148. “What is a person to do, I asked, when their obligations to their family conflict with other obligations – to friends, to society, to themselves?”

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149. “It was difficult to imagine a man like Dad – proud, strong, physical – permanently impaired.”

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150. “I just didn’t feel like seeing him, or hearing his voice, so I didn’t.”

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