Top 380 Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (2025 Update)
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101. “There are two emotions: love and fear.”

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102. “Stuff your feelings because feelings buried alive don’t die. And that fear or that upset or that anger or that whatever it is, it’ll turn into something inside of you. So you want to get it out.”

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103. “What will support any relationship is clear, complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur.”

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104. “Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU.”

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105. “In my mind, marriage is a spiritual partnership and union in which we willingly give and receive love, create and share intimacy, and open ourselves to be available and accessible to another human being in order to heal, learn and grow.”

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106. “In speaking the truth of your experience to another, it will serve you well to realize that how they choose to respond is not your responsibility.”

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107. “If you want peace, be peace. If you want wealth, be wealth. Think it. Talk it. Prepare yourself to have it. Have faith enough to seek guidance and authority from within.”

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108. “Choice is our point of power.”

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109. “Love is the voice of God whispering to you from within yourself.”

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110. “No whining, no complaining about anyone. Everybody in your life has come to teach you lessons.”

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111. “Tell the truth about who you are, what you feel, what you want, what you’re up to. Tell the truth about that first to yourself and then to anybody else that’ll listen.”

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112. “No matter how painful your past has been, you have made it through.”

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113. “Be aware that who you are and what you have to offer can be a beacon to some lost soul.”

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114. “Sitting alone, listening to the sound of your breath, the beating of your heart is a reminder that you are sacred and blessed.”

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115. “Yesterday, I cried. I came home, went straight to my room, sat on the edge of my bed, kicked off my shoes, unhooked my bra, and I had myself a good cry.”

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116. “Who you are is strong enough to bare your pain.”

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117. “Acceptance means that you know, regardless of what happened, that there is something bigger than you at work. It also means you know that you are okay and that you will continue to be okay.”

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118. “We think we have to do something to be grateful or something has to be done in order for us to be grateful, when gratitude is a state of being.”

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119. “In all relationships, regardless of their nature, there comes that moment when you understand that there are some things you will never understand. When you are standing in that moment, just be right with it.”

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120. “Until you are willing to accept total and complete responsibility for every aspect of your life, your life will keep sending you experiences designed to get your attention.”

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121. “Remain open. There is something bigger than you know going on here.”

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122. “Authenticity means that you must do what you do the way you do it and allow everyone else the same courtesy.”

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123. “Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt.”

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124. “Price writes that money is a function of My Own Natural Energy Yield. In essence, whatever we hold in our minds and hearts will either enhance or obstruct our ability to receive – not just money but all that we desire.”

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125. “One of the ways that people avoid taking responsibility for their role in their own pain is what I call the BPs – blame and projection.”

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126. “I’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lived it and I’m still here to talk about it and help someone else if I can.”

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127. “When you can look a thing dead in the eye, acknowledge that it exists, call it exactly what it is, and decide what role it will take in your life then, my Beloved, you have taken the first step toward your freedom.”

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128. “Each of us was born to fulfill a divine purpose. As we open our hearts and minds to a new way of being, the purpose of our lives unfolds organically.”

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129. “One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is he hasn’t completed being a boy.”

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130. “What looks like a failure teaches us what not to do, what does not work. We have lessons to learn from our experiences.”

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131. “You must be willing to give total unconditional love to everyone, under all circumstances. That means being willing to be totally responsible for what you do and how you do it.”

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132. “More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.”

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133. “The thing I always tell my audiences all the time is that I’m just two steps ahead of you on a good day. And I might be two steps behind you on a bad day.”

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134. “If you don’t have a test, you won’t be able to have a testimony.”

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135. “Pain is pain, hurt is hurt, fear is fear, anger is anger, and it has no color.”

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136. “Everything God does is purposeful. And since God is in each of us, each of us has a purpose.”

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137. “When we pray, it opens our minds to the divine consciousness of God. Prayer opens your mind to answers that have always been present.”

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138. “I’m focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal – giving them tools to heal.”

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139. “I let go of the past and choose to accept every situation as being for me and not against me.”

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140. “Everybody does not have to like you. That is not their job. Liking you is not anyone’s purpose in life except yours.”

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141. “A change of perspective may be all it takes to transform a painful experience into a powerful growth experience.”

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142. “People may not like what you do, people may not like how you do it, but these people are not living your life. You are!”

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143. “Stop chasing things that are beneath the truth of who you are. Stop holding on to things and people that weigh you down. Stop behaving in ways that don’t honor the divinity and nobility within you.”

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144. “The voice I had accepted as Divine Guidance was actually the voice of my ego leading me right into destruction.”

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145. “If you don’t have a vision you’re going to be stuck in what you know. And the only thing you know is what you’ve already seen. But a vision that grows inside of you, a vision that wakes with you, sleeps with you, moves with you, a vision that you can tap into on your worst, worst, worst day, the vision will pull you forward.”

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146. “Be willing to share all of who you are. So many of us want a partner, but we’re not willing to show all of us.”

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147. “The good news is that when you have something to do, life will not allow you to move forward until you do it. The bad news is the same.”

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148. “You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.”

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149. “To me, freedom means having the power, the inherent right, the capacity and the ability to make choices that honour who I am.”

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150. “Beloveds, you are fine, just the way you are! Perfect in your imperfection! You are divine! Growing brighter and more brilliant each day, you can accept the truth of who you are.”

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