Top 280 Gary Chapman Quotes (2026 Update)
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201. “Some husbands and wives think they are spending time together when, in reality, they are only living in close proximity. They are in the same house at the same time, but they are not together. A wife who is texting while her husband tries to talk to her is not giving him quality time, because he does not have her full attention.”

— Gary Chapman

202. “May God teach us to enjoy serving others as a sign of our love for Him. – Pat Stockett Johnston –.”

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203. “I may not feel significant until someone expresses love to me.”

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204. “Camp out in the living room. Spread your blankets and pillows on the floor. Get your Pepsi and popcorn. Pretend the TV is broken and talk like you used to when you were dating. Talk till the sun comes up or something else happens. If the floor gets too hard, go back upstairs and go to bed. You won’t forget this evening!”

— Gary Chapman

205. “I’ve been wanting to ask someone this for a long time,” he said. “What happens to the love after you get married?”

— Gary Chapman

206. “Love won’t allow you to bear burdens alone. – Tina Givens –.”

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207. “The most essential emotional element in a happy and healthy marriage is love.”

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208. “A positive message delivered in a negative manner will always reap negative results. As one child said, “My parents are yelling and screaming at me, telling me not to yell and scream. They expect me to do something they have not learned to do. It’s unfair.”

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209. “Only by God’s divine love can we truly forgive from the heart. – Jessica Talbot –.”

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210. “God is our example in parenting.”

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211. “No siempre podemos cambiar las circunstancias, pero podemos sobrevivir si nos sentimos amados.”

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212. “We need the richness of many good counselors all through our lives and an attitude that nurtures them. That way, we may find the clarity and resilience we need when things go awry.”

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213. “Usually if a wife feels loved by her husband, she will desire sexual intimacy. If she does not, she will likely feel used in the sexual context. That is why loving someone who is not loving you is extremely difficult. It goes against our natural tendencies.”

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214. “Among those emotional needs, none is more basic than the need for love and affection, the need to sense that he or she belongs and is wanted.”

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215. “The decisions we make regarding vocation, child rearing, education, civic and church involvement, and other areas of life create changes that affect our marriage relationships. The manner in which couples process these changes will determine the quality of their marriages.”

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216. “Author Ambrose Bierce said, “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”

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217. “If you are to become an effective gift giver, you may have to change your attitude about money.”

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218. “A true friend cares more about what is right than about pleasing you.”

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219. “No person should ever be a doormat. Love says, “I love you too much to let you treat me this way. It is not good for you or me.”

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220. “It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Our.”

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221. “In recent years, many research studies have come to the same conclusion: Babies who are held, caressed, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.”

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222. “God knows just when we need a friend. – Dawn Lilly –.”

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223. “May we serve as God’s messengers through love in action. – Nora Peacock –.”

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224. “But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.”

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225. “Negativism in two-year-olds is a normal step of development, one way the child begins to separate psychologically from his mother or father.”

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226. “The euphoria of the in-love state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship. We feel that we belong to each other. We believe we can conquer all problems.”

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227. “No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.”

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228. “Hospitality doesn’t have to be perfect, just heartfelt. – Susan A. Karas.”

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229. “The divorce rate for second marriages is higher than the divorce rate of first marriages. The divorce rate in third marriages is higher still. Apparently the prospect of a happier marriage the second and third time around is not substantial.”

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230. “Following God’s commands always leads to blessing. – Sarah Bergman.”

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231. “When we have needs, we can turn to the One whose compassion is unending. – Jenni Davenport –.”

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232. “Valentine’s Day is a day to be expressive and grateful to the one you love. – James Stuart Bell –.”

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233. “God’s love enables us to serve those who mistreat us. – Verda J. Glick.”

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234. “These cozy bedtime stories reflect a universal need that we never outgrow: the need to know that someone, somewhere, loves us without restraint or condition.”

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235. “You may truly love your child, but unless she feels it – she will not feel loved.”

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236. “Love is not only realistic, but our only hope of survival.”

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237. “It may surprise you that the primary lifetime threat to your child is his or her own anger.”

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238. “Love is a choice.”

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239. “No matter our limitations, God has a great purpose for our lives. – Nora Peacock –.”

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240. “Learning to listen may be as difficult as learning a foreign language, but learn we must, if we want to communicate love. That.”

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241. “As children get older, we tend to condemn them for their failures rather then commend them for their success.”

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242. “The need for significance is the emotional force behind much of our behavior. Life is driven by the desire for success. We want our lives to count for something. We have our own idea of what it means to be significant, and we work hard to reach our goals. Feeling loved by a spouse enhances our sense of significance. We reason, If someone loves me, I must have significance.”

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243. “An ancient sage once said, “A soft answer turns away anger.” When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice.”

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244. “When your spouse is angry and upset and lashing out words of heat, if you choose to be loving, you will not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice. You will receive what he is saying as information about his emotional feelings. You will let him tell you of his hurt, anger, and perception of events. You will seek to put yourself in his shoes and see the event through his eyes and then express softly and kindly your understanding of why he feels that way.”

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245. “When I have been wronged by my spouse and she has painfully confessed it and requested forgiveness, I have the option of justice or forgiveness. If I choose justice and seek to pay her back or make her pay for her wrongdoing, I am making myself the judge and she the felon.”

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246. “Inside every child is an ‘emotional tank’ waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally, but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty ‘love tank.’” I was listening to Dr. Ross Campbell, a psychiatrist who specialized in the treatment of children and adolescents.”

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247. “Marriage is designed to meet that need for intimacy and love. That is why the ancient biblical writings spoke of the husband and wife becoming “one flesh.” That did not mean that individuals would lose their identity; it meant that they would enter into each other’s lives in a deep and intimate way.”

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248. “Welcome to the real world of marriage, where hairs are always on the sink and little white spots cover the mirror, where discussions center not on “where should we eat tonight?” but “why didn’t you get milk?” It is a world where bills and in-laws and jobs and children all clamor for our attention, a world where routine and resentment can silently eat away at the love we once had. In this world, a look can hurt and a word can crush. Intimate lovers can become enemies, and marriage a battlefield.”

— Gary Chapman

249. “Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

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250. “It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction – the satisfaction of having genuinely loved another. It does not require the euphoria of the ‘in-love’ experience. In fact, true love cannot begin until the ‘in-love’ experience has run its course.”

— Gary Chapman