Top 280 Gary Chapman Quotes (2025 Update)
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51. “What we dislike in others is often a weakness in our own lives.”

— Gary Chapman

52. “No matter what I did, it was never enough.”

— Gary Chapman

53. “I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.”

— Gary Chapman

54. “Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.”

— Gary Chapman

55. “Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.”

— Gary Chapman

56. “Show me your unfailing love in wonderful ways. – Psalm 17:7.”

— Gary Chapman

57. “Don’t be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won’t even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.”

— Gary Chapman

58. “Angry people need someone who cares enough to listen long enough to understand the pain. They need someone who listens carefully enough to identify with the person’s anger, wisely enough to express understanding, and courageously enough to respond with a gentle, truthful answer – an answer that seeks resolution of the issue that gave rise to the anger.”

— Gary Chapman

59. “Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other’s eyes. It means that we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to the other person.”

— Gary Chapman

60. “Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.”

— Gary Chapman

61. “When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer. – Psalm 94:19.”

— Gary Chapman

62. “The person who is “in-love” has the ilusion that his beloved is perfect.”

— Gary Chapman

63. “Remember love, not hate, equals peace.”

— Gary Chapman

64. “If her primary love language is quality time and her dialect is quality conversation, her emotional love tank will never be filled until he tells her his thoughts and feelings.”

— Gary Chapman

65. “You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it – unless you speak the love language that communicates to her your love – she will not feel loved.”

— Gary Chapman

66. “The choice to love is the choice to take initiative. It is the choice to do or say something for the other person’s benefit, something that would help make them a better person, something that would enrich their lives or make life more meaningful for them.”

— Gary Chapman

67. “I think people desperately want to feel love.”

— Gary Chapman

68. “With empty love tanks, couples tend to argue and withdraw, and some may tend to be violent verbally or physically in their arguments. But when the love tank is full, we create a climate of friendliness, a climate that seeks to understand, that is willing to allow differences and to negotiate problems. I am convinced that no single area of marriage affects the rest of marriage as much as meeting the emotional need for love.”

— Gary Chapman

69. “We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve. A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and desires.”

— Gary Chapman

70. “I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him: ‘Father forgive them for they know not what they do.’ That is love’s ultimate expression.”

— Gary Chapman

71. “Love is a verb.”

— Gary Chapman

72. “You can’t train them to express their anger in mature ways simply by getting upset at them and forcing them to stop venting their anger.”

— Gary Chapman

73. “A child who misbehaves has a need. To overlook the need behind the misbehavior can prevent us from doing the right thing. Asking ourselves, “What can I do to correct my child’s behavior?” often leads to thoughtless punishment. Asking, “What does my child need?” lets us proceed with confidence that we will handle the situation well.”

— Gary Chapman

74. “Love is the most important word in the English language – and the most confusing.”

— Gary Chapman

75. “Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.”

— Gary Chapman

76. “The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history. Yes, it happened. Certainly it hurt. And it may still hurt, but he has acknowledged his failure and asked your forgiveness. We cannot erase the past, but we can accept it as history. We can choose to live today free from the failures of yesterday. Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.”

— Gary Chapman

77. “When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks bright and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and he feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and he will likely never reach his potential for good in the world.”

— Gary Chapman

78. “I think that in today’s world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness.”

— Gary Chapman

79. “We all need support, in the workplace and beyond it. When we both give and receive, we stand a much better chance of survival.”

— Gary Chapman

80. “If your enemies are hungry, give them food to eat. If they are thirsty, give them water to drink. – Proverbs 25:21.”

— Gary Chapman

81. “Achieving great accomplishments doesn’t matter much if everyone who helps you get there dies along the way.” Paul White.”

— Gary Chapman

82. “Unconditional love shows love to a child no matter what. We love regardless of what the child looks like; regardless of her assets, liabilities, or handicaps; regardless of what we expect her to be; and, most difficult of all, regardless of how she acts.”

— Gary Chapman

83. “It’s too easy to complain. A heart of love finds the good, and, if necessary, helps change the bad things. – Zach Davidson –.”

— Gary Chapman

84. “Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God. – Philippians 1:3.”

— Gary Chapman

85. “We need not agree on everything, but we must find a way to handle our differences so that they do not become divisive.”

— Gary Chapman

86. “Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals.”

— Gary Chapman

87. “The earth is a loving God’s gift to us, and we show our love for His work by practicing good stewardship. – Janet Graham.”

— Gary Chapman

88. “Remember that your ultimate goal is for your children to grow up secure in your love, strong in their faith, and with sound character.”

— Gary Chapman

90. “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”5.”

— Gary Chapman

91. “I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn’t make another person feel loved.”

— Gary Chapman

92. “Through love, God paves the way to reconciliation. – Deb Wuethrich –.”

— Gary Chapman

93. “Anger, then, is the emotion that arises whenever we encounter what we perceive to be wrong. The emotional, physiological, and cognitive dimensions of anger leap to the front burner of our experience when we encounter injustice.”

— Gary Chapman

94. “Sometimes the decision to agree with the other person’s idea will involve great sacrifice. However, love always involves some sacrifice.”

— Gary Chapman

95. “I liked the metaphor the first time I heard it: “Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave.”

— Gary Chapman

96. “We are influenced by our personality but not controlled by it.”

— Gary Chapman

97. “Love is not our only emotional need. Psychologists have observed that among our basic needs are the need for security, self-worth, and significance. Love, however, interfaces with all of those. If I feel loved by my spouse, I can relax, knowing that my lover will do me no ill. I feel secure in her presence. I may face many uncertainties in my vocation. I may have enemies in other areas of my life, but with my spouse I feel secure.”

— Gary Chapman

98. “The word encourage means “to inspire courage.” All.”

— Gary Chapman

99. “Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardship our lot in life.”

— Gary Chapman

100. “Love is not a feeling; it is a way of behaving.”

— Gary Chapman