Top 500 Matt Haig Quotes (2024 Update)
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101. “Once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

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102. “There is no panacea, or utopia, there is just love and kindness and trying, amid the chaos, to make things better where we can.”

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103. “In order to get over a problem it helps to look at it. You can’t climb a mountain that you pretend isn’t there.”

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104. “Every life contains many millions of decisions. Some big, some small. But every time one decision is taken over another, the outcomes differ. An irreversible variation occurs, which in turn leads to further variations.”

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105. “Love and laughter and fear and pain are universal currencies.”

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106. “The more ‘success’ you get, the easier it is to be disappointed by not getting things. The only difference is that now no one feels sorry for you.”

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107. “She is smiling at me. It is a wistful smile. The kind of smile no one is capable of before the age of forty. The kind that contains sadness and defiance and amusement all at once.”

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108. “She carried on talking. And as she did so, I realized there could be no cosmic consequence at all if I stopped listening, and with that realization I switched off the phone.”

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109. “As Hamlet said to Rosencrantz, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

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110. “That is how science works, not through blind faith, but continual doubt.”

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111. “I want life. I want to read it and write it and feel it and live it. I want, for as much of the time as possible in this blink-of-an-eye existence we have, to feel all that can be felt.”

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112. “The rook is my favourite piece,’ she said. ‘It’s the one that you think you don’t have to watch out for. It is straightforward. You keep your eye on the queen, and the knights, and the bishop, because they are the sneaky ones. But it’s the rook that often gets you. The straightforward is never quite what it seems.”

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113. “Medication is an incredibly attractive concept. Not just for the person with depression, or the person running a pharmaceutical firm, but for society as a whole. It underlines the idea we have hammered into us by the hundred thousand TV ads we have seen that everything can be fixed by consuming things.”

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114. “He who fears he shall suffer, already suffers what he fears.”

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115. “Go confidently in the direction of your dreams,’ Thoreau had said. ‘Live the life you’ve imagined.”

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116. “You can’t change the past. You can’t change other people. You can change you though. You narrate this story. So start to write a new chapter.”

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117. “Just read. Books are possibilities. They are escape routes. They give you options when you have none. Each one can be a home for an uprooted mind.”

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118. “Don’t say yes to things you wish you had the confidence to say no to.”

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119. “Let’s not forget The Things They Do To Make Themselves Happy That Actually Make Them Miserable. This is an infinite list. It includes – shopping, watching TV, taking the better job, getting the bigger house, writing a semi-autobiographical novel, educating their young, making their skin look mildly less old and harboring a vague desire to believe there might be a meaning to it all.”

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120. “The weird thing about depression is that, even though you might have more suicidal thoughts, the fear of death remains the same. The only difference is that the pain of life has rapidly increased. So when you hear about someone killing themselves it’s important to know that death wasn’t any less scary for them. It wasn’t a ‘choice’ in the moral sense. To be moralistic about it is to misunderstand.”

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121. “I liked the warmth of her body against mine and realized the pathos of being a human. Of being a mortal creature who was essentially alone but needed the myth of togetherness with others. Friends, children, lovers. It was an attractive myth. It was a myth you could easily inhabit.”

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122. “To enjoy life, we might have to stop thinking about what we will never be able to do, and start to think of how to enjoy the world within our boundaries. To live on a human scale. To focus on the few things we can do, rather than the millions of things we can’t.”

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123. “Fish get depressed when they have a lack of stimulation. A lack of everything. When they are just there, floating in a tank that resembles nothing at all.”

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124. “Yet people still don’t think depression really that bad. If they did, they wouldn’t say the things they say.”

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125. “There comes a point at which you have to face it. To face yourself. In a world of a million distractions you are still left with only one mind.”

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126. “Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. Now, you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend. Bruce Lee.”

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127. “You are not other people. You are you. You have no control over other people. You have no absolute control over what they think of the world or of politics or of you. You have no control over what harm they may have done. Even if the harm they have done is to you.”

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128. “Keep risking ridicule.”

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129. “You don’t have to be positive. You don’t have to feel guilty about fear or sadness or anger. You don’t stop the rain by telling it to stop. Sometimes you just have to let it pour, let it soak you to your skin. It never rains forever. And know that, however wet you get, you are not the rain. You are not the bad feelings in your head. You are the person experiencing the storm.”

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130. “Never underestimate the big importance of small things.”

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131. “We are always bigger than the pain we feel. Always. The pain is not total. When you say “I am in pain,” there is the pain and there is the I but the I is always bigger than the pain. Because the I is there even without the pain, while the pain is only there as a product of that I. And that I will survive and go on to feel other things.”

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132. “So often, reading is seen as important because of its social value. It is tied to education and the economy and so on. But that misses the whole point of reading. Reading isn’t important because it helps to get you a job. It’s important because it gives you room to exist beyond the reality you’re given. It is how humans merge; how minds connect. Dreams, empathy, understanding, escape.”

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133. “Humans are ruled by their basic desires and this leads to suffering and pain, because our desires make us crave things from the world but the world is nothing but representation.”

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134. “Don’t absorb criticism from people you wouldn’t go to for advice.”

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135. “The object of art is to give life a shape,’ said Shakespeare. And my life –and my mess of a mind –needed shape. I had ‘lost the plot’. There was no linear narrative of me. There was just mess and chaos. So yes, I loved external narratives for the hope they offered. Films. TV dramas. And most of all, books. They were, in and of themselves, reasons to stay alive. Every book written is the product of a human mind in a particular state. Add all the books together and you get the end sum of humanity.”

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136. “It’s okay to be the teacup with a chip in it. That’s the one with a story.”

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137. “Don’t worry about things you can’t control. The news is full of things you can’t do anything about. Do the things you can do stuff about – raise awareness of issues that concern you, give whatever you can to whichever cause you feel passionate about, and also accept the things you can’t do.”

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138. “That was the familiar lesson of time. Everything changes and nothing changes.”

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139. “But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself. – Albert Camus, A Happy Death.”

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140. “Three in the morning is never the time to try and sort out your life.”

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141. “But she’d been feeling lonely. And though she’d studied enough existential philosophy to believe loneliness was a fundamental part of being a human in an essentially meaningless universe, it was good to see him.”

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142. “Do you ever think ‘how did I end up here?’ Like you are in a maze and totally lost and it’s all your fault because you were the one who made every turn?”

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143. “To want is to lack. That is what it means.”

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144. “She realised that you could be as honest as possible in life, but people only see the truth if it is close enough to their reality.”

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145. “The paradox of modern life is this: we have never been more connected and we have never been more alone.”

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146. “Don’t ever be afraid of telling someone you love them. There are things wrong with your world, but an excess of love is not one.”

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147. “You can have everything and feel nothing.”

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148. “You are walking around with your head on fire and no one can see the flames.”

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149. “It is easy to mourn the lives we aren’t living. Easy to wish we’d developed other talents, said yes to different offers. Easy to wish we’d worked harder, loved better, handled our finances more astutely, been more popular, stayed in the band, gone to Australia, said yes to the coffee or done more bloody yoga.”

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150. “You’re overthinking it.’ ‘I have anxiety. I have no other type of thinking available.”

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