Top 35 Yong Kang Chan Quotes (2025 Update)

1. “You can’t change the outside without changing the inside.”

— Yong Kang Chan

2. “Nothingness is the most peaceful state of mind. There’s no unworthiness or inferiority. There’s only pure love.”

— Yong Kang Chan

3. “Life isn’t about being strong or pretending we are strong to impress others. It takes courage to be authentic with our feelings and acknowledge that real strength comes from recognizing our moments of weakness.”

— Yong Kang Chan

4. “You have no choice about what gets poured into your cup, but you have a choice as to what you accept and believe.”

— Yong Kang Chan

5. “Low self-esteem is the belief that we are not good or worthy enough. It’s a self-perception. It doesn’t matter how successful or confident you are. You can be wealthy, beautiful, or well-liked by others and still don’t feel good about yourself. The way other people perceive you doesn’t affect your self-esteem. It’s how you perceive yourself that matters.”

— Yong Kang Chan

6. “When you hate your parents or dislike certain traits that they have, you are actually giving them more attention and directing your energy toward them. They occupy your headspace, so how could it not affect your choices in life.”

— Yong Kang Chan

7. “Your inner child is waiting for a genuine, heartfelt apology.”

— Yong Kang Chan

8. “The more you don’t want to be like your parents, the more you will resemble them.”

— Yong Kang Chan

9. “I mistakenly believed that I was my emotions.”

— Yong Kang Chan

10. “Beneath anger, there are hurt feelings.”

— Yong Kang Chan

11. “Your pain needs to be recognized and acknowledged. It needs to be acknowledged and then released. Avoiding pain is the same as denying it.”

— Yong Kang Chan

12. “The truth is everything is impermanent. Nothing stays the same. Flowers wither. Our bodies grow old. Even our thoughts and emotions seem to dissolve over time. When we have a fixed concept of self, we lose ourselves in the past and don’t allow ourselves to just be who we are in the present.”

— Yong Kang Chan

13. “Blocking our feelings and pretending they aren’t there doesn’t mean they don’t exist.”

— Yong Kang Chan

14. “Once we let go of our low self-esteem identity, the mind will have to start all over again, collecting new information about us and building a new identity.”

— Yong Kang Chan

15. “Telling a person who is depressed to have positive thoughts is the same as telling a sick person not to be sick. It doesn’t work.”

— Yong Kang Chan

16. “Words can’t harm you when they don’t mean anything to you.”

— Yong Kang Chan

17. “Intuition has always been my greatest gift. It has provided me with many ideas for my creative work and saved me from a lot of trouble. It’s just that when I feel stressed and desperate, I forget this gift.”

— Yong Kang Chan

18. “Seeking love in the mind is like seeking love from the creator of your own drama. The mind cannot give us what we are looking for.”

— Yong Kang Chan

19. “Without the mind, the idea of worthiness would not exist.”

— Yong Kang Chan

20. “People who have low self-esteem might not even know they have low self-esteem.”

— Yong Kang Chan

21. “Anger tried to help me feel better about myself by pushing the blame onto someone else.”

— Yong Kang Chan

22. “We established most of our self-beliefs during our childhood, but they were based on our limited understanding of the world around us. They are either flawed or have become outdated. We can’t take these beliefs at face value anymore.”

— Yong Kang Chan

23. “Escaping is running away from the truth, but disbelief is running towards the truth.”

— Yong Kang Chan

24. “When we feel lonely, we are not lacking in love. We are disconnected from love.”

— Yong Kang Chan

25. “Our reaction to self-criticism is more important than the self-criticism itself. Paying attention to our reactions is very important because the only thing we have control over is how we react.”

— Yong Kang Chan

26. “Loneliness is an invitation to go deeper into our being. It wakes us up to the wholeness and completeness we already are.”

— Yong Kang Chan

27. “Pretending to be passionate when we are truly depressed doesn’t help. Numbing our feelings only makes things worse. Depression taught me to experience all of my feelings and not push them aside.”

— Yong Kang Chan

28. “Empathy is my good friend, but she doesn’t allow me to be angry.”

— Yong Kang Chan

29. “The relationship with our parents will not change until we change.”

— Yong Kang Chan

30. “True acceptance doesn’t require you to fit in or change who you are. It doesn’t have to be sought; it’s given to you.”

— Yong Kang Chan

31. “Viewing yourself from the spirit’s perspective allows you to be detached from the drama in your mind. Then, you will realize your current self-perception is none other than a mental image created by your mind.”

— Yong Kang Chan

32. “Although we want to be close with others, we maintain a distance so we won’t be hurt.”

— Yong Kang Chan

33. “Sometimes, awareness is not enough. Some of your habits have such strong momentum that they will pull you in a direction you don’t want to go.”

— Yong Kang Chan

34. “I began to understand that I could not depend on them to provide me with affirmation and approval. To improve my relationship with my parents, I needed to change. I needed to give myself permission and approval to do what I wanted to do. If my parents couldn’t love me the way I wanted them to love me, then I would have to learn how to love myself.”

— Yong Kang Chan

35. “The ego only understands love from a survival perspective. It doesn’t understand love from a deeper, spiritual perspective.”

— Yong Kang Chan

36. “The inner critic isn’t an enemy.”

— Yong Kang Chan