Top 280 Gary Chapman Quotes (2025 Update)
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201. “We need the richness of many good counselors all through our lives and an attitude that nurtures them. That way, we may find the clarity and resilience we need when things go awry.”

— Gary Chapman

202. “I may not feel significant until someone expresses love to me.”

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203. “Only by God’s divine love can we truly forgive from the heart. – Jessica Talbot –.”

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204. “For example, a wife might pressure her husband to look for a more lucrative job. The wife thinks she’s encouraging her spouse, but to him it sounds more like condemnation. But if he has the desire and motivation to seek a better position, her words will bolster his resolve. Until he has that desire, her words will come across as judgmental and guilt inducing. They express not love but rejection.”

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205. “Please hang in there and do what is best for your children, knowing that your love will make the difference between children who are well-adjusted and happy and those who are insecure, angry, inaccessible, and immature.”

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206. “Camp out in the living room. Spread your blankets and pillows on the floor. Get your Pepsi and popcorn. Pretend the TV is broken and talk like you used to when you were dating. Talk till the sun comes up or something else happens. If the floor gets too hard, go back upstairs and go to bed. You won’t forget this evening!”

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207. “Investing in friendship and love always brings great returns. – Edie Melson –.”

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208. “A positive message delivered in a negative manner will always reap negative results. As one child said, “My parents are yelling and screaming at me, telling me not to yell and scream. They expect me to do something they have not learned to do. It’s unfair.”

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209. “A true friend cares more about what is right than about pleasing you.”

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210. “God is our example in parenting.”

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211. “Author Ambrose Bierce said, “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”

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212. “If you are to become an effective gift giver, you may have to change your attitude about money.”

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213. “It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Our.”

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214. “The decisions we make regarding vocation, child rearing, education, civic and church involvement, and other areas of life create changes that affect our marriage relationships. The manner in which couples process these changes will determine the quality of their marriages.”

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215. “No siempre podemos cambiar las circunstancias, pero podemos sobrevivir si nos sentimos amados.”

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216. “But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.”

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217. “Negativism in two-year-olds is a normal step of development, one way the child begins to separate psychologically from his mother or father.”

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218. “In recent years, many research studies have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, caressed, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.”

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219. “May we serve as God’s messengers through love in action. – Nora Peacock –.”

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220. “God knows just when we need a friend. – Dawn Lilly –.”

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221. “Following God’s commands always leads to blessing. – Sarah Bergman.”

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222. “God’s love enables us to serve those who mistreat us. – Verda J. Glick.”

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223. “No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.”

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224. “No person should ever be a doormat. Love says, “I love you too much to let you treat me this way. It is not good for you or me.”

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225. “Hospitality doesn’t have to be perfect, just heartfelt. – Susan A. Karas.”

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226. “When we have needs, we can turn to the One whose compassion is unending. – Jenni Davenport –.”

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227. “Valentine’s Day is a day to be expressive and grateful to the one you love. – James Stuart Bell –.”

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228. “Love is not only realistic, but our only hope of survival.”

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229. “It may surprise you that the primary lifetime threat to your child is his or her own anger.”

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230. “Love is a choice.”

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231. “These cozy bedtime stories reflect a universal need that we never outgrow: the need to know that someone, somewhere, loves us without restraint or condition.”

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232. “Some husbands and wives think they are spending time together when, in reality, they are only living in close proximity. They are in the same house at the same time, but they are not together. A wife who is texting while her husband tries to talk to her is not giving him quality time, because he does not have her full attention.”

— Gary Chapman

233. “You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it – she will not feel loved.”

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234. “Usually if a wife feels loved by her husband, she will desire sexual intimacy. If she does not, she will likely feel used in the sexual context. That is why loving someone who is not loving you is extremely difficult. It goes against our natural tendencies.”

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235. “No matter our limitations, God has a great purpose for our lives. – Nora Peacock –.”

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236. “For the female, sexual desire is far more influenced by her emotions. If she feels loved and admired and appreciated by her husband, then she has a desire to be physically intimate with him. But without the emotional closeness, she may have little physical desire. Her biological sexual drive is closely tied to her emotional need for love.”

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237. “The euphoria of the in-love state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. We feel that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems.”

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238. “The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than the divorce rate of first marriages. The divorce rate in third marriages is higher still. Apparently the prospect of a happier marriage the second and third time around is not substantial.”

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239. “As children get older, we tend to condemn them for their failures rather then commend them for their success.”

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240. “Learning to listen may be as difficult as learning a foreign language, but learn we must, if we want to communicate love. That.”

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241. “An ancient sage once said, “A soft answer turns away anger.” When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice.”

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242. “The need for significance is the emotional force behind much of our behavior. Life is driven by the desire for success. We want our lives to count for something. We have our own idea of what it means to be significant, and we work hard to reach our goals. Feeling loved by a spouse enhances our sense of significance. We reason, If someone loves me, I must have significance.”

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243. “When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice. You will receive what he is saying as information about his emotional feelings. You will let him tell you of his hurt, anger, and perception of events. You will seek to put yourself in his shoes and see the event through his eyes and then express softly and kindly your understanding of why he feels that way.”

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244. “The “in love” experience temporarily meets that need, but it is inevitably a “quick fix” and, as we shall learn later, has a limited and predictable life span. After we come down from the high of the “in love” obsession, the emotional need for love resurfaces because it is fundamental to our nature. It is at the center of our emotional desires. We needed love before we “fell in love,” and we will need it as long as we live.”

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245. “Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love. That is why the ancient biblical writings spoke of the husband and wife becoming “one flesh.” That did not mean that individuals would lose their identity; it meant that they would enter into each other’s lives in a deep and intimate way.”

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246. “The statement “I love you,” when said with kindness and tenderness, can be a genuine expression of love. But what about “I love you?” The question mark changes the whole meaning of those three words.”

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247. “They are in the same house at the same time, but they are not together. A wife who is texting while her husband tries to talk to her is not giving him quality time, because he does not have her full attention.”

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248. “We cannot take credit for the kind and generous things we do while under the influence of “the obsession.” We are pushed and carried along by an instinctual force that goes beyond our normal behavior patterns. But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.”

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249. “You may also want to try giving indirect words of affirmation – that is, saying positive things about your spouse when he or she is not present. Eventually, someone will tell your spouse, and you will get full credit for love. Tell your wife’s mother how great your wife is. When her mother tells her what you said, it will be amplified, and you will get even more credit. Also affirm your spouse in front of others when he or she is present.”

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250. “Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty ‘love tank.’” I was listening to Dr. Ross Campbell, a psychiatrist who specialized in the treatment of children and adolescents.”

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