Top 80 Alfie Kohn Quotes (2024 Update)

1. “If children feel safe, they can take risks, ask questions, make mistakes, learn to trust, share their feelings, and grow.”

— Alfie Kohn

2. “Children learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions.”

— Alfie Kohn

3. “Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously.”

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4. “Educational success should be measured by how strong your desire is to keep learning.”

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5. “Learning is something students do, NOT something done to students.”

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6. “The Legacy of Behaviorism: Do this and you’ll get that.”

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7. “Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior.”

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8. “Saying you taught it but the student didn’t learn it is like saying you sold it but the customer didn’t buy it.”

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9. “People will typically be more enthusiastic where they feel a sense of belonging and see themselves as part of a community than they will in a workplace in which each person is left to his own devices.”

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10. “In outstanding classrooms, teachers do more listening than talking, and students do more talking than listening. Terrific teachers often have teeth marks on their tongues.”

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11. “Trying to be number one and trying to do a task well are two different things.”

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12. “To feel controlled is to lose interest.”

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13. “Assessments should compare the performance of students to a set of expectations, never to the performance of other students.”

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14. “Grades are a subjective rating masquerading as an objective evaluation.”

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15. “Do rewards motivate people? Absolutely. They motivate people to get rewards.”

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16. “Being a team player should not imply a demand for simple obedience and conformity.”

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17. “To be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.”

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18. “If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn’t necessary. If they’re absent, praise won’t help.”

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19. “We can’t value only what is easy to measure; measurable outcomes may be the least important results of learning.”

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20. “Whoever said there’s no such thing as a stupid question never looked carefully at a standardized test.”

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21. “Punishments erode relationships and moral growth.”

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22. “Punishments and rewards are two sides of the same coin and that coin doesn’t buy you much.”

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23. “The late W. Edwards Deming, guru of Quality management, once declared, ‘The most important things we need to manage can’t be measured.’ If that’s true of what we need to manage, it should be even more obvious that it’s true of what we need to teach.”

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24. “Social psychology has found the more you reward people for doing something, the more they tend to lose interest in whatever they had to do to get the reward.”

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25. “Unconditional parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason.”

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26. “Children don’t just need to be loved; they need to know that nothing they do will change the fact that they’re loved.”

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27. “Those who know they’re valued irrespective of their accomplishments often end up accomplishing quite a lot. It’s the experience of being accepted without conditions that helps people develop a healthy confidence in themselves, a belief that it’s safe to take risks and try new things.”

— Alfie Kohn

28. “We learn most readily, most naturally, most effectively, when we start with the big picture – precisely when the basics don’t come first.”

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29. “When test scores go up, we should worry, because of how poor a measure they are of what matters, and what you typically sacrifice in a desperate effort to raise scores.”

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30. “Students should not only be trained to live in a democracy when they grow up; they should have the chance to live in one today.”

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31. “In education, parody is obsolete.”

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32. “If faculty would relax their emphasis on grades, this might serve not to lower standards but to encourage an orientation toward learning.”

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33. “To control students is to force them to accommodate to a preestablished curriculum.”

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34. “A society in which no one is willing to risk being called a troublemaker is a place where power is certain to be abused.”

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35. “After all, if we want a child to grow into a genuinely compassionate person, then it’s not enough to know whether he just did something helpful. We’d want to know why.”

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36. “Don’t let anyone tell you that standardized tests are not accurate measures. The truth of the matter is they offer a remarkably precise method for gauging the size of the houses near the school where the test was administered.”

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37. “Standardized testing has swelled and mutated, like a creature in one of those old horror movies, to the point that it now threatens to swallow our schools whole.”

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38. “We have so much to cover and so little time to cover it. Howard Gardner refers to curriculum coverage as the single greatest enemy of understanding. Think instead about ideas to be discovered.”

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39. “Contrary to what you think, your company will be a lot more productive if you refuse to tolerate competition among your employees.”

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40. “As Thomas Gordon pointed out, ‘Parents who find unacceptable a great many things that their children do or say will inevitably foster in these children a deep feeling that they are unacceptable as persons.’ That doesn’t change just because the parents remember to say soothingly, ‘We love you, honey; we just hate almost everything you do.”

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41. “How can we do our best when we are spending our energies trying to make others lose – and fearing that they will make us lose?”

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42. “Grades dilute the pleasure that a student experiences on successfully completing a task.”

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43. “The race to win turns us all into losers.”

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44. “If rewards do not work, what does? I recommend that employers pay workers well and fairly and then do everything possible to help them forget about money. A preoccupation with money distracts everyone – employers and employees – from the issues that really matter.”

— Alfie Kohn

45. “Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it’s what the learner learns.”

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46. “A preoccupation with achievement is not only different from, but often detrimental to, a focus on learning. Thoughts and emotions while performing an action are more important in determining subsequent engagement than the actual outcome of that action.”

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47. “Students get the message bout what adults want. When 4th graders in a variety of classroomswere asked what their teachers most wanted them to do, they didn’t say, “Ask thoughtful questions” or “Make responsible decisions” or Help others.” They said, “Be quiet, don’t fool around, and get our work done on time.”

— Alfie Kohn

48. “Maximum difficulty isn’t the same as optimal difficulty.”

— Alfie Kohn

49. “You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don’t want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.”

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50. “Independence is useful, but caring attitudes and behaviors shrivel up in a culture where each person is responsible only for himself.”

— Alfie Kohn