Top 380 Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (2025 Update)
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251. “The greatest gift of surrender was that it helped me to realize that it is arrogant of me not to forgive myself when God forgives me.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

252. “When was the last time you thanked you for always being there for you? Self appreciation soothes an aching soul.”

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253. “What keeps us from achieving our heart’s desires is not anything outside of us, it’s the conflict inside.”

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254. “Truth is love’s mother, and we all know it is not wise to lie to anyone’s mother.”

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255. “Why can’t women get along? Because we’re afraid. We’re afraid to be vulnerable. We’re afraid to be soft. We’re afraid to be hurt. But most of all, we’re afraid of our power. So we become controlling and aggressive and vicious.”

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256. “The way you get more is by having a daily spiritual practice.”

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257. “No matter what, “I forgive everyone for everything!”

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258. “Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.”

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259. “I really don’t have any weaknesses. I do have areas of my life that I am working on to grow, heal and evolve. Giving myself permission to rest is an area I am working on. Not rescuing my children and grandchildren is another area.”

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260. “The life you want is on the other side of the labor pains it takes to birth it.”

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261. “I believe that the only thing that will dispel the darkness is for the light to come on. And the lights are coming on. Here, there. People are eating more vegetables, living green, taking in and saving animals. All of that is the light coming on.”

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262. “Self-trust is about having an inner voice, being connected to that inner voice, learning how to hear and follow that voice, and doing the personal healing work required to make sure that the voice you hear brings your best interests to the forefront of your mind. Connecting.”

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263. “When we have distorted and painful images of men and masculinity, more often than not we find ourselves in dysfunctional relationships with all forms of power and authority.”

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264. “Everybody’s got a ‘thing.’ Some ‘things’ are nice and quiet. Some ‘things’ have fangs and claws. Some ‘things’ stink and have slobber everywhere.”

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265. “A man can’t be in the space where there is feminine rage and bitterness. He doesn’t know how to navigate it.”

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266. “I now realize that just because you can take a punch does not mean you must stand in front of a fist, particularly not when the fist is your own.”

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267. “We’ve got to learn how to trust ourselves and dare to acknowledge what we really feel. We’ve got to learn how to trust that God is in the mix and that we are a part of God. We’ve got to learn how to trust each other to do the right thing because it’s the right thing. We’ve got to learn how to trust in the process of life and surrender our inflated human egos. Because.”

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268. “I prefer a church which is bruised, hurting, and dirty because it has been out on the streets, rather than a church which is unhealthy from being confined and from clinging to its own security.” The.”

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269. “Relieving pain, like building trust, is an inside job. It is only when you have been broken down mentally, emotionally, or spiritually and choose to stand up and keep moving that you can know the true meaning and value of trust. Trust is a function of choice. Trust grows in hearts that have often been broken open by pain. Trust can unfold in response to devastation, disappointment, and, more often than not, a depth of dysfunction that threatens the human soul. But.”

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270. “You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself.”

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271. “In the process of planning and having a wedding, I forgot there would actually be a marriage, a union of minds, bodies, souls, and issues that would come together as soon as the ceremony was over.”

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272. “Work is not just about getting paid what you’re worth. It is about using your gifts, sharing the best of who you are, and using what brings you joy to make someone else’s life better.” Never in my life had I heard anything like that. At the time, it sounded crazy.”

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273. “In 2002, my daughter was diagnosed with a rare form of colon cancer. And it was such a shock, a surprise to us.”

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274. “So many of us invest a fortune making ourselves look good to the world, yet inside we are falling apart. It’s time to invest on the inside.”

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275. “I’m really not that fierce.”

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276. “It is impossible to pretend that you are not heir to, and therefore, however inadequately or unwillingly, responsible to, and for, the time and place that give you life. – James Baldwin.”

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277. “People are hurting. People are suffering. But you can not get everywhere.”

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278. “It’s about your heart and about your consciousness. It’s not about length of time you pray. Some of the most powerful prayers I’ve ever heard come from children, who can barely speak.”

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279. “You cannot get to where you are going until you have learned all there is to learn about where you are.”

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280. “One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.”

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281. “Oprah Winfrey gives you the stage? Shut your mouth. I said, ‘I’m sorry for taking over your show.’ She said, ‘No, that’s why we have you here.’”

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282. “Begin within. If it shows up in your life, it’s coming to tell you something about you that you’re acting like you don’t know. Something about yourself, or your relationship with God.”

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283. “Let yourself remember and visualize the ways you have hurt others. See the pain you have caused out of your own fear and confusion. Feel your own sorrow and regret. Sense that finally you can release this burden and ask for forgiveness. Take as much time as you need to picture each memory that still burdens your heart.”

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284. “If you’re not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren’t really ready to share yourself.”

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285. “Everything is just as it needs to be. And if we would forgive, our minds and hearts would open and we could see another possibility.”

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286. “Once you commit to believing that you can trust yourself, your positive internal voice will eventually become louder than the negative external voices. Trusting what you hear – whether or not those around you agree with you – is a powerful and important step.”

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287. “Once we become aware of our issues and challenges, we become accountable to do something about it.”

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288. “Most of us know exactly what it is that creates the pain, confusion, stagnation and disruption in our lives. When we find something or someone creating in our lives that which we do not want, we must muster the courage and strength to stop it.”

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289. “You can’t just cry about the pain. You can’t just pray about the pain. You must eliminate the pain.”

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290. “As we learn to see each other through our spiritual eyes, the physical differences will cease to matter.”

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291. “Judgment is harsh and mean and meant to hurt, as if the pain of what we do or say will slap others into our way of believing.”

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292. “I think most people think that a spiritual path or growing spiritually means that all of a sudden you’ll be able to forecast the six lotto numbers and all your bills will be paid.”

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293. “I had to stop traveling alone because I missed so many planes. When somebody runs up to you in the airport and begins to tell you their life story, you can’t say, ‘Excuse me, boo,’ as they’re weeping on your bosom.”

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294. “Every choice you make supersedes and overrides every other choice you make.”

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295. “Thinking is the problem. Thinking is hazardous to your progress in life. Don’t think – feel.”

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296. “Had I not spent so much time doing something that made me so miserable, I would have never learned how to appreciate doing what brings me joy.”

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297. “Act the way you want to be and soon you will be the way you act.”

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298. “Once you become willing to let it all go, God will open a new space in your heart and rewire your brain to know, receive, and express love in healthy ways. I forgive myself for believing that what I made up about who they were is the truth I had to live with for years of my life.”

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299. “Many of us have a need to be right. We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong. We must get right with ourselves. Once we do, we will have so much to do, we will not have time to keep track of who is wrong.”

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300. “Forgiveness is not an easy chore to undertake, nor is it for the weak. I forgive you, God, for leaving me out here to figure out all of this on my own. Yet forgiveness is the daily minimum requirement for a healthy, fulfilling, and meaningful life. I forgive my mind for believing that what was is what always has to be.”

— Iyanla Vanzant