Top 250 Melody Beattie Quotes (2024 Update)
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201. “Who you are is love. What love does is heal.”

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202. “Not only can we lovingly detach from other people and take care of ourselves, it is our primary responsibility in life to do that. To.”

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203. “To be happy we need someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. I.”

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204. “Everything comes at its appointed moment. – Joseph R. Sizoo.”

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205. “Today, God, help me practice the concept of acceptance in my life. Help me accept myself, others, and my circumstances. Take me one step further, and help me feel grateful.”

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206. “Don’t let the heartbreaks of the past cause you to become cynical, close you off to life’s magic and promise. Open yourself wide to all that the universe has to say. Let yourself begin anew.”

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207. “You need to detach most when it seems the least likely or possible thing to do. I.”

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208. “Prayer and meditation help us affirm that our Higher Power cares for.”

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209. “Work at learning to have fun. Apply yourself with dedication to learning enjoyment. Work as hard at learning to have fun as you did at feeling miserable.”

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210. “I feel more passionately about the importance of healing from our abuse issues. I feel more passionately. I’ve become more spontaneous, embraced my femininity, and learned new lessons along the way – about boundaries, flexibility, and owning my power. And about love. I’m learning to respect men. My relationships have deepened. Some have changed.”

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211. “Today, I will apply the concept of detachment, to the best of my ability, in my relationships. If I can’t let go completely, I’ll try to “hang on loose.”

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212. “Even recovery brings losses, more changes we must struggle to accept.”

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213. “Many of us react as though everything is a crisis because we have lived with so many crises for so long that crisis reaction has become a habit.”

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214. “If you have done nothing to feel embarrassed about, don’t feel embarrassed. I know this is a tough concept, but it can be mastered.”

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215. “Learn the words: I feel. Let others say those words and learn to listen – not fix – when they do. We.”

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216. “Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We’re not really aware we’re doing it until we’re done doing it. Forcing ourselves – or anyone else – to face the truth usually doesn’t help. We won’t face the facts until we are ready. Neither, it seems, will anyone else. We may admit to the truth for a moment, but we won’t let ourselves know what we know until we feel safe, secure, and prepared enough to deal and cope with it.”

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217. “It is almost impossible to have fun when we are bottled up with repressed emotions, worried sick about someone, saturated with guilt and despair, rigidly controlling ourselves or someone else, or worried about what other people are thinking about us. However, most people aren’t thinking about us; they’re worried about themselves and what we think of them.”

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218. “Not acknowledging our feelings is what keeps us stuck and gives us stomachaches, headaches, and heartburn.”

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219. “I believe detachment can become a habitual response, in the same manner that obsessing, worrying, and controlling became habitual responses – by.”

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220. “We can let ourselves enjoy life. If we want something and can afford it, buy it. If we want to do something that is legal and harmless, do it. When we’re actually involved with doing something that is recreational, don’t find ways to feel bad. Let go and enjoy life.”

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221. “It’s okay to succeed, to have good things, and to have loving relationships that work.”

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222. “Today, I will ask myself what I would be doing differently if I weren’t trying to control. When I hear the answer, I will do it. God, help me let go of my need to control. Help me set myself and others free.”

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223. “As I’ve said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we’ve abandoned ourselves.”

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224. “We stop worrying about them, and they pick up the slack and finally start worrying about themselves. What a grand plan! We each mind our own business. Earlier, I described a person caught in.”

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225. “Some codependents become financially dependent.”

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226. “Many codependents are barely surviving, and most aren’t getting their needs met.”

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227. “We can discuss our feelings and problems without expecting people to rescue us too. We can settle for being listened to. That’s probably all we ever wanted anyway.”

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228. “When I awoke, my first thoughts and feelings were painful.”

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229. “I saw people who had gotten so absorbed in other people’s problems they didn’t have time to identify or solve their own. These were people who had cared so deeply, and often destructively, about other people that they had forgotten how to care about themselves. The codependents felt responsible for so much because the people around them felt responsible for so little; they were just taking up the slack.”

— Melody Beattie

230. “Maybe we don’t need to go deeper into our codependency. We can, instead, march forward into our destinies.”

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231. “I’ve learned I can take care of myself, and what I can’t do, God will do for me. – Al-Anon member.”

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232. “Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.”

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233. “Today, I will remember that there is no situation that can’t be benefited by taking care of myself.”

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234. “At least we know we’re alive if we’re reacting. At least we’ve got something to do if we’re obsessing or controlling. For.”

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235. “I believe our professional lives can be different and better. We can learn to take care of ourselves and our needs on the job. And if we are not so absorbed in other people and their business, if we believe we are important, we are free to set our own goals and reach our dreams. We are able to capture a vision for our own lives.”

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236. “Spontaneity emerges as our confidence and trust in ourselves increase, and we become more secure in our ability to maintain healthy boundaries.”

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237. “We don’t have to feel guilty whenever we experience anger. We don’t have to feel guilty. Breathe deeply. We can shamelessly feel all our feelings, including anger, and still take responsibility for our behaviors.”

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238. “I don’t think love has to hurt as much as it did in the past. I don’t think we have to allow love to hurt us as much as it has. We certainly don’t have to let it destroy us.”

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239. “Sharing the emotional part of us with others creates closeness and intimacy. Also, being accepted by someone else for being who we are helps us accept ourselves. This is always a marvelous experience.”

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240. “Today, I will exchange a controlled life for one that is manageable.”

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241. “We work it out, or live it out.”

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242. “We don’t need to eliminate all our reactions to people and problems. Reactions can be useful. They help us identify what we like and what feels good. They help us identify problems in and around us. But most of us react too much. And much of what we react to is nonsense. It isn’t all that important, and it doesn’t merit the time and attention we’re giving it. Some of what we react to is other people’s reactions to us.”

— Melody Beattie

243. “I spent many years of my life not even bothering to think about what I wanted and needed, where I wanted to go, and what I wanted to do. Life was to be endured. I didn’t think I deserved good things. I didn’t think most good things were within my reach. I wasn’t that interested in my life, except as an appendage to other people. I didn’t think about living my life; I was too focused on others. I was too busy reacting, rather than acting. I.”

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244. “Love and closeness often bring a sense of loss of control.”

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245. “Today, I will wait, if waiting is the action I need in order to take care of myself.”

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246. “God, help me let go of my need to deprive myself of being alive.”

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247. “As we develop our lives, set our goals, and find things to do that interest us, peace will become comfortable – more comfortable than chaos.”

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248. “Our consciousness, as individuals and as a society, has been raised. We’ve realized that women have souls, and men have feelings.”

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249. “All of me, every aspect of my being, is important. I count for something. I matter. My feelings can be trusted. My thinking is appropriate. I value my wants and needs. I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment. I have rights, and it is my responsibility to assert these rights. The decisions I make and the way I conduct myself will reflect my high self-esteem.”

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250. “We don’t learn about taking care of ourselves the way we learn math. Although information is useful and sometimes critical, self-care isn’t only an intellectual process. It’s our experiences that change us.”

— Melody Beattie