Top 380 Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (2023 Update)
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201. “Choice is a divine teacher, for when we choose we learn that nothing is ever put in our path without a reason.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

202. “When you continue to give without receiving, the only thing you are proving is that you know how to be taken advantage of.”

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203. “You know that you’ve healed an issue when you can talk about it and you’re not weeping, when you can speak to it and identify the lesson. You know that you’ve healed an issue when, having gone through that, has a benefit that you live today.”

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204. “This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face – learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.”

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205. “I came from nothing. I came from the projects and welfare and ended up a millionaire with no frame of reference. I was bound to hit a wall sooner or later.”

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206. “What is it that would make a creature as fierce, majestic and powerful as a lion is, subject itself to the intimidation of a man a whip and a chair? The lion has been taught to forget what it is.”

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207. “Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless, third-party conversation to someone about someone, something you haven’t said to that someone.”

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208. “The beloved is one who nurtures you, trusts you, supports you, encourages you, loves you without conditions. That’s you.”

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209. “Abundance is a direct reflection of your preparation to live abundantly. People who are ready for abundance keep their heads up, their eyes open and give thanks for everything they get.”

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210. “Talk about your negative experiences with the father, with your girlfriends. Not with your children. And bite your tongue when it comes to diminishing, denying, dismissing, name-calling.”

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211. “Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact, why not make it a habit!”

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212. “Everything you have done and been through is valuable and important. In order to be who you are, to know what you know, to be where you are in this moment, you needed to go through what you went through.”

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213. “Forgive yourself for believing that youre anything less than beautiful.”

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214. “When you gossip, it’s self-hexing. Because when you do it, it comes back to you. Everything starts with the word. The word is demonstrating a condition of the mind. If it’s in your mind and comes out of your mouth, it will be created.”

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215. “To forgive your mother opens and heals your heart.”

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216. “Till your mental soil with determination. Fertilize your emotional soil with positive words. And plant the seed of your heart’s desire with your disciplined efforts.”

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217. “We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem.”

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218. “Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape.”

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219. “When someone entrusts their heart to you they are giving you a piece of their soul. You cannot treat the soul casually. You must protect, nurture and handle it with care.”

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220. “Spirituality is not about what you know. It is about growing, deepening, evolving and becoming a living reflection of your spiritual identity.”

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221. “Until you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.”

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222. “When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. If you try to hold on to something that has already fulfilled its purpose in your life, you are going to hurt yourself. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let go. Surrender all attachments to people and things that you have been struggling to hold on to.”

— Iyanla Vanzant

223. “I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface.”

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224. “Some children do what they’re told to do; some children do what they’re told not to do; all children do what they’re parents have done.”

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225. “You’re never healing the level you’re on. You’re always healing the level you came from. For example, you know things today that you didn’t know in your first marriage.”

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226. “My father never kissed me, hugged me or told me that he loved me. As my only living parent, he became the filter through which I saw myself, the possibilities for my life, the world and all men. He was a conflicted and dark filter.”

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227. “When do you feel most loved? Are you willing to be loved today? Self-love is the magnet that attracts deep and profound expressions of love from others.”

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228. “Healing is the application of love.”

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229. “I have a daily message, ‘Stimumail,’ which I use to stimulate the mind and heart. I have the opportunity to touch over 60,000 people I have never met. I also use Twitter and Facebook.”

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230. “Father, let me remember You are here, surrounding me with Your everlasting Love, perfect peace, and joy. I pivot my attention to the natural dwelling place of my mind, my natural awareness. These are the thoughts that move and keep my mind safe in You, free of the ego’s ideas that hurt me. Let me remember You are here, and I am not alone.”

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231. “If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.”

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232. “All relationships have the same basic components: people, needs, and expectations.”

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233. “The only energy that has any power in your life is the gift of breath from God.”

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234. “Sooner or later, we must all accept the fact that in a relationship, the only person you are dealing with is yourself.”

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235. “Unfortunately, it is normal to get stuck on the heartbreak, and in doing so miss the lessons.”

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236. “Everything we experience-no matter how unpleasant-comes into our lives to teach us something.”

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237. “We must learn not to give up when requirements are not met or when commitments are broken. To do so is a refusal to allow mistakes to be corrected and a demonstration of an unwillingness to forgive yourself or anyone else who needs forgiveness.”

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238. “The way you get more is by having a daily spiritual practice.”

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239. “All of us have ways in which we mask and cover our pain.”

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240. “Why can’t women get along? Because we’re afraid. We’re afraid to be vulnerable. We’re afraid to be soft. We’re afraid to be hurt. But most of all, we’re afraid of our power. So we become controlling and aggressive and vicious.”

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241. “Faith without challenge is nothing.”

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242. “You’re demonstrating a courage that most people can’t even fathom: giving it all away in order to have yourself.”

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243. “Truth is love’s mother, and we all know it is not wise to lie to anyone’s mother.”

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244. “Regardless of how hard, challenging, frightening, or difficult an experience may seem, everything is just as it needs to be in order for us to heal, grow, and learn.”

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245. “When was the last time you thanked you for always being there for you? Self appreciation soothes an aching soul.”

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246. “The heart and the spirit also shed. They shed the emotions and experiences that we no longer need. They shed the things that stunt our growth. This, too, is an invisible process. Yet because of the energy involved, the emotional energy, we often feel the emotional and spiritual shedding. It feels as if we are dying. We are. Just like the flowers and the trees, we are dying to an old identity. This shedding, or death, is not the end of us. It is the beginning.”

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247. “A man can’t be in the space where there is feminine rage and bitterness. He doesn’t know how to navigate it.”

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248. “We’ve got to learn how to trust ourselves and dare to acknowledge what we really feel. We’ve got to learn how to trust that God is in the mix and that we are a part of God. We’ve got to learn how to trust each other to do the right thing because it’s the right thing. We’ve got to learn how to trust in the process of life and surrender our inflated human egos. Because.”

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249. “Your interests will guide you. Give no concern to what they say you cannot do. Be willing to accept the challenge. Take time to retreat to that quiet place within the pit of your soul and unleash your right to decide what is best for you.”

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250. “Fear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.”

— Iyanla Vanzant