Top 250 Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes (2024 Update)
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151. “The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

152. “Before we tackle the gangs and the basic story, we have to make sure that we have liberated ourselves from how we have been educated and make sure we are coming from a spirituality of our own choosing.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

153. “Tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy. People are hungry for empathy, They don’t know how to ask for it.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

154. “NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

155. “We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

156. “You can’t make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn’t made them wish they had.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

157. “The number one rule of our training is empathy before education.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

158. “NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

159. “Whether I praise or criticize someone’s action, I imply that I am their judge, that I’m engaged in rating them or what they have done.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

160. “NVC can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations: intimate relationships, families, schools, organizations and institutions, therapy and counseling, diplomatic and business negotiations, disputes and conflicts of any nature.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

161. “Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

162. “Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

163. “We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

164. “The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

165. “When I recognize I’ve got anger, then I realize it’s because I have a need that’s not being met.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

166. “NVC suggests behind every action, however ineffective, tragic, violent, or abhorrent to us, is an attempt to meet a need.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

167. “What bores the listener bores the speaker too.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

168. “The number one reason that we don’t get our needs met, we don’t express them. We express judgments. If we do express needs, the number two reasons we don’t our needs met, we don’t make clear requests.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

169. “Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

170. “We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

171. “Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

172. “Not getting our needs fulfilled is painful – but it’s a sweet pain, not suffering, which is what comes from life-alienated thinking and interpretation.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

173. “All criticism, attack, insults, and judgments vanish when we focus attention on hearing the feelings and needs behind a message. The more we practice in this way, the more we realize a simple truth: behind all those messages we’ve allowed ourselves to be intimidated by are just individuals with unmet needs appealing to us to contribute to their well-being.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

174. “Don’t do anything that isn’t play!”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

175. “People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

176. “When we hear the other person’s feelings and needs, we recognize our common humanity.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

177. “Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

178. “Miracles can happen when we can keep our consciousness away from analyzing and classifying one another.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

179. “The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

180. “We recognize that real educational reform is essential if today’s and tomorrow’s children are to live in a more peaceful, just, and sustainable world.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

181. “With empathy we don’t direct, we follow. Don’t just do something, be there.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

182. “Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he’ll jump in.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

183. “As long as I think I ‘should’ do it, I’ll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

184. “When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

185. “Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren’t seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I’m suggesting, you’ll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

186. “Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

187. “Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

188. “As radical as it may seem, it is possible to do things only out of play. I believe that to the degree that we engage moment by moment in the playfulness of enriching life- motivated solely by the desire for its enrichment- to that degree are we being compassionate with ourselves.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

189. “MBR: First, I’d like to know what I said or did that made life more wonderful for you.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

190. “NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

191. “In a Giraffe institution, the head nurse job would be to serve the nurses, not to control them. Teachers are there to serve the students, not control them.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

192. “When we have our consciousness on needs, images come to us, naturally, of how to meet those needs.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

193. “Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

194. “The ability to offer empathy to people in stressful situations can defuse potential violence.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

195. “There is a story of a man on all fours under a street lamp, searching for something. A policeman passing by asked what he was doing. “Looking for my car keys,” replied the man, who appeared slightly drunk. “Did you drop them here?” inquired the officer. “No,” answered the man, “I dropped them in the alley.” Seeing the policeman’s baffled expression, the man hastened to explain, “But the light is much better here.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

196. “NVC heightens our awareness that what others say and do may be the stimulus, but never the cause, of our feelings. We see that our feelings result from how we choose to receive what others say and do, as well as from our particular needs and expectations in that moment. With this third component, we are led to accept responsibility for what we do to generate our own feelings.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

197. “The best way I can get understanding from another person is to give this person the understanding, too. If I want them to hear my needs and feelings, I first need to empathize.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

198. “For centuries, the image of the loving woman has been associated with sacrifice and the denial of one’s own needs to take care of others. Because women are socialized to view the caretaking of others as their highest duty, they often learn to ignore their own needs.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

199. “Teach this triple truth to all: A generous heart, kind speech, and a life of service and compassion are the things which renew humanity.” – THE BUDDHA.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg

200. “If I use empathy to liberate people to be less depressed, to get along better with their family, and at the same time not inspire them to use their energy to rapidly transform systems in the world, then I am part of the problem. I am essentially calming people down, making them happier to live in the systems as they are, and I am using empathy as a narcotic.”

— Marshall B. Rosenberg