Top 500 Ottessa Moshfegh Quotes (2025 Update)

1. “Rejection, I have found, can be the only antidote to delusion.”

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2. “People truly engaged in life have messy houses.”

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3. “Sometimes friends are better than family, because you can say anything. Nobody gets mad. It’s a different kind of love.”

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4. “My brain hurts and I cry all the time. I don’t want to be here on Earth for one moment longer.”

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5. “I felt I needed to hide a little. My mind needed a smaller world to roam.”

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6. “It’s like the SAT’s. You don’t even exist if you’re below 1400.”

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7. “There is nothing more heartbreaking than a squandered opportunity, a missed chance. I knew about stuff like that. I’d been young once. So many dreams had been dashed. But I dashed them myself. I wanted to be safe, whole, have a future of certainty. One makes mistakes when there is confusion between having a future at all and having the future one wants.”

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8. “I did crave attention, but I refused to humiliate myself by asking for it.”

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9. “There was majesty and grace in the pace of the swaying branches of the willows. There was kindness. Pain is not the only touchstone for growth, I said to myself. My sleep had worked. I was soft and calm and felt things. This was good. This was my life now.”

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10. “It was proof that I had not always been completely alone in this world. But I think I was also holding on to the loss, to the emptiness of the house itself, as though to affirm that it was better to be alone than to be stuck with people who were supposed to love you, yet couldn’t.”

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11. “For a moment I felt joyful, and then I felt completely exhausted.”

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12. “My first impression of him was that he was free spirited, clever, funny. That proved to be completely inaccurate.”

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13. “Here is how I spend my days now. I live in a beautiful place. I sleep in a beautiful bed. I eat beautiful food. I go for walks through beautiful places. I care for people deeply. At night my bed is full of love, because I alone am in it. I cry easily, from pain and pleasure, and I don’t apologize for that. In the mornings I step outside and I’m thankful for another day. It took me many years to arrive at such a life.”

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14. “Those people with perfect houses are simply obsessed with death. A house that is so well maintained, furnished with good-looking furniture of high quality, decorated tastefully, everything in its place, becomes a living tomb. People truly engaged in life have messy houses.”

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15. “Sleep felt productive. Something was getting sorted out. I knew in my heart – this was, perhaps, the only thing my heart knew back then – that when I’d slept enough, I’d be okay. I’d be renewed, reborn. I would be a whole new person, every one of my cells regenerated enough times that the old cells were just distant, foggy memories. My past life would be but a dream, and I could start over without regrets, bolstered by the bliss and serenity that I would have accumulated in my year of rest and relaxation.”

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16. “Idealism without consequences is the pathetic dream of every spoiled brat, I suppose.”

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17. “The notion of my future suddenly snapped into focus: it didn’t exist yet.”

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18. “Someone said once that pupils were just empty space, black holes, twin caves of infinite nothingness. “When something disappears, that’s usually where it disappears – into the black holes in our eyes.” I couldn’t remember who had said it. I watched my reflection disappear in the steam.”

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19. “Dudes” reading Nietzsche on the subway, reading Proust, reading David Foster Wallace, jotting down their brilliant thoughts into a black Moleskine pocket notebook.”

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20. “Oh, sleep. Nothing else could ever bring me such pleasure, such freedom, the power to feel and move and think and imagine, safe from the miseries of my waking consciousness.”

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21. “I’m not a junkie or something,” I said defensively. “I’m taking some time off. This is my year of rest and relaxation.”

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22. “I can’t point to any one event that resulted in my decision to go into hibernation. Initially, I just wanted some downers to drown out my thoughts and judgments, since the constant barrage made it hard not to hate everyone and everything. I thought life would be more tolerable if my brain were slower to condemn the world around me.”

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23. “I felt myself float up and away, higher and higher into the ether until my body was just an anecdote, a symbol, a portrait hanging in another world.”

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24. “Education is directly proportional to anxiety, as you’ve probably learned, having gone to Columbia.”

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25. “A friend is someone who helps you hide the body – that.”

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26. “I couldn’t be bothered to deal with fixing things. I preferred to wallow in the problem, dream of better days.”

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27. “There she is, a human being, diving into the unknown, and she is wide awake.”

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28. “The art world had turned out to be like the stock market, a reflection of political trends and the persuasions of capitalism, fueled by greed and gossip and cocaine.”

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29. “I always thought it was pathetic that Reva had chosen to stay in the area after graduation, but passing through it in the cab, in my frenzied state of despair, I understood: there was stability in living in the past.”

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30. “I was both relieved and irritated when Reva showed up, the way you’d feel if someone interrupted you in the middle of suicide.”

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31. “It was lunacy, this idea, that I could sleep myself into a new life. Preposterous. But there I was, approaching the depths of my journey.”

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32. “This was the beauty of sleep – reality detached itself and appeared in my mind as casually as a movie or a dream.”

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33. “We don’t forget things, OK? We just choose to ignore them. Can you accept responsibility for your memory lapse and move on?”

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34. “Daily meditation has been shown to cure insomnia in rats.”

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35. “The idea that my brains could be untangled, straightened out, and thus refashioned into a state of peace and sanity was a comforting fantasy.”

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36. “I had a thing about fat people. It was the same thing I had about skinny people: I hated their guts.”

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37. “It’s easy to tell the dirtiest minds – look for the cleanest fingernails.”

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38. “I loved Reva, but I didn’t like her anymore. We’d been friends since college, long enough that all we had left in common was our history together, a complex circuit of resentment, memory, jealousy, denial, and a few dresses I’d let Reva borrow, which she’d promised to dry clean and return but never did.”

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39. “Nothing seemed really real. Sleeping, waking, it all collided into one gray, monotonous plane ride through the clouds. I didn’t talk to myself in my head. There wasn’t much to say. This was how I knew the sleep was having an effect: I was growing less and less attached to life. If I kept going, I thought, I’d disappear completely, then reappear in some new form. This was my hope. This was my dream.”

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40. “A grown woman is like a coyote – she can get by on very little. Men are more like house cats. Leave them alone for too long and they’ll die of sadness.”

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41. “I felt both relieved and irritated when Reva showed up, the way you’d feel if someone interrupted you in the middle of suicide. Not that what I was doing was suicide. In fact, it was the opposite of suicide. My hibernation was self-preservational. I thought it was going to save my life.”

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42. “Reva was like the pills I took. They turned everything, even hatred, even love, into fluff I could bat away. And that was exactly what I wanted – my emotions passing like headlights that shine softly through a window, sweep past me, illuminate something vaguely familiar, then fade and leave me in the dark again.”

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43. “Life was fragile and fleeting and one had to be cautious, sure, but I would risk death if it meant I could sleep all day and become a whole new person.”

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44. “I thought that if I did normal things – held down a job, for example – I could starve off the part of me that hated everything. If I had been a man, I may have turned to a life of crime.”

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45. “Some families are so sick, so twisted, the only way out is for someone to die.”

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46. “Be careful with women,” he told me. “All they want is love and money.”

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47. “I wondered if I might be dead, and I felt no sorrow, only worry over the afterlife, if it was going to be just like this, just as boring. If I’m dead, I thought, let this be the end. The silliness.”

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48. “Maybe they understood, in fact, that beauty and meaning had nothing to do with one another.”

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49. “I hated them for not worshiping me. Had they no idea of my sacrifice? There I was, perfectly wonderful, and nobody would see that.”

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50. “I could plan to do something and then find myself doing the opposite.”

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