Top 280 Gary Chapman Quotes (2024 Update)
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101. “Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardship our lot in life.”

— Gary Chapman

102. “Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace. Where there is hatred, let me sow love; where there is injury, pardon; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is sadness, joy; where there is darkness, light.”

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103. “James Garbarino, professor of human development at Cornell University, has spent many years studying the inner life of violent teenagers. He concluded that the feeling of rejection is a major element in the psychological makeup of the violent teenager. Often this rejection grows out of being compared with another sibling.”

— Gary Chapman

104. “The words “I love you” should never be diluted with conditional statements.”

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105. “Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving. That kind of love requires effort and discipline. It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction – the satisfaction of having genuinely.”

— Gary Chapman

106. “If love is a choice, then they have the capacity to love after the “in-love” obsession has died and they have returned to the real world. That kind of love begins with an attitude – a way of thinking. Love is the attitude that says, “I am married to you, and I choose to look out for your interests.”

— Gary Chapman

107. “If her primary love language is quality time and her dialect is quality conversation, her emotional love tank will never be filled until he tells her his thoughts and feelings.”

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108. “Your example is a witness – of God’s love and yours. – James Hopkins –.”

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109. “Remember, love is the attitude that wishes good things for the other person. Do you desire the best possible life for your mom and dad for the rest of their years?” “Yes,” Brian said. “Then ‘I love you’ is a true statement.”

— Gary Chapman

110. “It is the mistaken idea that if I reward mediocrity, I will curtail the person’s aspirations to be better. That is a commonly held myth that keeps some parents from verbally affirming children. Of course, it’s untrue.”

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111. “When I have been wronged by my spouse and she has painfully confessed it and requested forgiveness, I have the option of justice or forgiveness.”

— Gary Chapman

112. “GET TOUGH. Mental and spiritual toughness go together. Deepen your commitment to your most essential values and mentally rehearse the specific ways you can take positive action.”

— Gary Chapman

113. “Forgiveness is an expression of love.”

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114. “When the Lord saw her, his heart overflowed with compassion. “Don’t cry!” he said. – Luke 7:13.”

— Gary Chapman

115. “Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement.”

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116. “Anger” is one letter short of “danger.” AUTHOR UNKNOWN.”

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117. “Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn’t bring up past failures. None of us is perfect. In marriage we do not always do the best or right thing. We have sometimes done and said hurtful things to our spouses. We cannot erase the past. We can only confess it and agree that it was wrong. We can ask for forgiveness and try to act differently in the future.”

— Gary Chapman

118. “When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks bright and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life.”

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119. “An ancient sage once said, “A soft answer turns away anger.”

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120. “A central aspect to quality time is togetherness. I do not mean proximity... Togetherness has to do with focused attention.”

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121. “Discovering your own love language helps you understand why you feel more loved and appreciated by certain people than you do.”

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122. “Trust is a fragile commodity. Know your code of conduct and the values you stand for. Remember: if you wouldn’t want to explain it on ‘60 Minutes,’ don’t do it.”

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123. “Welcome to the real world of marriage, where hairs are always on the sink and little white spots cover the mirror, where arguments center on which way the toilet paper comes off and whether the lid should be up or down. It is a world where shoes do not walk to the closet and drawers do not close themselves, where coats do not like hangers and socks go AWOL during laundry. In this world, a look can hurt and a word can crush. Intimate lovers can become enemies, and marriage a battlefield.”

— Gary Chapman

124. “Bosses use humiliation to dominate.”

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125. “We can request love, but we cannot demand love.”

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126. “The tongue has the power of life and death.”1.”

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127. “In processing anger toward someone with whom you have a relationship, two questions are paramount: 1. Is my response positive – does it have the potential for dealing with the wrong and healing the relationship? 2. Is my response loving – is it designed for the benefit of the person at whom I am angry?”

— Gary Chapman

128. “Sometimes our words say one thing, but our tone of voice says another.”

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129. “A gift is a gift only when given as a genuine expression of love, not as an effort to cover over past failures.”

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130. “Love is the attitude that says, “I am married to you, and I choose to look out for your interests.”

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131. “If acts of service do not come naturally for you, it is still a love language worth acquiring. It is a way of expressing a sense of responsibility for the well-being of others. Albert Schweitzer said repeatedly ” As long as there is a man in the world who is hungry, sick, lonely or living in fear, he is my responsibility.” Helping others is universally accepted as an expression of love.”

— Gary Chapman

132. “But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. – Galatians 5:22–23.”

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133. “Quality time is a parent’s gift of presence to a child. It conveys this message: “You are important. I like being with you.”

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134. “Almost never do two people fall in love on the same day, and almost never do they fall out of love on the same day.”

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135. “Can emotional love be reborn? You bet! The key is to learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it.”

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136. “Friends and flowers are two of God’s most extravagant blessings. Nurture both.”

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137. “A child may be “spoiled” by a lack of training or by inappropriate love that gives or trains incorrectly.”

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138. “Timely advice is lovely, like golden apples in a silver basket. – Proverbs 25:11.”

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139. “It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction – the satisfaction of having genuinely loved another.”

— Gary Chapman

140. “When an action does not come naturally to you it is a greater expression of love.”

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141. “The greatest enemy of encouraging our children is anger. The more anger the parent harbors, the more anger the parent will dump on the children. The result will be children who are both antiauthority and anti-parent. This naturally means that a thoughtful parent will do all in his or her power to assuage anger – to keep it to a minimum and to handle it maturely.”

— Gary Chapman

142. “God’s forgiveness is always in response to man’s repentance. His.”

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143. “You are the gatekeeper of your child’s mental diet.”

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144. “Even the smallest actions of a friend can make a big difference. – Zeta Davidson –.”

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145. “Steven Covey, author of the bestselling The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, feels so strongly about people’s need for appreciation that he states: “Next to physical survival, the greatest need of a human being is psychological survival, to be understood, to be affirmed, to be validated, to be appreciated.”1.”

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146. “The desire for reconciliation is often more potent than the desire for justice. The more intimate the relationship, the deeper the desire for reconciliation.”

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147. “When we hold hands, it seems as if our blood flows together. We could kiss forever if we didn’t have to go to school or work.”

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148. “Never underestimate the value of the ministry you have in the place where God has called you – even if it’s “only” among your family and friends. – Jenni Davenport –.”

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149. “A true gift is not payment for services rendered; rather, it is an expression of love for the individual and is freely given by the donor.”

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150. “Genuine service demands that we speak the truth in love. We do not serve each other by avoiding one another’s weaknesses.”

— Gary Chapman