Top 280 Gary Chapman Quotes (2024 Update)
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51. “No matter what I did, it was never enough.”

— Gary Chapman

52. “Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.”

— Gary Chapman

53. “Isolation is devastating to the human psyche.”

— Gary Chapman

54. “Don’t be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won’t even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.”

— Gary Chapman

55. “Angry people need someone who cares enough to listen long enough to understand the pain. They need someone who listens carefully enough to identify with the person’s anger, wisely enough to express understanding, and courageously enough to respond with a gentle, truthful answer – an answer that seeks resolution of the issue that gave rise to the anger.”

— Gary Chapman

56. “Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.”

— Gary Chapman

57. “When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer. – Psalm 94:19.”

— Gary Chapman

58. “Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other’s eyes. It means that we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to the other person.”

— Gary Chapman

59. “The person who is “in-love” has the ilusion that his beloved is perfect.”

— Gary Chapman

60. “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? – Luke 6:41.”

— Gary Chapman

61. “You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it – unless you speak the love language that communicates to her your love – she will not feel loved.”

— Gary Chapman

62. “I think people desperately want to feel love.”

— Gary Chapman

63. “We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve. A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s thoughts, feelings, and desires.”

— Gary Chapman

64. “I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him: ‘Father forgive them for they know not what they do.’ That is love’s ultimate expression.”

— Gary Chapman

65. “You can’t train them to express their anger in mature ways simply by getting upset at them and forcing them to stop venting their anger.”

— Gary Chapman

66. “A child who misbehaves has a need. To overlook the need behind the misbehavior can prevent us from doing the right thing. Asking ourselves, “What can I do to correct my child’s behavior?” often leads to thoughtless punishment. Asking, “What does my child need?” lets us proceed with confidence that we will handle the situation well.”

— Gary Chapman

67. “With empty love tanks, couples tend to argue and withdraw, and some may tend to be violent verbally or physically in their arguments. But when the love tank is full, we create a climate of friendliness, a climate that seeks to understand, that is willing to allow differences and to negotiate problems. I am convinced that no single area of marriage affects the rest of marriage as much as meeting the emotional need for love.”

— Gary Chapman

68. “Love is a verb.”

— Gary Chapman

69. “Love is the most important word in the English language – and the most confusing.”

— Gary Chapman

70. “The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history. Yes, it happened. Certainly it hurt. And it may still hurt, but he has acknowledged his failure and asked your forgiveness. We cannot erase the past, but we can accept it as history. We can choose to live today free from the failures of yesterday. Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.”

— Gary Chapman

71. “Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.”

— Gary Chapman

72. “When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks bright and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and he feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and he will likely never reach his potential for good in the world.”

— Gary Chapman

73. “I think that in today’s world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness.”

— Gary Chapman

74. “Achieving great accomplishments doesn’t matter much if everyone who helps you get there dies along the way.” Paul White.”

— Gary Chapman

75. “We all need support, in the workplace and beyond it. When we both give and receive, we stand a much better chance of survival.”

— Gary Chapman

76. “It’s too easy to complain. A heart of love finds the good, and, if necessary, helps change the bad things. – Zach Davidson –.”

— Gary Chapman

77. “If your enemies are hungry, give them food to eat. If they are thirsty, give them water to drink. – Proverbs 25:21.”

— Gary Chapman

78. “Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God. – Philippians 1:3.”

— Gary Chapman

79. “Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated. Words of affirmation will meet that need in many individuals.”

— Gary Chapman

80. “The earth is a loving God’s gift to us, and we show our love for His work by practicing good stewardship. – Janet Graham.”

— Gary Chapman

81. “Remember that your ultimate goal is for your children to grow up secure in your love, strong in their faith, and with sound character.”

— Gary Chapman

82. “Unconditional love shows love to a child no matter what. We love regardless of what the child looks like; regardless of her assets, liabilities, or handicaps; regardless of what we expect her to be; and, most difficult of all, regardless of how she acts.”

— Gary Chapman

83. “We need not agree on everything, but we must find a way to handle our differences so that they do not become divisive.”

— Gary Chapman

84. “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”5.”

— Gary Chapman

85. “The choice to love is the choice to take initiative. It is the choice to do or say something for the other person’s benefit, something that would help make them a better person, something that would enrich their lives or make life more meaningful for them.”

— Gary Chapman

86. “I have been doing marriage counseling for about 15 years and I realized that what makes one person feel loved, doesn’t make another person feel loved.”

— Gary Chapman

87. “Through love, God paves the way to reconciliation. – Deb Wuethrich –.”

— Gary Chapman

88. “Anger, then, is the emotion that arises whenever we encounter what we perceive to be wrong. The emotional, physiological, and cognitive dimensions of anger leap to the front burner of our experience when we encounter injustice.”

— Gary Chapman

89. “Sometimes the decision to agree with the other person’s idea will involve great sacrifice. However, love always involves some sacrifice.”

— Gary Chapman

90. “The word encourage means “to inspire courage.” All.”

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91. “Love is not our only emotional need. Psychologists have observed that among our basic needs are the need for security, self-worth, and significance. Love, however, interfaces with all of those. If I feel loved by my spouse, I can relax, knowing that my lover will do me no ill. I feel secure in her presence. I may face many uncertainties in my vocation. I may have enemies in other areas of my life, but with my spouse I feel secure.”

— Gary Chapman

92. “We are influenced by our personality but not controlled by it.”

— Gary Chapman

93. “I liked the metaphor the first time I heard it: “Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave.”

— Gary Chapman

94. “Love is not a feeling; it is a way of behaving.”

— Gary Chapman

95. “Show me your unfailing love in wonderful ways. – Psalm 17:7.”

— Gary Chapman

96. “Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory. – Romans 15:7.”

— Gary Chapman

97. “When I sit with my wife and give her twenty minutes of my undivided attention and she does the same for me, we are giving each other twenty minutes of life. We will never have those twenty minutes again; we are giving our lives to each other. It is a powerful emotional communicator of love.”

— Gary Chapman

98. “Love is reaching out to try to get to the other person.”

— Gary Chapman

99. “Women like to be affirmed verbally, just as men like to be affirmed verbally. They tend to pull away from dating partners who do not give affirmation. Lack of verbal affirmation is interpreted as lack of love.”

— Gary Chapman

100. “Nothing has more potential for strengthening one’s sense of well-being than effectively loving and being loved.”

— Gary Chapman