Top 380 Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (2023 Update)
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151. “I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay.”

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152. “Life doesn’t actually knock you down. It does, however, provide you with many opportunities to evaluate your standing in life: what you stand on, what you stand for, how you stand within yourself and for yourself.”

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153. “Our minds work like a garden. It is fertile ground that accepts any and everything we plant. Good or evil, constructive or destructive, our lives will bear the fruit of the seeds we plant in our minds.”

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154. “Pain is pain, hurt is hurt, fear is fear, anger is anger, and it has no color.”

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155. “More often than not, the things we detest and judge in others are a reflection of the things we cannot accept about ourselves.”

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156. “You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play.”

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157. “Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.”

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158. “Everyone is always looking for their beloved. Well, why can’t you be your own beloved? Fall in love with yourself.”

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159. “We must each learn to feel comfortable in our own uniqueness by rising above the fear of being wrong and the aversion to being different.”

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160. “Just give yourself permission to tell the truth to yourself.”

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161. “Instead of running from what you don’t want, walk with commitment toward what you desire. Focus on where you are going rather than being obsessed with where you have been.”

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162. “Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren’t...”

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163. “When you make a decision and a commitment to do something good for yourself, it is like dropping a pebble in a pond. It has a rippling effect. The firmer the decision, the stronger the frequency and wider the range of things that will be reached.”

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164. “When we want to move beyond the pain, when we want to feel better, when we are ready to move beyond where we are, emotionally and spiritually, we must forgive.”

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165. “The bottom line intention of Trust is this: You must commit to building your trust muscles on a daily basis through spiritual practice. Because trust is an inner process, the development and deepening of trust can happen only within you. That is why a consistent spiritual practice is so critical. It is the means by which you can reach the point within yourself where you know and accept that no matter what happens, you will be okay. You.”

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166. “When you refuse to pay attention to what life is saying to you, life will make its point very clear. Life wants us to be aware of ourselves so we can make the necessary adjustments in order to live more harmoniously.”

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167. “Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life.”

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168. “Stop chasing things that are beneath the truth of who you are. Stop holding on to things and people that weigh you down. Stop behaving in ways that don’t honor the divinity and nobility within you.”

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169. “If you want a real experience of serenity, look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.”

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170. “I see a couple of things missing. Any society, any community, even in the family, when the elders don’t do their jobs, the youth suffer. We have no done our job. I’m saying anybody 55 and up. We didn’t teach people the basic things.”

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171. “Each person represents a microcosm of the world in which we live – where anger and fear, confusion and isolation, lack of faith and a wanton disregard for the divine process of life causes people to act against their true nature. Since our true nature is to be trusting, every small violation of individual trust creates a ripple effect that ultimately impacts the entire world in which we live. That’s how important we are as individuals, and that’s how powerful trust is in our lives.”

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172. “The only thing that goes on in your life is what your allow to go on in your life.”

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173. “When you are starting your life over, with a new sense of self, who you once were is going to challenge you. Who you once were is going to dangle old carrots, old wounds and issues, in front of your face. When that happens, you will be tempted to revert to old feelings, old patterns of thought, and old patterns of behavior.”

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174. “You are not being tested! You are being fortified! Remember, you cannot fail!”

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175. “The key to success is not what you do, it is how you feel about what you are doing.”

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176. “It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.”

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177. “Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable. – Maya Angelou.”

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178. “Some of us pray demands. Some of us pray complaints. Some of us pray knowing, and some of us pray not knowing. But prayer is the attitude that you hold in your heart.”

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179. “Honor your own Self. Meditate on your own Self. Worship your own Self. Kneel to your own Self. Understand your own Self. Your God dwells within you as you.”

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180. “A change of perspective may be all it takes to transform a painful experience into a powerful growth experience.”

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181. “We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.”

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182. “Acknowledgemen t of what you feel, what you know, what you need is the first step toward healing.”

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183. “If you want to be at peace, you have to be clear about your intetion and – moment by moment – in alignment with your intention.”

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184. “Wherever your gift is, that’s where it’s going to be your greatest challenge.”

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185. “If you don’t have a vision you’re going to be stuck in what you know. And the only thing you know is what you’ve already seen. But a vision that grows inside of you, a vision that wakes with you, sleeps with you, moves with you, a vision that you can tap into on your worst, worst, worst day, the vision will pull you forward.”

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186. “Breathing deeply and releasing fear will help you get to where you want to be.”

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187. “It has set me free from the prison of my mind that caused me to judge others and myself.”

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188. “The good news is that when you have something to do, life will not allow you to move forward until you do it. The bad news is the same.”

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189. “You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours.”

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190. “I now understand that our life experiences come forth from our souls and that nothing really happens to us; it all happens for our benefit.”

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191. “Comparison is an act of violence against the self. It also leads to judgments and jealousy of those we deem “better off” than we are. If we aren’t the ones doing the comparing, then we’re the ones against whom other women measure themselves. In either case, the comparison, judgments, and jealousy can lead to ugly behavior.”

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192. “Beloveds, you are fine, just the way you are! Perfect in your imperfection! You are divine! Growing brighter and more brilliant each day, you can accept the truth of who you are.”

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193. “If you don’t like your sister or don’t get along with your father, let’s find out if you like yourself. Let’s not sugarcoat anything about it.”

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194. “Live your life in PEACE, not in PIECES...”

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195. “I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.”

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196. “Embrace the truth. Speak the truth. Be the truth. When we welcome the truth, we live our lives like it’s golden.”

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197. “The show is ‘Fix My Life!’ Get it? Life. I do not fix people.”

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198. “You are demonstrating to men that they can come back and get their kids. All of those fatherless sons and daddy-less daughters and the men who didn’t know how to go back, you are demonstrating to the world that they can.”

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199. “You are never angry for the reason you think you are. There’s an older hurt under that.”

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200. “You must be willing to examine and explore your dark side. You must acknowledge how bad you can be and how horribly unloving you can behave. When you know how deep and dark your dark side is, it helps you stand a little taller in the light.”

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