Top 380 Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (2025 Update)
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151. “Never underestimate the ruthlessness of the ego to keep you in a state of suffering in which you voluntarily participate.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

152. “You know why the road curves as you’re driving along? It curves because if God showed us the distance from where we are to where we’re going, we’d think it was too far.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

153. “It is not your duty or responsibility to change the minds of other people. The nature of their thinking is advanced or limited by their experience. In your presence, they have an opportunity to learn about you and, perhaps, to grow.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

154. “Your eyes will adjust to the level of deficiency.”

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155. “When we have peace in our hearts and minds, we draw peace into our lives.”

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156. “Without the a test you don’t have a testimony.”

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157. “Never judge your clarity based on someone else’s response.”

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158. “To forgive your mother opens and heals your heart.”

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159. “Life gives you an endless supply of do-overs.”

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160. “Life doesn’t actually knock you down. It does, however, provide you with many opportunities to evaluate your standing in life: what you stand on, what you stand for, how you stand within yourself and for yourself.”

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161. “Listen for the instruction, instead of begging for the direction.”

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162. “Our minds work like a garden. It is fertile ground that accepts any and everything we plant. Good or evil, constructive or destructive, our lives will bear the fruit of the seeds we plant in our minds.”

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163. “Everything you have done and been through is valuable and important. In order to be who you are, to know what you know, to be where you are in this moment, you needed to go through what you went through.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

164. “Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact, why not make it a habit!”

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165. “You do not have to love what is going on in your life, but you must accept that it, whatever it is, is going on. As long as you do not accept reality, you are powerless to define the role you will play.”

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166. “All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain.”

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167. “Instead of running from what you don’t want, walk with commitment toward what you desire. Focus on where you are going rather than being obsessed with where you have been.”

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168. “When you are starting your life over, with a new sense of self, who you once were is going to challenge you. Who you once were is going to dangle old carrots, old wounds and issues, in front of your face. When that happens, you will be tempted to revert to old feelings, old patterns of thought, and old patterns of behavior.”

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169. “We must each learn to feel comfortable in our own uniqueness by rising above the fear of being wrong and the aversion to being different.”

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170. “Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.”

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171. “Everyone is always looking for their beloved. Well, why can’t you be your own beloved? Fall in love with yourself.”

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172. “When you refuse to pay attention to what life is saying to you, life will make its point very clear. Life wants us to be aware of ourselves so we can make the necessary adjustments in order to live more harmoniously.”

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173. “Before you find out who you are, you have to figure out who you aren’t...”

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174. “When you make a decision and a commitment to do something good for yourself, it is like dropping a pebble in a pond. It has a rippling effect. The firmer the decision, the stronger the frequency and wider the range of things that will be reached.”

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175. “The bottom line intention of Trust is this: You must commit to building your trust muscles on a daily basis through spiritual practice. Because trust is an inner process, the development and deepening of trust can happen only within you. That is why a consistent spiritual practice is so critical. It is the means by which you can reach the point within yourself where you know and accept that no matter what happens, you will be okay. You.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

176. “Just give yourself permission to tell the truth to yourself.”

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177. “Forgiveness is not forgetting; it is simply denying your pain the right to control your life.”

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178. “The heart and the spirit also shed. They shed the emotions and experiences that we no longer need. They shed the things that stunt our growth. This, too, is an invisible process. Yet because of the energy involved, the emotional energy, we often feel the emotional and spiritual shedding. It feels as if we are dying. We are. Just like the flowers and the trees, we are dying to an old identity. This shedding, or death, is not the end of us. It is the beginning.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

179. “When we want to move beyond the pain, when we want to feel better, when we are ready to move beyond where we are, emotionally and spiritually, we must forgive.”

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180. “You are not being tested! You are being fortified! Remember, you cannot fail!”

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181. “Your interests will guide you. Give no concern to what they say you cannot do. Be willing to accept the challenge. Take time to retreat to that quiet place within the pit of your soul and unleash your right to decide what is best for you.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

182. “The only thing that goes on in your life is what your allow to go on in your life.”

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183. “I see a couple of things missing. Any society, any community, even in the family, when the elders don’t do their jobs, the youth suffer. We have no done our job. I’m saying anybody 55 and up. We didn’t teach people the basic things.”

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184. “If you want a real experience of serenity, look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.”

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185. “Each person represents a microcosm of the world in which we live – where anger and fear, confusion and isolation, lack of faith and a wanton disregard for the divine process of life causes people to act against their true nature. Since our true nature is to be trusting, every small violation of individual trust creates a ripple effect that ultimately impacts the entire world in which we live. That’s how important we are as individuals, and that’s how powerful trust is in our lives.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

186. “It is not what you hear, it is where you listen from within yourself that gives meaning to the message.”

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187. “Anything that threatens, hinders, obstructs, denies, delays your capacity to stand fully up for yourself, within yourself, take it down.”

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188. “Every day is your day if you claim it. If you wait for somebody else to make it for you, you’re going to be disappointed.”

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189. “The key to success is not what you do, it is how you feel about what you are doing.”

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190. “Wherever your gift is, that’s where it’s going to be your greatest challenge.”

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191. “You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours.”

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192. “Honor your own Self. Meditate on your own Self. Worship your own Self. Kneel to your own Self. Understand your own Self. Your God dwells within you as you.”

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193. “We all want to be liked, loved, or needed. That is fine. What is not fine is what we are willing to do to make sure we are liked, or loved or needed. When we make the needs and wants of others a priority in our lives, we devalue ourselves.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

194. “When you spend more time being angry, hurt, and upset about what happened, you pretty much barricade the door of what is possible.”

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195. “Breathing deeply and releasing fear will help you get to where you want to be.”

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196. “Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable. – Maya Angelou.”

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197. “Some of us pray demands. Some of us pray complaints. Some of us pray knowing, and some of us pray not knowing. But prayer is the attitude that you hold in your heart.”

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198. “If you want to be at peace, you have to be clear about your intetion and – moment by moment – in alignment with your intention.”

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199. “Acknowledgemen t of what you feel, what you know, what you need is the first step toward healing.”

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200. “It has set me free from the prison of my mind that caused me to judge others and myself.”

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