Top 80 Alfie Kohn Quotes (2024 Update)
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Alfie Kohn Quote: “When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?”

51. “When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “John Dewey reminded us that the value of what students do ’resides in its connection with a stimulation of greater thoughtfulness, not in the greater strain it imposes.”

52. “John Dewey reminded us that the value of what students do ’resides in its connection with a stimulation of greater thoughtfulness, not in the greater strain it imposes.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “The value of a book about dealing with children is inversely proportional to the number of times it contains the word behavior.”

53. “The value of a book about dealing with children is inversely proportional to the number of times it contains the word behavior.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “There are different kinds of motivation, and the kind matters more than the amount.”

54. “There are different kinds of motivation, and the kind matters more than the amount.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “We tell them how good they are and they light up, eager to please, and try to please us some more. These are the children we should really worry about.”

55. “We tell them how good they are and they light up, eager to please, and try to please us some more. These are the children we should really worry about.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “I realized that this is what many people in our society seem to want most from children: not that they are caring or creative or curious, but simply that they are well behaved.”

56. “I realized that this is what many people in our society seem to want most from children: not that they are caring or creative or curious, but simply that they are well behaved.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things look from the perspective of the children.”

57. “Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things look from the perspective of the children.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “The dominant problem with parenting in our society isn’t permissiveness, but the fear of permissiveness. We’re so worried about spoiling kids that we often end up over controlling them.”

58. “The dominant problem with parenting in our society isn’t permissiveness, but the fear of permissiveness. We’re so worried about spoiling kids that we often end up over controlling them.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Very few things are as dangerous as a bunch of incentive-driven individuals trying to play it safe.”

59. “Very few things are as dangerous as a bunch of incentive-driven individuals trying to play it safe.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “How we feel about our kids isn’t as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.”

60. “How we feel about our kids isn’t as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “S. Neill put it, promising a reward for an activity is “tantamount to declaring that the activity is not worth doing for its own sake.”26 Thus, a parent who says to a child, “If you finish your math homework, you may watch an hour of TV” is teaching the child to think of math as something that isn’t much fun.”

61. “S. Neill put it, promising a reward for an activity is “tantamount to declaring that the activity is not worth doing for its own sake.”26 Thus, a parent who says to a child, “If you finish your math homework, you may watch an hour of TV” is teaching the child to think of math as something that isn’t much fun.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Few readers will be shocked by the news that extrinsic motivators are a poor substitute for genuine interest in what one is doing. What is likely to be far more surprising and disturbing is the further point that rewards, like punishments, actually undermine the intrinsic motivation that promotes optimal performance.”

62. “Few readers will be shocked by the news that extrinsic motivators are a poor substitute for genuine interest in what one is doing. What is likely to be far more surprising and disturbing is the further point that rewards, like punishments, actually undermine the intrinsic motivation that promotes optimal performance.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “We complain loudly about such things as the sagging productivity of our workplaces, the crisis of our schools, and the warped values of our children. But the very strategy we use to solve those problems – dangling rewards like incentive plans and grades and candy bars in front of people – is partly responsible for the fix we’re in. We are a society of loyal Skinnerians, unable to think our way out of the box we have reinforced ourselves into.”

63. “We complain loudly about such things as the sagging productivity of our workplaces, the crisis of our schools, and the warped values of our children. But the very strategy we use to solve those problems – dangling rewards like incentive plans and grades and candy bars in front of people – is partly responsible for the fix we’re in. We are a society of loyal Skinnerians, unable to think our way out of the box we have reinforced ourselves into.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “What can we surmise about the likelihood of someone’s being caring and generous, loving and helpful, just from knowing that they are a believer? Virtually nothing, say psychologists, sociologists, and others who have studied that question for decade.”

64. “What can we surmise about the likelihood of someone’s being caring and generous, loving and helpful, just from knowing that they are a believer? Virtually nothing, say psychologists, sociologists, and others who have studied that question for decade.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it’s what the learner learns. And so it is in families. What matters is the message our kids receive, not the one we think we’re sending.”

65. “Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it’s what the learner learns. And so it is in families. What matters is the message our kids receive, not the one we think we’re sending.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Children aren’t helped to become caring members of a community, or ethical decision-makers, or critical thinkers, so much as they’re simply trained to follow directions.”

66. “Children aren’t helped to become caring members of a community, or ethical decision-makers, or critical thinkers, so much as they’re simply trained to follow directions.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Few parents have the courage and independence to care more for their children’s happiness than for their success.”

67. “Few parents have the courage and independence to care more for their children’s happiness than for their success.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Thomas Gordon said it well: “Children sometimes know better than parents when they are sleepy or hungry; know better the qualities of their friends, their own aspirations and goals, how their various teachers treat them; know better the urges and needs within their bodies, whom they love and whom they don’t, what they value and what they don’t.”4 In any case, we can’t always assume that because we’re more mature we necessarily have more insight into our children than they have into themselves.”

68. “Thomas Gordon said it well: “Children sometimes know better than parents when they are sleepy or hungry; know better the qualities of their friends, their own aspirations and goals, how their various teachers treat them; know better the urges and needs within their bodies, whom they love and whom they don’t, what they value and what they don’t.”4 In any case, we can’t always assume that because we’re more mature we necessarily have more insight into our children than they have into themselves.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Unconditional parents want to know how to do something other than threaten and punish. They don’t see their relationship with their children as adversarial, so their goal is to avoid battles, not win them.”

69. “Unconditional parents want to know how to do something other than threaten and punish. They don’t see their relationship with their children as adversarial, so their goal is to avoid battles, not win them.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.”

70. “When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Similarly, parents who want to teach the importance of honesty make it a practice never to lie to their children, even when it would be easier just to claim that there are no cookies left rather than to explain why they can’t have another one.”

71. “Similarly, parents who want to teach the importance of honesty make it a practice never to lie to their children, even when it would be easier just to claim that there are no cookies left rather than to explain why they can’t have another one.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Like any other tool for facilitating the completion of a questionable task, rewards offer a “how” answer to what is really a “why” question.”

72. “Like any other tool for facilitating the completion of a questionable task, rewards offer a “how” answer to what is really a “why” question.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “How well you do things should be incidental, not integral, to the way you regard yourself.”

73. “How well you do things should be incidental, not integral, to the way you regard yourself.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “A willingness to question the way things are paradoxically affirms a vision of the way things ought to be.”

74. “A willingness to question the way things are paradoxically affirms a vision of the way things ought to be.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “From deep contentment comes the courage to achieve.”

75. “From deep contentment comes the courage to achieve.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Think of your goal as giving your child a kind of inoculation, providing him with the unconditional love, respect, trust, and sense of perspective that will serve to immunize him against the most destructive effects of an overcontrolling environment or an unreasonable authority figure.”

76. “Think of your goal as giving your child a kind of inoculation, providing him with the unconditional love, respect, trust, and sense of perspective that will serve to immunize him against the most destructive effects of an overcontrolling environment or an unreasonable authority figure.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Besides, what best prepares children to deal with the challenges of the “real world” is to experience success and joy. People don’t get better at coping with unhappiness because they were deliberately made unhappy when they were young.”

77. “Besides, what best prepares children to deal with the challenges of the “real world” is to experience success and joy. People don’t get better at coping with unhappiness because they were deliberately made unhappy when they were young.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “What provokes particular outrage and ridicule is the idea that children might feel good about themselves in the absence of impressive accomplishments, even though, as I’ll show, studies find that unconditional self-esteem is a key component of psychological health.”

78. “What provokes particular outrage and ridicule is the idea that children might feel good about themselves in the absence of impressive accomplishments, even though, as I’ll show, studies find that unconditional self-esteem is a key component of psychological health.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “The story of declining school quality across the twentieth century is, for the most part, a fable,” says social scientist Richard Rothstein, whose book The Way We Were? cites a series of similar attacks on American education, moving backward one decade at a time.3 Each generation invokes the good old days, during which, we discover, people had been doing exactly the same thing.”

79. “The story of declining school quality across the twentieth century is, for the most part, a fable,” says social scientist Richard Rothstein, whose book The Way We Were? cites a series of similar attacks on American education, moving backward one decade at a time.3 Each generation invokes the good old days, during which, we discover, people had been doing exactly the same thing.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “I realized that this is what many people in our society seem to want most from children: not that they are caring or creative or curious, but simply that they are well behaved. A “good” child – from infancy to adolescence – is one who isn’t too much trouble to us grown-ups.”

80. “I realized that this is what many people in our society seem to want most from children: not that they are caring or creative or curious, but simply that they are well behaved. A “good” child – from infancy to adolescence – is one who isn’t too much trouble to us grown-ups.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “We ought to love children, as my friend Deborah says, ‘for no good reason.’ Furthermore, what counts is not that we believe we love them unconditionally, but that they feel loved in that way.”

81. “We ought to love children, as my friend Deborah says, ‘for no good reason.’ Furthermore, what counts is not that we believe we love them unconditionally, but that they feel loved in that way.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “All rewards have the same effect,” one writer declares. “They dilute the pure joy that comes from success itself.”

82. “All rewards have the same effect,” one writer declares. “They dilute the pure joy that comes from success itself.”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “In my view, there are two fundamentally different ways one can respond to a child who does something wrong. One is to impose a punitive consequence. Another is to see the situation as a “teachable moment,” an opportunity to educate or to solve a problem together. The response here is not “You’ve misbehaved; now here’s what I’m going to do to you” but “Something has gone wrong; what can we do about it?”

83. “In my view, there are two fundamentally different ways one can respond to a child who does something wrong. One is to impose a punitive consequence. Another is to see the situation as a “teachable moment,” an opportunity to educate or to solve a problem together. The response here is not “You’ve misbehaved; now here’s what I’m going to do to you” but “Something has gone wrong; what can we do about it?”

Alfie Kohn Quote: “Many mothers and father return each evening from their paid jobs only to serve as homework monitors, a position for which they never applied.”

84. “Many mothers and father return each evening from their paid jobs only to serve as homework monitors, a position for which they never applied.”

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