Top 280 Gary Chapman Quotes (2023 Update)
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201. “For example, a wife might pressure her husband to look for a more lucrative job. The wife thinks she’s encouraging her spouse, but to him it sounds more like condemnation. But if he has the desire and motivation to seek a better position, her words will bolster his resolve. Until he has that desire, her words will come across as judgmental and guilt inducing. They express not love but rejection.”

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202. “Please hang in there and do what is best for your children, knowing that your love will make the difference between children who are well-adjusted and happy and those who are insecure, angry, inaccessible, and immature.”

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203. “Investing in friendship and love always brings great returns. – Edie Melson –.”

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204. “The decisions we make regarding vocation, child rearing, education, civic and church involvement, and other areas of life create changes that affect our marriage relationships. The manner in which couples process these changes will determine the quality of their marriages.”

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205. “A positive message delivered in a negative manner will always reap negative results. As one child said, “My parents are yelling and screaming at me, telling me not to yell and scream. They expect me to do something they have not learned to do. It’s unfair.”

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206. “But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.”

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207. “Physician Albert Scheweitzer said. ” We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness.” Professor Leo Buscaglia notes, “There seems to be accumulating evidence that there is actually an inborn need for this togetherness, this human interaction, this love. It seems that without these close ties with other human beings, a new born infant, for example, can regress developmentally, lose consciousness, fall into idiocy and die.”

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208. “Negativism in two-year-olds is a normal step of development, one way the child begins to separate psychologically from his mother or father.”

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209. “In recent years, many research studies have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, caressed, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.”

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210. “If you are to become an effective gift giver, you may have to change your attitude about money.”

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211. “God knows just when we need a friend. – Dawn Lilly –.”

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212. “It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Our.”

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213. “God’s love enables us to serve those who mistreat us. – Verda J. Glick.”

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214. “No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.”

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215. “Hospitality doesn’t have to be perfect, just heartfelt. – Susan A. Karas.”

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216. “When we have needs, we can turn to the One whose compassion is unending. – Jenni Davenport –.”

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217. “May we serve as God’s messengers through love in action. – Nora Peacock –.”

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218. “Love is a choice.”

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219. “These cozy bedtime stories reflect a universal need that we never outgrow: the need to know that someone, somewhere, loves us without restraint or condition.”

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220. “Valentine’s Day is a day to be expressive and grateful to the one you love. – James Stuart Bell –.”

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221. “You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it – she will not feel loved.”

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222. “Love is not only realistic, but our only hope of survival.”

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223. “It may surprise you that the primary lifetime threat to your child is his or her own anger.”

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224. “No matter our limitations, God has a great purpose for our lives. – Nora Peacock –.”

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225. “Following God’s commands always leads to blessing. – Sarah Bergman.”

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226. “No siempre podemos cambiar las circunstancias, pero podemos sobrevivir si nos sentimos amados.”

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227. “As children get older, we tend to condemn them for their failures rather then commend them for their success.”

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228. “No person should ever be a doormat. Love says, “I love you too much to let you treat me this way. It is not good for you or me.”

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229. “If her primary love language is quality time and her dialect is quality conversation, her emotional love tank will never be filled until he tells her his thoughts and feelings.”

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230. “Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love.”

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231. “The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than the divorce rate of first marriages. The divorce rate in third marriages is higher still. Apparently the prospect of a happier marriage the second and third time around is not substantial.”

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232. “Love doesn’t keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn’t bring up past failures. None of us is perfect.”

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233. “The euphoria of the in-love state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. We feel that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems.”

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234. “Usually if a wife feels loved by her husband, she will desire sexual intimacy. If she does not, she will likely feel used in the sexual context. That is why loving someone who is not loving you is extremely difficult. It goes against our natural tendencies.”

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235. “With empty love tanks, couples tend to argue and withdraw, and some may tend to be violent verbally or physically in their arguments. But when the love tank is full, we create a climate of friendliness, a climate that seeks to understand, that is willing to allow differences and to negotiate problems. I am convinced that no single area of marriage affects the rest of marriage as much as meeting the emotional need for love.”

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236. “A willingness to examine and change stereotypes is necessary in order to express love more effectively. Remember, there are no rewards for maintaining stereotypes, but there are tremendous benefits to meeting the emotional needs of your spouse.”

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237. “Learning to listen may be as difficult as learning a foreign language, but learn we must, if we want to communicate love. That.”

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238. “When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice. You will receive what he is saying as information about his emotional feelings. You will let him tell you of his hurt, anger, and perception of events. You will seek to put yourself in his shoes and see the event through his eyes and then express softly and kindly your understanding of why he feels that way.”

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239. “Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love. That is why the ancient biblical writings spoke of the husband and wife becoming “one flesh.” That did not mean that individuals would lose their identity; it meant that they would enter into each other’s lives in a deep and intimate way.”

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240. “An ancient sage once said, “A soft answer turns away anger.” When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice.”

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241. “We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.”

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242. “When I have been wronged by my spouse and she has painfully confessed it and requested forgiveness, I have the option of justice or forgiveness. If I choose justice and seek to pay her back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself the judge and she the felon.”

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243. “In every vocation, those who truly excel have genuine desire to serve others.”

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244. “Meeting my wife’s need for love is a choice I make each day.”

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245. “They are in the same house at the same time, but they are not together. A wife who is texting while her husband tries to talk to her is not giving him quality time, because he does not have her full attention.”

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246. “The need for significance is the emotional force behind much of our behavior. Life is driven by the desire for success. We want our lives to count for something. We have our own idea of what it means to be significant, and we work hard to reach our goals. Feeling loved by a spouse enhances our sense of significance. We reason, If someone loves me, I must have significance.”

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247. “Clearly our bodies are for touching, but not for abuse.”

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248. “I dream of a day when children can grow up in homes filled with love and security, where children’s developing energies can be channeled to learning and serving rather than seeking the love they did not receive at home.”

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249. “The emotional need for love must be met if we are to have emotional health. Married.”

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250. “We cannot take credit for the kind and generous things we do while under the influence of “the obsession.” We are pushed and carried along by an instinctual force that goes beyond our normal behavior patterns. But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.”

— Gary Chapman